Anyone else have trouble with maid of honor?

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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3948 posts
Honey bee

Well first, regarding the hairstyle, just let it go. That is one of those details that honestly does not matter. Nobody is going to notice a bridesmaid hair-do and that is not a battle worth having.

As far as the dress, it does sound like she is just being difficult.

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@FutureMrsKenward:  Tell her next time she is being negative “While I appreciate your opinion, it’s my wedding and this is how I want it because I like the way it looks.”  You need to put your foot down on the dress shop thing.  Reschedule it one time and if she persists in wanting to get her dress elsewhere, tell her she can wear whatever she wants as a guest rather than an MOH.  Don’t let her boss you around into wedding details that you don’t want.

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@FutureMrsKenward:  Yep.  But if you don’t fire her, you will get tired of this crap and probably stop being friends with her anyway.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Well, she is being rude by the way she’s coming at you with her opinions. But… I wouldn’t want anyone telling me that I have to wear something that makes me feel self-conscious. Or have my hair styled in a way I didn’t like. I know it’s your wedding, but I think you should give your girls some freedom to look how they want (to an extent).

I’ll be letting my girls pick a dress (in my color) that suites them and have their hair styled how they feel comfortable.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@FutureMrsKenward:  Uhh ya, I see where you are coming from. There has to be a happy medium :/

But she is being a bee. I would be very hurt if my MOH spoke to me that way.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@FutureMrsKenward:  Is she fillping serious about that dress? The one you choose is elegant and appropriate for a Fall wedding.

It sounds like the green-eyed monster is come out of her. She has been with her SO for a while without the ring.

You tell her in a nice way that you are having the wedding YOU want and you want her support just as you would support her when the day comes.

 

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2013

You’re not the only one 🙂 and I don’t think you’re being overly sensitive. I do suggest maybe taking a step back and ask her how she’d like to participate. I wonder if there’s something going on that she’s not telling you straight out. Maybe she thought as MOH she would get to choose the dresses and hairstyles? And tell her how you feel, remind her that you might be sensitive during such as stressful time and you’d really like her support. Hope it works out soon!

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@FutureMrsKenward:  Upon seeing that dress I can only say that my true feelings would involve my ass getting flagged on the bee.

Tell your MOH to suck it up.  Tell her “this is the dress, do your hair how you want” and ask the other maids to wear the soft bun.  Leave it at that and keep her negative ass out of things

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@FutureMrsKenward:  Wow, she does not sound like she has a lot of social grace.  As a bridesmaid I think it’s important to try to make things easier on the bride and, if you really have a problem with something, make sure that you’re picking your battles.

That said, it does sound like she’s expressing negative opininos about thinsg that effect her (not just randomly bashing everything).  Why not try to take her opinion into consideration?  The dress is tough, but you could allow people to chose their own hairstyle, shoes, and accessories to give them a bit more freedom.  It would be a lot less stressful for  you.

 

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