Post # 1
It is 20 days til the wedding, and my FI and I keep miscommincating and then fighting. We just think so differently. Also, we both work really stressful jobs (he works 80-90 hours a week) and probably our patience isn’t the best. Just makes me worry- is this just stress (we do better when we both aren’t working as much) or something more drastic? Is this happening to anyone else?
Post # 3
Miscommunications can definitely soar in the weeks before a wedding!
What kind of miscommunications/fights have you been having lately?
Post # 4
The FI and I are definitely arguing more. Everybody tells me that it’s part of the wedding process… We always try to solve each issue by taking a “time out” when it gets heated then coming together after a few hours and talk the issue through. It’s a lot of work and quite stressful, but its good to talk when we are both have cooler heads…
Post # 5
We do all the time. We are slowly working on it. The problems themselves are sooo trivial. We just have such a hard time communicating our ideas. I just bought the book Why Can’t You Read My Mind? and it seems to be good.
Post # 6
- Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School
HA, you could definitely be describing my FH and I, only we’re about 9 months out from the wedding! I think it’s totally normal to be miscommunicating when you’re so close to your wedding, I mean, it sounds like you both are super busy, which can totally contribute. It’s good that your recognize that these are just “miscommunications” and not true, serious issues in your relationship. Sometimes, I’ve found that it helps to just tell FH exactly what you just told us, that you hate fighting with him and all these miscommunications aren’t making things easy. The reminder with maybe a suggestion of being as clear as possible when you guys talk might help a little… Good luck ,you’re almost there!
Post # 7
I think it is pre-wedding stress. Even if you don’t feel stressed about the actual wedding, I think that wedding stress might be creeping into your relationship. I have found that my FI and I fight more now that we are engaged and it feels like molehills have become mountains after the ring went on my finger. Hopefully, it will get better after the wedding!
Post # 8
I realize you’re both really stressed, especially with the wedding coming up so soon, but I would totally recommend the book “The Seven Principles of Making Marriages Work” by John Gottman. It talks about how to destress and make sure that you’re not taking things out on each other.
Post # 9
It is stress, we just went through a really bad bout with that. Make one night a non wedding night, just sit and relax and have fun. We did that this weekend and it’s amazing how reconnected we feel!
Post # 10
I think you can get preoccupied with the “stuff” going on that you kinda put the whole reason you’re getting married (you are in love) on the backburner doing “stuff”.
Schedule a date night as the above poster suggested and reconnect and turn off cell phones, tv, and have a romantic night out.
Post # 11
I’m glad it’s not just me, it feels like fiance and I argue more…I think it’s just part of the process.