Post # 1
Hello fellow bees. Just wondering if other brides to be are having difficulty getting their wedding rings? My FI and I have been trying to look for rings at the standard chains (aka beldens, kays, zales, etc.) and having a horrible time.
I had hoped that I could find a wedding band that would work with my engagement ring, but would still be able to be worn alone. I knew this might not be workable as my engagement ring is a hallo design with a shanked band and therefore would work best with a curved wedding ring.
I had stopped in to the jewelry stores at the mall and tried on a few different styles in my budget. I found one ring that I thought might work, it was a little wide, but it had delicate scrolling and cutouts, that I thought was pretty. The store only had it in rose gold and I needed white gold, so they had it ordered in for me. When I went in to try it on I brought my FI to get his opinion. I put it on with my ring and asked him if the gap between the bands was too big? Before there was even time for him to answer the sales lady yelled “God Yes!” Then she told me to find something else and went about the store hunting out rings that were all above my price range. I was humiliated and really did not want to look at anything else. Admittedly I wasn’t sure about the ring, but I know I don’t want to have that sort of reaction from family and friends who see the wedding and engagement ring together.
After that I tried looking more online at these chains, but every time I go into one of them I leave feeling deflated. Sometimes they don’t have any of the rings for me to try on or the salesperson glances at my list and tells me he thinks that they are out of all those styles but would be more than happy if I opened a charge card with them. I don’t know if I even want a ring from a place like this, but really have no idea where else I should look. My FI’s mother wanted big high priced jewelry stores, but that would be way out of budget and my mom says I should go to jewelry repair shops and see what they have, but really that feels almost like stepping into a pawn shop.
Anybody out there having wedding ring trouble, or suggestions? (especially in Massachusetts near the north shore)
Post # 3
@Sassafraskate: I feel your pain. My E Ring has a very thin, dainty band with a large emerald cut halo setting that is flush with my finger. I would love to have a band that could be worn alone if I chose to take off my E Ring, but everything I’ve been able to find so far leaves a HUGE gap or is too thick (tall) to fit underneath my low setting. Even tried a wishbone band in an attempt to fit around the main stone, but nobody makes a deep enough V. I’ve been looking everywhere for almost a year with no luck. Especially at the major chains. HOWEVER, not even 10 minutes ago I saw a suggestion that blew my mind. One woman had a setting similar to mine and she simply had the jeweler put a notch in the bottom of the setting so that the wedding band would fit right in and also be held in place. Genius! I’m definitely going to be looking into that. But as far as other resources go, I’ve had some luck with etsy.com. Online is hard though when you can’t try it on right there to see how you like it. But just know that you’re not alone. lol Good luck to us!
Post # 4
@Sassafraskate: I had the same problem! My ering has a very very slight contour, so I need a curved band to sit flush, but I dont really like the look of just one band that is curved. I wanted something I could wear alone, and contoured bands I just think look weird on their own. I have looked and looked and even purchased two different rings, but after wearing them some ( I know I shoulndt, but I am glad I did!) I decided that I didnt like something about them, and returned them. I also wanted something that would match FIs ring. Eventually when I dragged FI into like the millionth jewelry store (he actually banned me after this! haha! Said no more jewelry stores!) I found something that I loved! But it wasnt what I had ever thought I would want. We ended up choosing a ring wrap that fits my ering perfect, and also getting a pretty ring with no diamonds for when I dont want to wear my ering and bands. It took me MONTHS to finally find something I loved, so it may take a while, but eventually you will find it and it will be perfect! Good luck!!
Post # 5
- Wedding: February 2013 - Mansion House at the MD Zoo
What about antique/vintage rings? It might not help you with the “gap” but you could probably find something “different.” That’s what I ended up doing because nothing worked quite right with my weird ring.
Also eff that lady in the jewelery store. It’s terrible sales practice to ever tell you -not- to buy something, and especially to then turn around and try to get you to look at stuff that’s more expensive and out of your budget. I second the suggestions for etsy or online.
Post # 6
@Sassafraskate: I don’t think gaps between the rings are necessarily a bad thing. Many ladies here on the bee have them and their sets still look magnificent. Also, I don’t see anything wrong with checking out pawn shops, jewelry repair shops, etc. I’ve seen some fantastic rings in those stores. Good luck.
Post # 7
@breevoux: I have the same issues with an emerald cut ring. I really don’t want to make a notch in my setting because it will be visible if I wear the e-ring alone and I don’t really want a curved band either! I don’t mind a gap but I haven’t seen a band I really like with my ring, and I need to get my e-ring’s band made thinner but I want to pick a band first. Oy!
Post # 8
I have a high cathedral set solitaire with a delicately carved band, my FH and I are particular and wanted the wedding ring to compliment it rather than look like we just stuck another pretty ring next to it. We went into all the chains and were going to be moving to jewelers with estate jewelry next, but we wandered into a Kay Jewelers that we hadn’t been in before, and we were greated by the jeweler. When we asked what he’d suggest go with it, he started listing wonderful ideas of making a ring to match. Then I saw one in the case that I hadn’t seen before, nor was it in the catalog or on the webiste. He suggested adding the carving to the band where the diamonds stoped. Brilliant! The new carving is dead on, and since the ring was the right shape, setting style, and heighth it turned out perfectly. My “set” actually looks like they were designed for eachother. it is amazing what they can do with the jewelry, you are not at all stuck with what is on the shelf, nor do you have to have a completely new ring forged.
From our experience, I really think the difference is finding a store with an experienced, creative, and talented jeweler who can guide you. Not just a sales wo/man. Not all of the chain stores have a jeweler in house.
Post # 9
@Sassafraskate: +1 I despise going into chain stores to browse and would much prefer to buy online BUT I know I have to see some choices in person to know what I like … sigh. :-/
Post # 10
I had a tough time too. It was one of the first things I wanted to get done, since I knew leaving it to the last minute would end badly.
I agree that etsy is a great place to look (I got my band from there) since they have more unique options. I would definitely check out local jewelers, even just to get advice or an idea. They are usually way more helpful and knowledgable about what will work with your ring, and you can look into the cost of having something custom made (it may be more reasonable than you think!!).
Post # 11
Have you considered perhaps a custom wedding band?
With my oval halo and twisted shank band I had to have my wedding bands custom made to fit the design. If you want to avoid a large gap and aren’t a fan of the curved wedding band this may be the best option. Definitely search in your area as it isn’t necessarily more expensive depending on where you go.
Post # 12
@preppybear: It is true! Even at Kay’s, having a band cast from my ER was going to be roughly $600. I was shocked that a completely custom band was that low. I was fearing 1k or more. Also, to have the carving duplicated on the band I chose, the cost was only $100 more. So much more reasonable than I envisioned.
Post # 13
I always had bad experiences at stores like that too.
Your first stop should definitely be Etsy, but try Blue Nile too.
Do you have a picture of your e-ring?
Post # 14
Thank you all for the advice. I thought about trying to just order one from etsy or ebay, but I was worried that it wouldn’t look good with the E-ring. I really wanted to be able to try something on. Plus my FI found a ring he really liked at Kays and no matter where else we looked he always came back to that one. I ended up just picking one that would work with my E-ring and was in my budget. We thought about it and decied it would be best to get stuff we liked, but was more reasonably priced now and if later we wanted to get diffferent ones it could be like an anniversary gift or something. This way if I do decide that I no longer want to wear my E-Ring I can just get a different band. Really the band does look very nice with my ring, almost like it was made for it. However ordering with Kays has caused a few other problems that I plan to make a new board about.
Best advice I can give is to take pictures of the bands before purchasing. I found that the choice became obvious after I got home and was able to slide show through the options.
Post # 16
my ring above and FI’s below