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Anyone else having a lousy year planning?

posted 2 years ago in Emotional
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    BnR09    2009  

    I won't go into all the situations but there really hasn't been much positive anything for either sides of our families for the last year and half. I know at the end of the day, no matter the journey of emotions that got us there we'll be surrounded by our loved ones. That whole thing about enjoying planning...it just hasn't been there...it has felt like I'm going through the motions. Not to sound selfish but our friends and families just haven't had the emotional energy or time to just be 'involved.' At three weeks out I'm trying to find the excitement but the negative news just keeps coming. Anyone else go through or going through the same thing?

     
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    sparkle    November 2009  

    I'm sorry things aren't going well for you BnR09, things haven't been so fabulous on this end either. I kind of wish we'd just hopped a plane to Vegas or something. I hope it all looks up for you and the next three weeks are smooth sailing, hope your wedding day is perfect!

     
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    sminerva21    September 26, 2009   Chicago, IL/wedding in Upstate, NY

    I'm really sorry to hear that! For a while there, our planning wasn't so great. It was largely due to two of our wedding party members doing a personality 180 once we got engaged. It caused a lot of stress on both of us, and ruined a lot of planning (long story short, these people became really mean-spirited and said some awful things about me and my fiance to other family members). In the end, we all mutually decided they no longer needed to be the in the wedding party, and it's been smooth sailing since. Although, I sometimes still hold a grudge that all our beginning plans were very negative because of that situation. It almost got to a point where were seriously considered just going to city hall and calling it a day.

    Stay strong. I know how it feels. But even when you have unsupportive friends and family, the wedding day WILL be worth it because those that care will show up and share your day with you. I see your wedding date is summer 2009, so you're almost there!

     
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    cheerful    September 2009 - eloped  

    Our planning was horrible and all of our guests (family included) sniped about everything. The complaining got so bad, we decided to elope. Good luck!

     
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    JoonBee    06/2010  

    Our planning hasn't been the best the last few months. I find that weddings bring out the worse in people.  I feel like no one close to me really cares about my wedding, or that people are just trying to make things worse for me.  My planning has delayed because I was so upset I didn't even want to think about the wedding.  If this makes you feel any better, you are not alone. 

     
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    BnR09    2009  

    Glad to hear I am not alone and that it's not all sunny for everyone. Actually we had no drama at all, it was purely things happening to everyone around us...for the most part things were negative but if there was something positive like a baby or a new house those couples pretty much disappeared....understandable and yes I know not everyone is thinking about the wedding as much as I am; for the most part, with the exception of my FI's help and support here and there, I feel like I pretty much just planned this event for the last year and half in a bubble.

     
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    bluespurrs    August 7, 2009   South-central PA, USA, Earth

    Wedding planning has been a misearable experience. I was hoping that towars the end, things would get better and just when it looked like I had a handle on things, I get an abscessed tooth.

     
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    coralray24    09/26/2009   Tucson, AZ

    The whole planning processing has been miserable, without support, and both sides of families aren't really involved either.  I just hope at the end of the wedding day I have a smile on my face.

     

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