(Closed) Anyone else have unneeded family drama???

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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159 posts
Blushing bee

i’m so sorry!  that aunt of yours sounds crazy.  i hope your wedding will be drama free and an amazing day!

Post # 4
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24 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I’m so sorry that you have to deal with such DRAMA. It sounds to me like your Aunt is an unreasonable woman. No matter what you do, she will not be pleased. Chances are most of your other family members also realize that your Aunt is a troublemaker. If it were up to me, I wouldn’t invite them, but I absolutely realize that that’s not entirely realistic. So, if possible I would make it very clear to your Aunt and Uncle that you are happy to have them be a part of your day as long as you can leave your family baggage at the door. If you extend a metaphorical Olive Branch you might be surprised at the response you receive. I know it can be hard to swallow your frustration and try to make peace with a woman that infuriates you, but it may be just the thing the relationship needs. If she refuses make amends and promise not to "make a scene" at YOUR wedding, politely ask her not to attend, of course this will probably mean that your Uncle and Cousin will not attend either. This is really all you can do. Give your Aunt an opportunity to prove you wrong and set all of your disagreements behind you, at least for this one day.

Be Strong! 

Best of Luck to you 🙂 

Post # 5
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774 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

That aunt does sound crazy. It also sounds like your cousin really wouldn’t care if the mom wasn’t making such a big deal. Good luck and here’s hoping you have a great day anyway!

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Sounds like your aunt won’t be happy whatever you do so just stick to your plan. There is clearly no pleasing that woman and your cousin seems fine with what you’ve decided for her. 9 is too old for a flower girl I think anyway.

If it makes you feel any better, I despise my uncle and his wife and don’t want to invite them to my wedding but my mom said we have to because my grandmother would be upset if we didn’t. My mom hates her brother too, so now we have to concoct some scheme to ensure they don’t come and try to have my grandma not find out about it… so, yeah, you’re not alone.

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2010

You’re definitely not alone (I just posted a long family vent also!). I agree that it sounds like your aunt is one of those people who isn’t happy unless she (any everyone else) is unhappy. I also agree 9 is too old for a flower girl, and I think it’s a big honor to have her light the candles. I’d say stick to your guns, I know it’s hard!

Best wishes for a stress free life (or at least wedding!)

Post # 9
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99 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

ew, shes psycho. i think 9 is way too old for flower girl. tell your aunt to shove it. and better yet, dont invite her 😉 haha jkk. good luck girl, stick to your decision and dont let anyone else push you other ways.

 

 

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