Anyone else in a long distance marriage? need some kind words

posted 3 years ago in Long Distance Relationships
Post # 3
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92 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

 My fh works out of town m-f and I only see him on weekends.  He makes better money than he would in town so I deal with it but its hard. Especially as I’m expecting and all alone in a way. The hardest part for me is having to share him some weekends when that’s all the time I get with him. You can do it though, just cherish the time you have together, cause it makes it that much more special when there is less of it 🙂

Post # 4
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251 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

That’s awful. I don’t have a LDR anymore but I can say that you can do this. Communicate anyway you can.  You can also suggest writing letters daily while he’s away. He can give them to you when he sees you and you have something tangible for when he’s away.

Stay strong!

Post # 6
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1722 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

DH and I were LDR before we married and still are a LDR.  I do see DH every weekend, though since he is only 2 hrs away.  It sucks sometimes but we know there there is an end in sight and we just focus on that.  Cherish the time you have together; and, the time apart – you can do all the single girl things when he is away.  =)

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I would tolerate an LDR before marriage, but not after. I have a hard enough time with shift work (which I know has an end date), so I can’t even imagine what you’re dealing with. I would feel single and I wouldn’t like it at all. I’m sorry you’re dealing with it and I hope it ends soon!

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@Kandiss16:  I don’t mean “feel single” in the sense that I’d act that way, I meant feel single in the sense that he wouldn’t be around to do anything, that I’d be waking up and sleeping alone, etc. I guess “feel lonely” would be a better statement.

My man is on shift work and IT SUCKS. Some weeks I don’t see him at all. Luckily it won’t be forever, but that doesn’t take away from how much it sucks. We talk about it every week too, but he is used to humouring my neurotic behaviour 😛 

Post # 10
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252 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Kandiss16:  Hubby just left for a year deployment with the Navy so I get how you feel. From what I’m told the first few days/weeks are the worst but it does get better. Stay busy and write letters. 

Post # 11
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2065 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Kandiss16

My DH is gone every year pretty much from april to end of sept. this last year was a little different. he left for jan, feb, march he came back but was in and out till around middle of july. then was gone for a month. seen him a week for my birthday. thank god! and now hes been gone since then. which has been two and a half weeks. he wont be coming home till october 1st. 😛 Hang in there!! Its hard doing it LD. Some times i feel like i live a single life (going home to an empty apartment that kind of thing) and then on the other hand a married one. It will be like this always. its never going to change for us but i love what he does and if we didnt need insurance i would prob be out there with him. But its hard knowing that when we have kids i will also have to be a single mom for some of the year. or most the year. but i already knew all this. Writing letters is romantic! i love it! we dont always but there have been years where i will get one here and there. Be strong! In the mean time like some one said keep yourself busy. i joined softball, started art projects, tackeled the closet, bought a kayak for the summer. read a book and stay true to yourself.

its hard when people ask “how is married life” (we have been married since may) and i dont have anything to tell them cuz ive barly seen him. So i always say “ask me after winter”:)

Post # 12
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: October 2010

wow that sounds so hard……if you make it through you will be better for it though

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