(Closed) Anyone else have this happen to their friendships? Just curious…

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
3059 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I think this is an unusual situation. Unless you chose people who are not really friends of yours then something must be going on. A falling out and then loss of 3 friends is very significant. Maybe you need to evaluate who you consider a friend. 

Post # 4
17 posts
  • Wedding: May 2013

That text is ridiculous. Even if she’s upset about the bm thing it seems really mean and vindictive. I’m sorry but good riddance if that is how she really feels about your marriage, she shouldn’t be standing with you anyway. 

Post # 5
2106 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

0.o what happened to get it to this point? No, I didn’t lose any friends or bms, although there was some drama with the shower. 

Post # 6
1583 posts
Bumble bee

@navywifenmoore:  while she was out of line for that text, have you considered you might be the problem? I mean losing one friend, ok, but 3? Perhaps the stress is getting to you and you havent noticed.

Maybe take some time to reassess things. If you were friends with these girls try to remember why, and then get back to that place (assuming it was healthy)

Post # 7
533 posts
Busy bee

Two sides to every story. How did this relationship explode like this? You haven’t just lost one but you’ve lost three. Soo more info I reckon. You don’t get to this with best friends over dress shopping. Or they just weren’t friends in the first place. 

Post # 8
7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

This doesn’t seem right. There is no reason for someone to send a text that mean. However, losing 3 friends usually says there’s something wrong with you, not them. 

Post # 9
733 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

She is jealous. Flat out. I had a Bridesmaid or Best Man react like that, drunk texting me  and she flat out admitted later she feels like getting left behind, that’s why she said it. 

Post # 10
3583 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Yep need more info. Spill it, bride!!

Eta, that text is still uncalled for either way. I’m ashamed FOR her.

Post # 11
252 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@navywifenmoore:  oooh that girl hates you.  I don’t know what went down, but there is definitely more to this story for her to go off on you like that. Damn.  Either way, it was pretty mean of her to send you that text but makes me wonder how good that friendship was to begin with

Post # 12
7904 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

Cannot judge without more information… what prompted this? 3 friends lost is suspicious.

Post # 13
11234 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

@mrsSonthebeach:  +1

I can’t imagine that she would just send you that text without anything else. One of my BMs was feeling left out of the process (she also lives on the other side of the country), and texted me, asking if I really wanted her in the wedding. We had a calm heart to heart and everything was okay.

Post # 14
4931 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Yeah, someone who would talk to you like that? You don’t need people like that in your life. 

Post # 15
2493 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Some people think the world revolves around them, and that life should have no consequences.

My ex-BFF since ’96 only had bad things to say about my (now) Darling Husband for years, especially after we separated back in ’10. She put down our relationship constantly, and wasn’t supportive in the slightest when we got back together. There were times when she’d say that we were destined to break up again, and that he’d only ever break my heart… yet, when we got re-engaged, she expected to be my Maid/Matron of Honor because of a silly, little ‘pact’ we made back in high school.

Really? REALLY?

Needless to say, she wasn’t chosen as Maid/Matron of Honor or even a bridesmaid, but she was given a STD and an invite. She, however, never RSVPed, and now 4 months after the wedding, STILL hasn’t said, “Congratulations!” Not one word.
She expects me to oooh and ahhh at every little thing her sons does, though… and, if I don’t, she puts up a passive-aggressive status on Facebook about ‘supposed’ friends, and how “it’s good to know who your true friends are!” SMDH.

Post # 16
11273 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

i am going to have to agree with the bees here.  that text was completely out of line.  however, there must have been more to this whole story.  you didn’t just lose 1 bm, you’ve lost 3. 

what’s the common denominator here?  you. 

they all must have taken your comment harshly and triggered their actions.

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