Post # 1
Ok, so just a little weird…I wake up this morning and check my blackberry, as I usually do, to delete any emails I get during the night that I don’t need – and I see a text from 12:11 a.m. from a number I don’t recognize saying “Hey how are you?” and so I texted back asking “who is this?”
I get a response and he says “This is ____ we went out a few times”…
I thought about it and was like – yeah, FOUR YEARS AGO! I remember him – we met on match.com – but again this was WAY before my husband and I even met!
So I responded, “hi, i’m good – I’m married now”…and he was nice and replied, “oh congrats” and that was it…
But my question is – WHY after four years does this guy still have my phone number in his phone?…
I remember, too, right after I moved in with my husband – I got a phone call and I THINK it might have been this same guy…and I told him, after he asked me how I was “yeah, I’m good, I just moved in with my boyfriend”…
Yeah – I don’t think this guy’s a threat or anything…but it’s just weird…why keep someone’s phone number like that when you only went out like twice?
Post # 3
Hmmm…I agree – that’s really bizarre!
Post # 4
You know, I think some guys are like that. I’ve had guys who had crushes on me in high school (who told me then) randomly contact me on Facebook a year or two since I had seen them and do the same thing, then drop off right away. Almost like they’re wondering what could have been?
Post # 5
That is strange. I delete people right away if I’m sure I won’t need their number again. But I also have friends who keep everyone’s number they’ve ever dialed. It’s odd and the friends that I’m thinking of are actually rather odd themselves. I think you dodged a bullet there, he’s probably a bit off.
Post # 6
weird. When Fiance and I started dating almost 4 years ago I had an ex that all of a sudden just had to talk to me. He would message me pictures of us that honestly I didn’t even know he had, it was creepy. He finally got the hint when I went all crazy on him saying I would get a restraining order. He finally deleted my number at that point too! We had only dated for about 1 month too.
Post # 7
I have a guy friend that never deleted numbers from his phone and when he would get bored would “catch up” with random first name contacts from the address book. He did that until he met his wife…then he wiped the entire address book clean. I agree it’s odd though…
Post # 8
That’s SO weird!! I haven’t had anything like that happen to me. Closest thing was my EX calling me over and over when I had just started my relationship with Fiance. Gosh, what a weirdo! He must be lonely!
Also, question for you: You say you’re married now but it says your wedding isn’t until June 2010? Are you just calling him your husband now since it’s getting close or did yall already get married?
Post # 9
I used to keep the numbers of a couple of nagging exes…not to call them…but so I would see the name and NOT answer when THEY called me…LOL! I did this until I changed my number about 3 and a half years ago. My Fiance still has a couple of women contacting him that he broke up with a couple of years before we even MET!!…and we have been together for over 3 years…LOL.
Post # 10
I have a guy who I on and off dated for like a year and a half (we were never serious) who still drunk dials me sometimes. It’s kind of funny because he knows the hubs as we all worked at the same place. It drives the hubs nuts, and I never respond to his messages (I don’t answer when I see it’s him, but usually I am still sleeping) or if I do I write on his facebook wall so the whole world knows he’s still drunk dialing me, lol.
Post # 11
Strange, he sounds desperate or maybe he just cant forget about you, haha
Post # 12
why is the number still in there? he is lazy and never removes numbers and/or having a thousand numbers makes him feel cool.
why did he call you after 4 years? no freakin clue.
Post # 13
I have a friend who has an ex call her on random occasions too. It only got a bit scary when he phoned her after not having seen her for 2 years and tried to convince her that she was the love of his life and tried to make her move to Australia with him! Since then she doesn’t answer texts or calls from numbers she doesn’t recognize.
Although I do have to say, because of my work, I never delete a phone number. I have old contacts in my phone but I never know when they’ll come in handy. Maybe he’s just got you on his ex-contact group in that way? So when he wants to call in a favour or a date he tries calling you? It’s weird though, I totally get that!
Post # 14
@Lees0438 – yes – my husband and I are “legal” and have been Since April 13…but only people on the Bee and another board I post to online know this. No one IRL (in real life) except for my parents, his mom, and our best friends (my Maid/Matron of Honor and her husband, who were at the legal ceremony) – oh yeah and our minister – know that we are legal.
He needed surgery and had no insurance, it was the only way to put him on immediately. 🙂
But yea…just wierd…I am the kind to occasionally purge my phone of old numbers – in fact I felt bad as a friend I haven’t seen in a long time – I saw him the other night with his wife (i went to their wedding…) and we were talking about getting together to go out – he asked if i still had his number and sadly no i did not – and I didn’t have my phone on me to GET it again…so i gave him mine 🙂
But yeah. I do NOT keep phone numbers in my phone if they’re not relevent to my life right now.
Post # 15
@June: Ohhh okay girl, I’m sorry…I didn’t know! That’s exciting! 🙂