Anyone else have the wedding planned…before the proposal?

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: When did you start making major wedding decisions?
    After we were engaged : (16 votes)
    52 %
    Before we were engaged : (14 votes)
    45 %
    No formal engagement at all, just getting married works for us : (1 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    We had some details planned without being engaged. Honestly, I don’t think you need the ring to be engaged… you know you’re going to get married, and if you want a short engagement, why not get the head start?!

    Post # 4
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    772 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Honey, it sounds like you’re engaged to be married. Yay! The ring is just a symbol of the decision you’ve already made. 

    Post # 7
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    6812 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2014

    We definitely started the planning process months before I got a ring, but I didn’t book or finalize anything until about 9 months after I got the ring! I was planning for a YEAR before I finally bit the bullet and booked my venue.

    Post # 9
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    772 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @orchidblooms:  Tell him that! I’d consider booking a venue to be a bigger commitment toward marriage than buying a shiny rock anyway. 

    Post # 11
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    626 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Yes, Ours was a unique circumstance. FI is in the services, he was suppose to be here till Oct of next year, they came back and was like you’re moving early.

    So because of this and since we knew we wanted to get married we set out date and reserved the church and reception.

    It was a lil frustrating keeping it a secret but then after the proposal we let everyone know we’ve been planning this for at least 3 months. I didn’t do major planning till afterwards.

    Not my ideal situation but it works 🙂

    Post # 12
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    626 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Oh sorry forgot to add, I bought my wedding dress soon after that b/c of timing needed for dresses and wasn’t engaged, that was interesting telling oh hey ya not engaged haha.

    Our families all knew of this too and were supportive.

    Post # 13
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    6812 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @orchidblooms:  We finally did! And I think that if we had foudn it and been sure of our decision beforehand, we would have booked it even before the ‘official proposal’ and the ring. I actually started a similar thread.

    Post # 14
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    975 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014 - Banff, Alberta

    I had started researching and daydreaming a lot but never actually paid for anything until after the engagement but I pretty much now how everything is going to go already!

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