Post # 1
This is tough! I didn’t even think this would be an issue.
My Mom and step father divored a few years ago. I’d like to invite them both, but I can’t sit my stepfather with my mother or father. I want to sit friends together and I’m realizing there are a bunch of people who don’t know each other. I can’t sit parents without their kids, unless I do a kid only table. But now that only four kids will be eating there, it seems like too few for a table.
Any tips or advice for sorting out seating arrangements? How few are too few for a table?
Post # 3
@BriansBride: Haha! We meet again 🙂 Yes seating was tough! In the end we opted for no kids table – we wanted the parental supervision. We also had some randoms. Luckily the venue had 8, 9, and 10 people options for tables after we asked. We distributed the randoms among the tables that were most filled. Like the photographers I ended up seating at a table with some of the more drama-y relatives.
We also have friends from all sorts of places – high school, many jobs, work, college, etc. Luckily some have met in passing so they are not complete strangers. Others we simply grouped if we thought they’d get along. We’re serving dinner family style so I figure people will have to talk to people. I’ve also seen some ideas like little games and such at tables to sort of get people to talk. In the end though, I’ve sat at tables where I don’t know everyone, and it’s still been really fun. I mostly talk to my date anyway, or watch the dancing. Everything will work out 🙂 My biggest issue was people not responding to the RSVPs for like EVER. GR!
How big are most of your tables? Is your venue willing to have some variety?
Post # 4
Seating plans can be complicated with divorces, exes, people who don’t speak to each other etc. Sometimes you have to be creative.
You can certainly seat people who don’t know each other at the same table. These people are presumably adults and should be able to carry on conversation overdinner.
Post # 5
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
We had 8-10 per table, and I tried to make sure that they were split 4/4- meaning that we might have two couples who knew each other from my side and two couple who knew each other from DH’s side at the same table.
Doesn’t always work out that way. Last wedding I went to I was Mom’s “date,” and we didn’t know anyone else at the table, but we made friends. 🙂
Post # 6
The method I used was SO simple as far as arranging and rearranging and getting a “visual” of the tables.
Get a big piece of posterboard and a pack of mini post it notes. Put a guest’s name on each post it note, and draw big circles to represent tables.
Then stick the post it notes at each table. That way you can “seat” people, move them around, etc, really easily. Then once you’re done, make your fancy seating chart as a list (or however you want to do it).
I was DREADING making our seating chart but this post it note method made it so easy – like borderline fun. I could just pick people up and move them lol
Post # 7
So we have our seating arrangements down, but some tables are going to have five people will other tables have ten. Is this odd?