Post # 1
We are kid free. I chose this partially because of the venue, and partially for my personal preference. We are having the reception at our local brewery. I’m Happy to see my friends and family enjoy the night, not have to leave early because of bed time or misbehavior, or not be able to enjoy a few extra adult beverages they normally don’t get to have. Our reception is going to be a PARTY. I can’t stand when children running around the dance floor while the couple trying to have the first dance or parents dance, or tripping over them while tryin to get my groove on etc. I put it on our invites “21+ only” and no one has argued. A few of my friends thanked us for giving them an excuse for a night off, and are booking hotel rooms and dropping the kiddos with grandma so they can enjoy the night to the fullest. We also had a capacity limit and looking at how much our venue was when we broke it down by person it’s not worth $65 plus the cost of food for a child. There’s no wrong answer for kid free or family friendly. It just didn’t make sense for me– and after breaking it down I just couldn’t justify the cost!! Any parent who thinks I should pay almost $100 for their child to enjoy a wedding reception at a brewery (and not even make use of the money I’m paying for open bar) is out of their mind….I mean really I don’t think any parent would spend $100 on a child’s dinner lol
Anyone have much push back on this? I keep hearing nightmare stories of people showing up with babies anyway….
Post # 2
We are having minimal children, and when I say minimal, I mean 2 children whom are under the age of 16, and ONLY because they are in the bridal party, and 2 more that are under 18 – one is SO’s sister as well as my bm.
We did it for alot of the same reasons as you – plus, we aren’t overly fond of some of our friends children [they are super ill behaved].
I haven’t heard anything about it YET, but people haven’t gotten their invitations yet, still a few months to go. I do expect to hear a little bickering on the family, though.
Post # 3
I sincerely tried to make it this way. But since all of the other, non-kid-related drama, I figure I can accept kids to my cake and punch reception. But no way, no how, come hell or high water will there be kids in or at my ceremony.
And definitely expect to hear some rude responses to it as well. Apparently I hate children? -.-
Post # 4
MrsMariposa: Its ok all my friends KNOW I’m not a fan of kids hahaha
I just hope people don’t bring babies that CRY to my ceremony I WILL wince and evil eye that kid…. and thats not a good look for a bride hahaha
Post # 5
jenilynevette: We got a little push back at first but when I basically blamed the brewery venue (even though they allow kids…)
Post # 6
MrsDToBe2014: I agree with you there. I want my own one day, but don’t want some ill-behaved heathens to interrupt my ceremony! We aren’t even allowing infants (oh, the horror!). I love that you blamed it on your venue! Classic!
Post # 7
My wedding vows were ruined by a screaming baby. Ex H’s cousins for some reason thought ‘no children’ didn’t apply to them, and turned up late to the ceremony with their baby. Who then proceeded to scream so loudly that the officiant actually stopped in the middle of our vows…glared at them…they still didn’t get the message for about 30 seconds. Another relative finally told them to take it out. The officiant then resumed our vows…
My MIL never forgave them for it, she never spoke to either of them again…she died 11 years later.
When I marry FI I am going to have a bouncer on the door who will be told to refuse entry to anyone under the age of 18. I will make sure that everyone attending knows this beforehand, and I don’t give a flying fuck what anyone thinks of that.
Post # 8
MrsDToBe2014: The only child we are having is our nephew, and he is being sent away after dinner! He’s our ring bearer, but I didn’t feel like we wanted him around during dancing/drinking. And FI’s friends can DRINK!! I just think it’s better without kids running all over. Luckily for us, there aren’t too many kids in our lives – a few friends have babies but they are happy to have a night off!
Post # 9
Baal: OMG that is literally my NIGHTMARE. I am worried enough about our 2 year old niece not having a hissy fit in the middle…. I feel like it would have been more rude for me to NOT tell people it is 21+ that for me to hate them for the rest of their life hahaha
Post # 10
MrsDToBe2014: Pretty much for the same reasons as yours. I can’t fathom paying 60$ for a child’s meal. I wouldn’t ask parents to ever pay so much for their 2 and 6 years old (our nephews), so why should I ? I’m already working on a very tight budget and this just doesn’t make the cut.
I don’t want kids running around either. I really believe wedding receptions (especially when they’re sit-down dinners during the evening) are adult-only events and I’ve met many people in the wedding industry (venues or planners) who think the same. A 3 hour-long dinner is not children-friendly, and I don’t feel like spending even more money just to keep them entertained.
Finally, I already do not see my friends very often, especially since they had kids. They too, know what it’s like to be on a budget. I’d like for them to just leave their kid behind for one evening so we can have fun together (our wedding was 55 guests and now 12). It’s the exception for all the other occasions I’ll invite them over with their kids, or go to their place and their kids will be there. One evening is not much, and it can even be fun for them, sort of like a date night as a couple as well (out of town, hotel room, dinner and wine …). 😉
Post # 11
weatherbug: EXACTLY! Our friends can drink and with unlimited 9% beer I’m pretty sure its going to be a shitfest….
This post stemed from a post on another forum…. someone asked about kid free or kid friendly and how to entertain the kids… women are actually talking about putting a “redneck swimmin pool” out…. hahahaha
Post # 12
Definitely no kids at ours! There is only one couple who has them so it shouldn’t be too hard to enforce. I can’t dance with kids on the dance floor running around under my feet, and I want to be dancing!!
Post # 13
I have said no to kids at my reception (Destination wedding/elopement and reception on different days) mainly because I have friends with quite a few young kids under 10, so there would be about 10 children there in a 30 person reception. WAY too many! And also 5 of those kids are not well behaved at all. It would turn into a daycare nightmare rather than a nice celebration.
Post # 14
Yep we are. It’s been such a drama too but I’m hoping our families will respect our wishes and stop pushing the children thing. We are not having anyone under the age of 16 at our reception. My BM is 17 ( FIs sister ) and I have one cousin who is 17 also who is invited. I can’t fathom paying $60+ a head for little kids who probably won’t enjoy our night time reception. I love kids but it just isn’t the place for them.
Post # 15
Yep, ours is kid-free. Why? Because I don’t have the money for all of the extra tables and chairs and food for everyone and their little brats (sorry, I kind of hate kids…and between all of my cousins, there’s like 14 of them).
The only kid allowed at our wedding is my niece, and that’s only because she lives 3,000 miles away and has to fly in with my sister and BIL. I’m already stressing out about her screaming/crying in the middle of the ceremony, but my BIL is going to be her wrangler, so he’s going to take her out as SOON as she starts.