- 7 years ago
- Wedding: July 2011
your not Catholic? Well an opposite religion of your FH? My fiance is Catholic & I’m Methodist & his parents HATE ME and are making every aspect of my wedding planning ZERO FUN! He’s not that devout; yet I am very active in my church & am very sure of my faith when he is not! I am willing to have a Catholic priest there fora Catholic presence for his family BUT thats not enough! I’m having to write letters to Bishops asking for permission to be married outside of a Catholic church, I’m having to have a prodominately Catholic service where my minister *VIP past minister of mine from childhood* is having to take a backburner, I’m having to go to some Catholic retreat, go through Catholic wedding prep and I get told every 5 minutes “if youd have it in a church….” from his parents! I dont know what to do!
I have NEVER wanted to get married in a church- not because I dont LOVE God but I just want it outdoors or somewhere that fits us! My FH also does not care at all! He is only jumping through the “Catholic hoops” so he doesnt “hear his parents b*tch” but I’m catching it because they are hating on every aspect of our wedding! They also aren’t helping us as much as they are my FH’s twin brother!!! Just because they are getting married in a Catholic Church & they can invite more of their friends that neither of us have ever met!!!!! We also asked my FFIL to hand make a Unity table for us to keep…. his response- “Why would you need anything like that it isnt a Catholic Mass so I’m not making anythign”!!!! Now I may be way off but I am not Catholic… not saying I dont respect those that are however I am firm & strong in my faith & there are a few things that are Catholic beliefs that I just dont believe- BUT I am trying to have a Catholic presense at my wedding for his family & I am just dealing with more & more criticizm!
The worst part of this is that EVERY SINGLE time we go to his home town *2 hrs away* to visit we are TOLD we are going to Mass with his family- which is ackward to me because if you’ve ever been to Mass you understand. Non-Catholics CAN NOT take communion, you can get a blessing but its not the same- so when they take communion Non-Catholics feel to me to be singled out BUT I still go to Mass- when they came here to visit we asked them to goto the Non-Denominational church that our other wedding minister preaches at and his parents REFUSED to go because they are Catholic & we were made go with them! UGH! My fiance wont really stand up because he doesnt want to get yelled at by his parents!
This is making my wedding planning absolutely miserable! Not to mention they double check EVERY aspect we plan including calling places they have NO business calling then calling us and telling us “how things are” We have repeatedly asked them to let us handle the planning and quit trying to butt into things that my mother & I are trying to plan but they wont!!! Any other bees having In-Law problems?!?!?!?!
Sorry this was so long I’m just going INSANE and there is so much more theyve done its just hard to condense! LoL : )