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Hi guys,

I'm writing here for the sake of my sanity. I am 28 years old, recently graduated from university (having a bit of difficulty getting a job) and have been with my bf for 2 years (living together for 6 months).

Basically, I wanted to know if anyone else my age was starting to hear the clock tick and was getting anxious about getting engaged (if it ever happens). I don't want to pressurise my bf but I can't help feeling like time is running out for a wedding and kids etc. My bf is 27

Is it just me? Am I going crazy?

@CMSnails: Oh, thanks for that :-) I did think I was maybe posting in the wrong area

@abbie017: I think you've hit the nail on the head - we really haven't been together that long, my problem appears to be purely caused by my internal clock ticking. Most of the time I do not beleive I am ready for marriage or children but then the ticking starts again and I struggle not to become really low and struggle with my moods.

@abbie017: I think you've hit the nail on the head - we really haven't been together that long, my problem appears to be purely caused by my internal clock ticking. Most of the time I do not beleive I am ready for marriage or children but then the ticking starts again and I struggle not to become really low and struggle with my moods.

@abirdword: See that's exactly it - me personally, I'd like to get my career started, get some money saved, decide what I want from the future...and then I hear the ticking again. I keep thinking that I'm too young but my body seems to disagree. Basically, I postred here to find out if it was just me or many women about my age started to feel that way. For me, I think the whole marriage thing only factors into the ticking because we want to be married before we have any children and it is really that clock that is ticking.

@Molly929: I know 2 years is not long, really I do. It's more my age and my body ticking away for kids that's the problem. He doesn't talk about it much but was hurt in the past - he was with a girl for 6 years before and was planning to propose when she dumped him. I can understand that that makes him wary. I would be happy if our relationship just stayed the same but my inner clock stopped ticking - that would be the ideal solution

@Jamiezilla: Thanks, I know you're right, just wish I didn't hear the ticking - ideally I'd like to get a few years of working under my belt before I decide if I want to settle down

@Molly929: I see what you mean. Mut admit though, my guy is really shy about stuff like that - he's more likely to clam up then say something a few days later then not want to talk about it again. For example, my sis and I were winding him up that I might have twins (cos she had twins) and he never said anything til about 3 weeks later when he was showing me round a house he'd bought and he said: "the loft could be made into a room if we did have twins". End of discussion. I just laughed.

Also, kinda weary of bringing it up because I'm very open with him so he is very aware that I have been reduced to tears several times because younger people we know who have been together for less time have got engaged (horrible to admit I was jealous but true). So I think I'll take your advice but maybe test myself - like focus on trying to get a perminent job (my contract expires in June) and improving my mood and not bring it up at all until, say June and the earliest - give us both time and space (if I could wait til after our 3rd anniversary in August that'd be great). Might be a good resolution to try.

I'm like you - I need reassurances and lots of hypothetical talk but my bf really struggles to open up - think he'll always be like that though (thinks it's unmanly to show emotion)