(Closed) Anyone else having a dry reception?

posted 7 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’m not having alcohol at my wedding because we recently found out a close family member is a (now recovering) alcoholic. It was pretty crazy, it had been going on for three years and we didn’t even know.

That said, we made the decision to not have alcohol because it would make them uncomfortable, and we want them to enjoy the day, too. 

ETA: OP–why are you having a dry wedding if you want to share? ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

we are!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

Our reception will be dry as well ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

ours too girl! no worries! we are inviting our close family and friends, and most of my family does NOT drink at all. my dad’s side based on religious reasons. on the other hand, the only ones that WOULD have been drinking would be FI’s family…the side that does so heavily. after much deliberation, me worrying if people could control their alcohol, and out of respect for my father, who is hosting…we decided against it.

that said, i am kind of glad now! i was worried at first, bc i was afraid ppl would be upset. then my bff gave me the BEST advice, like she always does…

she said, “the ones that are gonna be pissed ab yall not serving alcohol would be the ones that would be getting beligerently drunk, and you wouldn’t have wanted there anyway” which is true…

we are doing a huge couples shower before the wedding and we will have alcohol there, and his side of the family will probably opt for that.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@futuremrshc: Oh gosh, drunk toddlers would be awful!

 

@DreamsDoComeTrue: That’s a really good way to think of it. Not going to lie, I was kind of bummed about it at first, but it is kind of nice now. Most of my family doesn’t drink and is even offended by the presence of alcohol (they left my sister’s wedding early because of it), so it’s probably for the best anyway. It would only be our friends and maybe some of FI’s family who would have drank anyway.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

We are. We will be 19 and 20 when we are having our wedding. We based our decision on three things, one is that we cant enjoy it anyway so why have it at all. Two we dont have the money or it. It is 550 just for the bar and we still have to supply our own alcohol. Three, our uncle is a major alcoholic. He got cancer because of it, cant talk because they messed with his vocal cords because there were tumors on it that had to be removed, and he still sneaks out to get more alcohol. If I can avoid a fiasco at my wedding I will do it.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

Does anyone else ever have people get openly offended when you tell them it’s a dry wedding?

These are the responses I’ve gotten:

“And you expect people to actually show up?”

“You’re cheap.”

“So you’re calling everyone who drinks alcoholics then?”

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Unfortunately, my reception venue doesn’t allow hard alcohol and only one glass of champagne. So it won’t be completely dry but almost.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@SBourgeous: Ahh. Totally. I got “I won’t go if there isn’t wine. It’s not a real wedding without alcohol.”…thanks!

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@SBourgeous: My sister was super offended, but she’s been the only one. She was actually pretty classy about it, though, and just complained to my mom. She hasn’t said a word about it to me.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

Yup, also been told by another WB member that I’m being a bad hostess and that I’m obviously cheap so the food is clearly going to be shitty.

Post # 16
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

wow…if i hear any of those comments i will be truly shocked! it’s kind of upsetting that people would say that, and not want to come to just be there for the couple. isn’t that what a wedding is all about anyway? i’m sorry you’ve had to deal with that. i hope no one says that to me…i would be so hurt! ๐Ÿ™

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