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We find out tomorrow if our monster is a girl or a boy, and part of me is nervous because I know my husband really wants a boy. Yea, yea, I get that this is a typical guy thing, but I worry about his disappointment if she's a she! We had this big debate when our friends were pregnant because all the men were going on and on and on about wanting boys and how boys would be easier and girls could grow up to be sluts, and I finally broke in to remind them and every. single. one. of. them. was married to a former girl, and none of us were sluts, thankyouverymuch!
So part of me is wanting a girl so that if we have a girl, I can say we wanted her to be a girl (I know, I know, blame the hormones for my circular logic). At the same time, I do think boys can be easier through the teenage years.
Anyway, anyone else hoping for a girl? Getting a girl and getting over disappointment? Prefer to have a girl? (I know this isn't pc, but I figure it's pretty off the grid for me (unlike my blog) so it's an okay place to ask.
I'm not pregnant but if I were, I'd want a girl. Nothing against boy babies, it just seems like a girl would be more fun. After the first child, I would have no preference either way. I just really want the first to be a girl!
My FI said the same thing about a girl growing up to be promiscuous. He's also convinced our future daughter will get knocked up at 15. I can't understand the thought process behind that.
ETA: I like when people state their hope for the baby's gender. It's not like you're saying you wouldn't love the baby if it were a boy or that you'd abandon it somewhere. You'd just prefer a girl. Nothing wrong with that.
I think it's OK to say you prefer one over the other for whatever reason.
To be completely honest we are both TRULY happy if we have a baby that's healthy.
But. I can't say I'm not 60/40 leaning towards boys because my husband's side has not had a single boy yet. So I would love to give his side their first boy of this generation. :)
P.S. Having been blessed five times as a aunt, 3 of whom are girls I have to say baby girl stuff are sooooo much cuter!!
Ah, true, baby girl stuff is cute! Also, I was a pretty cute baby girl, if I do say so! My mom is hoping we'll have a girl (yay, Mom, thanks for the vote of confidence). I guess I just need to stop worrying so much about how my husband will feel. He'll come around.
Oh, and for the guys that go on about girls maybe becoming promiscuous, I like to throw in that a girl's relationships with boys/ men can be largely defined by her relationship with her father. So, if you want to raise a healthy, well-adjusted girl, just be a great dad! That usually shuts them up. :)
I tend to think the idea is because they had dirty little boy minds and know how far some girls let them get. My husband believes karma will give him girls to make up for all those dirty thoughts, though I remind him that if that was true, all men would have daughters. Ha, ha, ha.
My husband wanted a boy too but as soon as he saw her during the ultrasound he stopped caring and just got very sappy over having a baby at all. On a side note I read somewhere that mother nature knows men have a harder time connecting with baby girls so they often share more physical features so daddy can see himself in her and bond with her easier.
I wanted a girl. When we had our 19 week ultrasound and were told it was a boy, before I could say anything, my husband leaned into my vision and said "I'm sorry. I know you really wanted a girl." I thought it was sweet that he cared so much about what I wanted even though he wanted a boy. Now that I have my LO, I wouldn't change a thing but I needed those months to wrap my mind around having a boy so I was prepared. I didn't want to be disappointed and I just needed the adjustment period.
@Pelikila:I'll remember that and try to do/ say the same thing if we find out she's a girl, thanks.
Btw, what is LO?
Haha, do all men use that, "Girls will be difficult when they are teenagers" bit? Mine is using it too! He actually had me pretty nervous for a while, but I know ultimately, I don't really care. I'd honestly like at least one of each. I can't wait to find out either, but I think we get our 16 week ultrasound next week, hopefully, they haven't done an ultrasound yet, so they better do one this time! Have fun!
Eh, I said I didn't care, but it turns out that when they told us we were having a boy, I realized I'd been hoping for a girl :) (DH wanted a girl too- he's from an extended family of ALL boys and said if he could pick, he'd probably want two daughters. Oh well!)
Check out: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tJRzBpFjJS8
They have a nice take on the whole "I don't care what it is, as long as it's healthy!" line. :)
YES! I totally want a girl, have my entire life. To balance that out I am trying to only plan boy names (mind you I'm not actually PG yet).
I'm not preggers yet but I hope my first is a boy. Both my husband and I come from the exact same family dynamic: two kids, older brother, younger sister. So I'm just used to the idea of a boy being the oldest. My ideal line up would be two boys then a girl. Hubs and I have kind of decided if our first two are one of each then we'll stop, and if they are two of the same we'll try one more time.
both me and hubs really want a girl. i'm a little worried how we'll feel if its ends up a boy and i feel guilty for even having a preference. and all the old wives tales so far as pointing toward boy. of course i really want happy, healthy baby but my brother already has 3 boys and my entire family is wanting a girl. also, my hubs is asian and there are certain duties and expectations if the first born is a boy and we'd kinda prefer our baby not having to deal with that.
I'm not 100% sure what LO means but I read it as "little one"
I'm not pregnant but I want a little girl sooo bad when we decide to have kids. So does my honey...probably bc we're destined for boys (our families are pretty male dominant). If I found out I was having a boy though I think all of a sudden my mind would probably shift, and start thinking about all the wonderful boy things, and I'd wonder why I even wanted a girl in the first place lol.
Oh my...I'm not even pregnant yet, and I think that I would CRY if I found out I was having a boy. FH and I want a girl SO BAD. (And we only want one child, and he doesn't want to adopt, and his family is all boys...ahh!)
Besides, boys grow up to be assholes -- I'd rather have a "sexually-empowered" daughter than a jerk son any day. (ETA: I know that a lot of it is in the parenting, but gah, I do not want a boy!)
Not pregnant yet but when we have our first, I do wish it was a girl. DH wants a boy.
When my cousin was pregnant she wanted a girl and he wanted a boy. As soon as he saw his baby girl he was wrapped around her finger :D
I wouldnt worry too much about it.
I am not pregnant yet either - I would prefer a girl first, although either is fine with me. I know DH would prefer a boy first, but would still like a girl as well.
I really want a girl! I won't be upset if I do have a boy, but part of me is kind of like, "What do I do with a boy?" And girl clothes and stuff is soooooooo cute!!!!
DH is also worried about our daughter getting pregnant at 15 if we have a girl. I just reminded him that our 15 year old son could always get somebody pregnant. You have to think about that, too!
@cheese: OMG! That is such a stupid guy thing to say! Who do they think the sluts are having sex with? Themselves? No-someone's SON thank you very much. LOL!
I totally knew I was having a girl. I didn't even have a boy name picked out. My husband wanted a boy. muhahahaa.
Seriously though, when you are getting the anatomy scan you are just going to pray that the baby is healthy. I remember laying there looking at the ultrasound screen, and I was like "I don't care what it is, as long as every single little part looks perfect" The girl part was just the icing on the cake.
We aren't trying yet for children, but I feel guilty almost because I really really want a girl...badly.
I know so many couples have fertility or health problems and I feel I should just want a happy healthy child- but inside, I just am dying for a girl and do not have much interest in a boy...
Cliche I know but when I was pregnant all I wanted was a healthy baby. Alot of people would ask what we were hoping for but I never had a preference- we wanted a child not a specific gender.
From the begining I just knew that bub was a boy, and so did my dad (the first thing he said was 'your going to have a boy'). I was not 'disappointed' at all with a boy, even though when people asked what we were having they would say 'oh, really? hmmm. Well there's always next time for a girl'.
I love watching FI and DS together, DS is such a mini FI- it makes my heart absolutely melt seeing how happy my FI is with a little man :-)
Good luck with your ultrasound!
Yes!! Both of us!! There hasn't been a girl born into my husband's family in 70-something years! 9 boys in a row! And on my side, I'm the only girl of 4 kids, and I have 5 biological nephews to one niece (and a number of step-nieces). I'm trying to prepare myself to have a boy (when we get pregnant), but oh, if I gave my husband's family a girl...seriously, I could never do any wrong for the rest of my life. We even have the perfect girl's name picked out. Le sigh, fingers and toes crossed.
(I will, of course, love any child we have, boy or girl, but I ain't gonna lie, we'll both be disappointed.)
I want a girl and my SO wants a boy. We are team Green, so I won't know until September. I just want to buy cute clothes and comb her hair and stuff. They are sweet. I wouldn't mind a boy either. Some of them are sweet too. LOL
He won't admit it, but i think this is also why my SO doesn't want a girl. My husband believes karma will give him girls to make up for all those dirty thoughts, though I remind him that if that was true, all men would have daughters. Ha, ha, ha. Well, I guess he has said it when he said she'd be in the basement until she's 30...my age!LMAO
@flamingred: Exactly! I guess they are masturbating sluts.LMAO
MissPinup- That's not cliche. Before I was pregnant, I was all about the fun stuff, now that I am in it, I just worry about baby coming to me healthy. Anything can happen, sadly.
I would only discuss her being a girl. There was no way I was having a boy. I just knew she had to be a girl. And thank God I was right.
I want a boy and girl, but I would be gutted if I didn't get a girl
I find it so interesting that so many want their first to be a girl! :)
I'd always lean more towards thinking it would be easier if the oldest is a boy. I think it's harder on a girl to have to be the big sister.
And I guess maybe I grew up with two older brothers so that's what I'm used to?
My husband's generation are 6 boys and 1 girl. But all those in his generation that has had kids are ALL girls. Weird huh? We're the only ones in his generation to not have a baby yet. ;)
I had bad mommy intuition (well I guess I have 2 more months to go - anatomy scan could be wrong) and in the weeks before we found out I started to really strongly feel that the baby was a he.
So I thought about how great my husband would be with a little boy and imagined our little family so I was really surprised when they said girl - it's like but I'm the mommy and my mommy intuition said boy.
It did honestly take me a day or two to adjust to having a girl. But now I am super excited. I think my husband is, he says he is, but I still only picture him being the daddy of boys so it'll be weird seeing him with his baby girl. Not going to lie - middle school girls scare me though - not the promiscuity (I don't understand how this is just one gender - don't both sexes end up having sex?), it's the middle school girl attitude that scares me - but we've still got 10 years or so before dealing with that.
I felt all along that mine was a girl, and I REALLY wanted a girl. I had zero interest in having a boy and I admit, had they told me I was having a boy, I probably would have cried and would have had to come to grips with it for awhile. We only ever planned on having one child and I knew I didn't want a boy, so I was hoping against hope it was a girl. Luckily, it was, and we both wanted a girl (FH has an older son from a previous marriage) so it worked out fine, but I know the feeling.
As for which is easier to raise: I've heard boys are harder to raise when they're younger, girls are harder to raise when they're older. At some point, one or the other is going to be harder.
During my first pregnancy I really wanted a girl.... and then I lost the baby. I'm 99% sure it was a boy (even though I was only 6 weeks when I lost it) but I just knew. And of course after that experience I'm sad I lost my little boy, and no longer cared what I had, just wanted a healthy baby.
I'm not pregnant with a little girl, and of course I'm super excited! Really I'd be excited either way, but now I'm excited about all the pink and tutus we get to buy which we couldn't do for a boy.
My husband also wanted a boy so I was a littlel worried when they said girl. I asked him if he was happy and he said of course. I know when the baby comes he'll fall in love instantly and she'll be a daddy's girl, so I'm not worried anymore.
When our daughter was born, she was the first girl in 19 years for FH's family. The oldest grandchild is a girl and then 7 boys followed her. My mother in law pretty much worshipped at my feet once I told her we were having a girl. LOL.
I actually really hope my first child is a boy. I was a tomboy growing up and am really into sports and guy things in general. I feel like I wouldn't know what to do with a girl. I'm still on the fence about having more than one child, but if I do have a second, then I think I would want that one to be a girl just to have one of each.
@Lozza:Best video EVER! One of my favs.
@flamingred: I think the men are scared of karma coming back to bite them for the little hormone driven maniacs they were as teenagers (and men in their 20s, 30s and 40s) :)
I'm actually glad we're having a boy. I totally set my husband up to think we'd have a girl (based on famiy history) but for some reason I always said "he/him" before we knew the sex. I always wanted an older brother so ideally we'd have a girl next because I couldn't imagine not having a daughter. Plus with my husband being super excited about a son I feel like he'll take charge a little bit more, which could be nice since neither of us know what we're doing.
@Lozza: Funny video.
Honestly, I really don't care as long as I get to take my baby home this time. Boy, girl, I just want to take my baby home.
When we were at our nuchal screening, our technician was telling us how people yell, scream, and get really pissed sometimes if they want the opposite of what their baby is. She said it's really surprising and not something she expected when she started her job.
Sorry, I'm always the downer on baby threads. I promise I was excited with Moose and never a downer.
I wanted a girl, my husband was really hoping for a boy. However once we started shopping for girl stuff he was like "OK, this is really fun" and now that she's here he has said he wouldn't want it any other way.
I love having a daughter, I always wanted a girl! She's very playful and loves to run around the playground, play catch and roughhouse which my husband is amazed at. I think he was afraid a girl would be no fun, but they go to baseball games in the summer and do a lot together and she is his biggest fan :)
@TheFutureMcBride: Our ultrasound tech said the same thing! She wouldn't tell us the gender until the very end of the apt. b/c she's gotten so many bad comments that she doesn't want to deal with. I told her that she wouldn't have to worry with us, we don't care either way.
I just want a healthy baby when it's time. I used to want a boy first, then a girl. I used to want my future kids to be smart, artistic, athletic, etc.
Then I started working at a children's hospital. Now I just want my future kids to be healthy and normal.
I'm not pregnant yet but I would love for my first child to be a boy, but my husband is hoping our first is a girl. I gew up with an older brother and I love the little dynamic of a boy taking care of his little sister but DH thinks having a girl first will make him a better father and give him more patience. But we will just be so excited to get pregnant and as long as the baby is healthy it really won't matter.
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