Anyone else just take a break?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

Heck you are a lot more prepared then I was at this far out. I think you are definitely ok to take a break. I had a big lull in planning in the middle, and heck, didn’t order flowers til about the month before!

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I had a 2+ yr engagement, and I definitely took breaks from wedding planning!  In fact, that is why I would encourage everyone to have a longer, rather than shorter, engagement!

 

Keep in mind a wedding is not a marriage.  There were times both DH and I would get so frustrated with wedding planning BS, and then we would take a step back and realize that we loved each other and we were committed to be together for a lifetime – that is the marriage.  The wedding involved dealing with our families, vendors, money, etc. etc. While our wedding was very fun, it does not represent the life we share together.

 

OP – enjoy your break and take some time to love and just “be with” your FI!!!

 

Laughing

 

Post # 6
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11300 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I got engaged February 2012 and married this past August. I did lots of stuff early (I had the dress, reception venue/catering/DJ/etc., and photographer done in April) so that I’d have plenty of time to get things done and not stress. I did lots of DIY and spent most of last summer just relaxing. It was great.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@MrsFarm0619:  yeah you’re great!! you are so prepared! just FYI don’t wait too long on the bridesmaids’ dresses. in my experience, it can take a long time to pick them out– it took me almost a month to select (maybe longer?) and then the delivery time was 2-3 months. since june is such a popular month for weddings i’d guess you would want to start looking in january and make you decision by february. the rest of the stuff can simmer for a WHILE.

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

I wish I’d been able to take a “break,” as we had a six-month engagement (my longest “break” was a weekend.) You’re in good shape… I would just relax, and enjoy this time. It’s a neat transition in your relationship, and a really special time- just enjoy it! 🙂

Post # 11
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3756 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I got engaged last November, did all the big stuff, photographer, venue, dj, then sat around for months. Now I’m just over 6 months out and hitting it hard again but it’s more exciting because the date doesn’t seem so far away! 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@MrsFarm0619:  I took breaks for weeks at a time through the whole process! Definitely kept me sane. 

Post # 13
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664 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@MrsFarm0619:  Good thinking! We have a long engagement too, 20 months, getting married in June as well.

I noticed that I’ve been doing my planning in small spurts, not on purpose though, just get tired of it. The most stresssed out I’ve been yet was when I made a list in August of everything I had to do before December… WORST. IDEA. EVER!

I’ve decided to write out everything that still needs to be done (including when and what questions I wanted to ask certain vendors), but with one sheet per month, and I only look at the current and next month. It made me feel so much better!

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