Post # 1
**Please realize that if someone took the time to buy me a gift I am thankful that they took the time and effort, and I’m am honoured that they have done so… blah blah blah**
Ayone else have people in their lives that just kind of suck at giving gifts? Does DH get great gifts from his family and you get….. no so great ones?
Tell me about it!!
DH just comes from a family of crummy gift givers. His parents always get him great things that he loves and are just for him, and I get…. other stuff. For his birthday he got these great hunting overalls that he had really been wanting. I got a set of dishes and a floor mat. I’ve never expressed interest in new dishes or a floor mat. For Christmas DH got a fancey new handgun that he had been eyeing…. I got a garbage can.
DH is the same way. One year for Christmas he got me a wine kit, which I though was cool. I like wine. It was a ton of effort and everytime anyone came over DH was offering up my wine and seding people home with bottles, not that I mind sharing, but I thought this was my gift. For my birthday, he got me two wine kits! For the following Christmas… guess what I got?? A wine kit!!!
I realize this makes me sound ungreatful, and I don’t mean to be. This post is just for fun, please don’t lecture me.
Let me know about some of the stuff you’ve recieved over the years that just made you go WTF??
Post # 4
@aliavenue: okay….. why? lmao!
Post # 5
@PoppyH: Wine kits, huh?? That seems strange for him to not realize that you don’t need eighteen wine kits.lol… My FI is pretty great with gifts. However, my parents… Ehhhssshhh… I once got towels. I was like 19. Towels. Now I get gift cards to the grocery store. Not the most thoughtful, but at least it’s practical! : )
Post # 6
@aliavenue: Bahahahahahahaha! Getting me chickens (or goats) is something my FI jokes about. Too funny!
Post # 7
FI’s parents are horrible gift givers. They came up to visit last month and we visited a local store with many, many cute things. They bought FI a book that details all the weird crap in our state and told us to put it in our bathroom. a) I think bathroom readers are incredibly tacky, Fi’s parents have a whole basket in their house b) We don’t have any bathroom readers! FI had a stack of (without exaggeration) almost 20 when we met and has since gotten rid of every, last one of them. So now we have this $50 book just sitting in the house — it just breaks my heart because there were so many awesome things we saw — and they were like…no, you need this book. For your bathroom.
At least your DH’s parents sound like they may get better about it with you as the years go on. Maybe?
Post # 8
@PoppyH: I have no idea. My husband’s family is….unique. We live in the city – just to be clear.
Post # 9
@aliavenue: I think I love his face most… Like the biting if the lip and the face that says “how do I pretend to be thankful for this” look.
Post # 10
My grandparents always give me stuff that’s kind of useful, but not really something I want. Last year they gave me an emergency kit for my car. Ok, that’s useful. But they also gave me this weird koala thing that moves and makes noise. I was 22. Not really big into stuffed animals anymore. They also like to give me typical grandparent things like socks and underwear.
Post # 11
FI is not so great at gift giving. This year I explicitly told him what I want and sent him a link to it online…twice. My birthday is two weeks from today so we’ll see how he did soon. Past birthdays and Christmases have featured odd gifts such as a 3 foot stuffed dragon which was subsequently named Herman and a robotic stuffed cat that imitated a sleeping cat. He thought that I would like it because I can’t have a real cat due to allergies. I much prefer my kitty analogues aka my guinea pigs one of whom is currently trying to eat my pants 😛
After the first few years of failures he just started asking me what I want and has been doing much better. Last year he surprised me by remembering that I mentioned wanting a mortar and pestle over two years ago. He ruined his own surprise though because he had to ask me where to buy one after my mom’s suggestion panned out.
Post # 12
My FI is the same way. One year (which, by the way, was a year I thought he was going to propose for Christmas because his sister kept talking about how excited I would be for my present and how she’d seen it and loved it) he bought me a stack of those weird holiday candies in the gradually smaller decorative tins. In the biggest box, there was a pretty picture frame …. with his sister’s school photo in it. Hence why she kept saying she was excited for me to get the present. Face palm.
That year I had spent almost $200 on him to buy him new snowboarding pants and a video game he really wanted. To be fair, our first Christmas together I bought him a calendar that I thought he would like. It was like a zombie apocalypse survival tip calendar. We were also in high school. He still makes fun of the fact that I bought him a calendar for Christmas, but you bet your butt I wouldn’t ever mock him for buying me freakin’ candy tins. And by the way, the candy was GROSS.
Now he always just takes me shopping and buys me whatever I want. That’s nice and all, and I mean it’s a way that I get what I want, but I feel like it’s so awkward especially since he hates shopping. I just want a GIFT 🙁
Post # 13
My MIL. It’s not that I mind the crappy gifts because it truly is the thought that counts, but she buys so many of them! Give me one crappy gift, not 12! And it’s always seasonal stuff too, so I can’t put it to use outside of Christmas.
Post # 14
I’m pretty lucky, SO is a really good gift giver. For our most recent anniversary he bought me three gold bands (one yellow gold, one white gold and one rose gold) and had all three engraved; for my Birthday he bought me a light creamy pink, leather jewellery box.
I know not all SO’s/DH’s are good gift givers: my SO was telling me yesterday about how his boss bought his wife a set of jumper leads for her Birthday because he needed some.
Post # 15
My stepmom–love her, but she is one of those people who just buys random crap when it’s on sale and then figures out who to give it to later. So for Christmas they ususally give me 1 nice thing that I want/requested, and then several items that are literally just random crap she got on sale–clothes I would never wear or that don’t fit, random kitchen items, basically nothing that is in any way selected for me, just junk, haha. Oh well.
Post # 16
My dad is a terrible gift giver. TERRIBLE. I know he means well and he really does try but it’s usually really, really bad. Thankfully, he’s accepted it and now takes us shopping to find our own Christmas gift (that he later wraps with too little wrapping paper and way too much tape – its the thought that counts).
His mother, my grandmother, is also an atrocious gift giver but that’s because she’s too narcissistic to think about someone else long enough to get them something and ends up just wrapping up something from her house.