Post # 1
I have no idea where to post this, so I thought the beehive section would work.
So my best friend, I love her, but sometimes she speaks before she thinks and it can really get to me. She is getting married June 2010, me, August 2011. Her wedding will be around 240 people. Big, showy, over-the-top. Mine will be smaller, so far we only have around 130 people on our guest list to invite. We don’t have big families and I am not the type to invite people for the sake of higher numbers.
So Saturday night we are out to dinner and we are talking about her wedding, and she told me she was at 240, and I was told her that my wedding will only have around 120 at the most and she said in a snarky way “Ha, thats like ________ whole side.” meaning her fiances.
I just felt like she thought her wedding is going to be so much better because its so much bigger, which is really bothering me, because this isn’t the first time she has made some comment about how “small” my wedding is, and I don’t think 120 is really that small!!
Am I being overly sensitive? I mean, bigger does not make better!
Maybe this was more of a vent…
Post # 3
my wedding is about the same size as yours and i think it’s getting pretty big! I always thought i would have less than 100 people.
I think 120-130 is a good size, it will be a fun party, but I will still have time to talk to everyone. I have been to a wedding that was about 400 ppl, in my opinion, waaayy to big for me! (but no offense to those having 400 ppl 😉
Post # 4
@aruba: sigh some folks don’t think before they speak, i am having a smaller wedding which in this part of the country is unheard of. i mean i am seriously inviting like 60-70 folks. here a small wedding is 200 people!!!!! let’s just say i have had some strange looks etc and i always say i want an extremely nice wedding for the folks that i love and hey we’re in a recession, i cannot invite everyone.
Post # 5
don’t worry about people who say things like that… you have obviously matured past the “keeping up with the jones’s” mentality!
Post # 6
- Wedding: June 2010 - Indiana Memorial Union
That’s a weird comment. I think 120 is big! And really, I think smaller weddings are at an advantage because less of your budget is eaten up by catering costs. I would just ignore it; the size is right for you and that’s all that matters.
Post # 7
Big and small are relative. I wouldn’t worry about her perspective on things. Some people use their wedding as a means to show-off, I hate that. I’m not saying that’s what your best friend is doing, she may be very unaware of how she’s coming off. But I’ve never really thought the bigger wedding was nicer simply because it was bigger. That’s just silly 🙂
Post # 8
Ribbons, exactly, and not that I am comparing or anything, but there are things that I can have at my wedding that she can’t because her numbers are so high, but I am not rubbing it in her face.
I just hate that weddings cause so much competition!
Post # 9
Our wedding will have a max of 65 people…so even smaller than yours. I can understand where you are coming from, and I don’t think you are being over sensitive.
Think of it this way – she probably won’t be able to see everyone at her wedding and have intimate time with them to thank them for coming – you will.
No, bigger does not make it better – personally I think it makes it more stressful.
She probably didn’t mean it to be mean, try to let it roll off your shoulders and focus on your own fabulously intimate wedding 😉
Post # 10
Eh, just let it roll off your back. I’m pretty sure 120 ppl is about “average” sized for a wedding. We’ll be have about 60 guests max at ours.
Post # 11
I think 120 is big too!! But the point is… who cares!!! Your friend is being silly…. don’t let it get to you… You know your wedding will probly be waaaay better anyways 😉 😉
Post # 12
I don’t think she was trying to be mean. She just stated a fact. And I also don’t think she was trying to show off. We are only having 50 guests. It really doesn’t matter how many guests other brides are having or did have. I don’t think you should think anything of it because it was just a conversation comment. She probably wishes she didn’t have to have so many guests.
Post # 13
That is NOT small!!! I’m having a wedding of around 100 people!!! I know a girl who is having like 300 people at her wedding, I can’t believe it! She just sounds like one of those girls who like to show off, and I’m sure she didn’t mean any harm by it. The amount of people you’re inviting is a perfect amount!!!
Post # 14
Vent all you want, hon!
You’re absolutely right that bigger is in no way better.
Incidentally, my hubs and I only had our family members at our wedding, and then we had a huge reception a month later, because that was right for us. I fully believe every couple has to decide what’s right for them.
Let her comments roll off you because you know better.
Post # 15
That’s too bad that she has you feeling down – you shouldn’t though! Like a lot of the previous posters have said, 120 is actually big compared to lots of other weddings. There’s no magic number of guests that determines how great a wedding will be – as long as you have people there who geuinely care about you and support you, that’s what makes the party!
Post # 16
that’s not small at all, and even if it is considered smaller, so what? there are some pros to having a smaller guest list. you can afford to have some extras because there are less people to feed, and you can make it more personal. i’m doing a lot of diy for my 110 person wedding, i’d NEVER want to spend the time crafting all of this stuff if i had to do double all of this work!