- 7 years ago
Hello everyone! I need some advice and I figured I’d come to the girls here on Wedding Bee.
Now that it’s spring I love to go out on the weekends once in awhile and do stuff. Usually it’s free stuff or very cheap. Such as going to D.C. to check out the museums, going to the mall just to look, etc. But I have a boyfriend who just likes to chill on the weekends and do nothing and he makes up excuses as to why he would not like to go.
A few weeks ago I confronted him about this. I told him that missed going out and having fun and that sitting around the house most weekends was, well, boring. He agreed and said that we should get out of the house more and enjoy each other. I thought that was a great sign.
This weekend I really wanted to go to D.C. but then remembered that the Cherry Blossom Festival was going on and I’m not a crowd person so I decided to hold off on that. Well BF asked me if I would like to go to the aquarium in Baltimore sometime soon and I said yes. Then I suggested that we could go this Saturday. It seemed perfect and I was excited.
That’s when he hesitated and said maybe not this weekend because his money situation wasn’t so good. He still had to pay rent and bills and was afraid of spending so much money. While I understand he has to pay rent and stuff he’s not suffering by any means.
BF has about seven times more money in the bank than I do (I’ve seen his accounts, he isn’t afraid to show me). And the aquarium isn’t that expensive so I was a little upset that he said that. And it hasn’t been the first time he’s said that.
When we went out for dinner one night he said we couldn’t go anywhere too expensive because he had to watch his money. Like I’m going to spend thousands of dollars on one meal! He also goes into the grocery store and tries to not spend money because he doesn’t want to. He freaks out if his grocery bill is over $100.00!
So I didn’t say anything more about the aquarium but I had a feeling he knew I was a little upset. He said he was sorry and that he sounds cheap whenever he says stuff like that. Then he said, “I shouldn’t have bought those headphones!”
When we were at the mall last weekend and he bought $100.00 headphones. Now I wasn’t mad because this was his money and not mine or ours so I could care less. It just irks me that we can’t go out once in awhile and have a fun day and it doesn’t even have to be a place to spend money.
I’m so tired of talking to him about it because it’s become a moot point. Any advice is welcome! Sorry it’s so long and thanks for reading!