Post # 1
I’m not quite engaged yet, but I know he’s bought the ring and some people are in on the secret. Lately, though, I’ve been having some very upsetting dreams- now, with all of my relationships, I’ve had lots of nightmares about them running off with someone else, etc, but I haven’t had any until recently (we’ve been together over a year now) that weren’t just his dream self being a jerk.
Now, my guy is perfect for me. I have no reason to feel insecure or think he’s going to leave me, because he constantly tells me how wonderful I am, how perfect I am for him, etc. But these dreams are just plain terrible.
Last night’s was about us just walking along with his brother and father. Now, my boy likes to build and fix vintage cars, and these three girls (in their underwear, for some reason) pass us on the road, each in a different vintage vehicle, and the cars are making terrible noises. My boy calls out to them, because he knows what’s wrong and how to fix it, and they stop and have a conversation. Next thing I know, we’re in the backseat of one of the cars, my boy has one of the underwear wearing girls on his lap, and they’re talking and cuddling away, and he’s even sharing a cigarette with her! (he doesn’t even smoke at all in real life). He ignores me and my upset looks the whole way there, and they completely hit it off, and then I wake up very upset. Mostly because he’s on duty today and can’t really comfort me in person, but these dreams usually occur right after he’s left for work in the morning on the days that I don’t have to get up right after him. Boo.
Anyway, has anyone else had crazy SO related dreams? Maybe mine is just so nice in real life that my mind is trying to make up for it by making his dream self a jerk, haha.
Post # 3
I used to but haven’t in a while. I’m 100% secure about our relationship and trust him 200% but for some reason, I would have the same dream where he would break up with me for another woman. I would be crying and crying in my dream and at times cry out (in my sleep) to the point where I would wake myself up.
There was even one where he told me he was breaking up with me to be with Brenda Oscar from Baltimore. I woke up from my dream crying, went downstairs to find him and asked him who she was! LOL. And I told him the entire dream upon which he begins laughing at me. We completely joke about it now but believe you me, I was all over google with the name Brenda Oscar from Baltimore the next day. LOL…there’s no one.
But he also tells me he has the same dreams about me being with another man, etc.
The mind is just odd during dreamtime.
Post # 4
I used to have crazy dreams where my SO was terribly mean to me. I would always wake up so confused because my man is the nicest guy you’ll ever meet. That all went away after we got engaged/married. I chalk it up to my crazy subconcious.
Post # 5
I totally have wonk-tastic dreams about my partner all the time, where he is basically a completely different person wearing my SO’s skin (in that in my subconscious he turns into a giant douche who is a completely insensitive man-whore).
Though the dreams can be upsetting I generally chalk it up to the fact that I have self-esteem issues, not security issues. I try and shrug it off as best I can when I wake up by reminding myself of how awesome my partner really is, rather than dwelling on the insanity that is my subconscious (srsly, I dreamed about George W. the other night, I mean what is up with THAT? I must be crazy).
Post # 6
I have weird/bad dreams about my fiance on a semi-regular basis. I hear ya sister!
Post # 7
I think this is pretty normal…like kind of in line with walking down the aisle in your underwear type dreams.
Of course Freud would say that sub-consciously you fear that your bf may actually be that type of person and that his love of cars will essentially be an affair…of course I’m sure he’d also add in something about loving your father and being sexually attracted to your brother LOL
Post # 8
I have them about once every month. Usually he’s not actually cheating on me, but he’s being flirty with other girls, which so isn’t the way he behaves in the real world. I usually wake up semi-pissed at him, but he just finds it funny so it works out :).
Post # 9
I’m sorry you are having nightmares, and I hope they go away for you soon.
Anyway back when my FI and I started dating, I would have dreams that we were married and he would come home from work, and I baked him some cookies as a nice suprise, well he ended up killing me, because I made him the wrong kind of cookie. Haha it was weird, but seriously freaked me out for the longest time. When I told him about it, he said that doesn’t even make any sense because the cookies I made him in my dream are his favorite, haha, so I don’t know.
Post # 10
I’m glad I’m not the only one! I hope they go away soon too 🙂 Maybe once we’re engaged/married they’ll stop, they’ve just been something I’ve had with all of my boyfriends, haha. It’s just so strange that I have them with my guy because with all the other guys, I had reason to worry, but I completely trust my boyfriend and so it’s just strange I’m getting the dreams with him.
Post # 11
I had an awful dream the other night and woke up crying. (Lame, I know) In my dream, SO and I were helping a friend move into our apartment (our first apartment which we moved out of 4 years ago) and we went to Target to get razor blades. For whatever reason SO picks a fight with me in the store and takes off in a van (we don’t own one) and I walk along the beach (there are hover cars overhead). I get back to the apartment to talk to him about our argument and he says, “I can’t marry you.” That’s it.
The poor guy woke up to my wet, angry face and comforted me, but he couldn’t keep a straight face.
Post # 12
Thank you so much for posting this. It happens occasionally, and it’s all so unlike FH. This happened last night, and I woke up so mad at FH and was trying to cuddle to help me realize it was just a dream. Unfortunately, FH was exhausted and just went back to sleep. But yes, definitely happens. It doesn’t mean a thing, but it is irritating.
Post # 13
I have a ton of bad dreams about the FH, none of them about the way he treats me, but about something happening to him at work. He works a really dangerous job and I know he is safe and really good at his job, but the heights that he works at the very nature of the job is highly dangerous. I have almost nightly nightmare about him falling or something falling on him. I can’t wait until the day he retires and is out of daily danger. I actually have a calander that counts the days down. We are a little over 14 years and counting.
Post # 14
I haven’t had any recently, but when Mr. Radish and I first started dating I had these dreams on a pretty regular basis. The most common (we’re talking every two nights for three weeks type) was where I would catch him with a man, or he would come out to me, looking for support.
I’m really quite suprised he didn’t leave me; every time I had these dreams I’d demand to know if he was gay, and if he was, why he was wasting my time. Thankfully I have a wonderfully supportive SO, and I didn’t scare him off.
Post # 15
Weirdest one was this morning – he killed someone ala Dexter, dumped the body parts on the dining room carpet, and asked me to switch my laundry over because he really needed to wash the clothes he had on. I was pissed about him dumping bloody body parts on the carpet, and about him asking me to switch my laundry over before he cleaned up the bigger mess. But I switched over my laundry, ’cause I didn’t want the cops to catch him with bloodstained clothes. Yeah, that was odd.
Post # 16
Oh yeah, I’ve had tons of these bad dreams! Sometimes he’s cheating, sometimes he’s being really mean, sometimes he disappears without a word. Then I wake up crying and pissed off and tell him, “You were an a-hole in my dream! You were so mean to meeee!!!”
A few weeks ago we were watching a stand up comedy show where the comedian starts imitating his girlfriend who gets mad at him for stuff he did in her dreams. FI and I laughed our butts off!! I think it’s incredibly common to have dreams like these.