- 7 years ago
- Wedding: August 2011
I don’t reallly have anyone one else to talk to about my worries/fears so thought i would let loose here.
I’m the main breadwinner in my relationship. I have a very good job and actually enjoy it. My fiance however is working a minimum wage paid job and hates it. His true passion is his music and its where his heart lies. He still does it on the side but has his regular day job. we’ve talked about our future many a time and he knows he needs to get a ‘career’ started. i.e. his music doesnt pay the bills and he knows he needs to get out of his minimum paid wage job. to cut a long story short he doesnt really have any ambition or drive when it comes to non-music related work. he knows he needs to find a new job however puts minimal effort into finding one. He tried hard for a while but got disheartened after sending numerous applications and not hearing anything bck (urgh dont you hate the economy??!). he looks to me for guidance about wat he should do, what his next step should be, but honestly i can tell someone what to do! i try to help him as much as possible, but i cant pick a career for someone.
Sometimes i feel like i’m the only one truly worrying about our future. I try to be supportive and i do feel bad as it is a really bad job market out there, however i dont really know how to guide him. he has no idea even where to start looking for a job. he applies on line but hears nothing. even worse that that he has no idea what he wants to do. i keep telling him, you need to figure an idea out of what you want to do longterm but he really has no idea. I think he just wants a 9-5 which pays half decent and he can come home and forget about it.
I also don’t really have anyone else to talk to about this. i know my family worry about us and our future, and dont think very highly of him because i am already the main breadwinner. Not that they are traditional but they probably expected me to be a stay at home mom, but right now that would never be on the cards.
I think basically i freak out sometimes about our future, and i want him to find the perfect job but its so hard sometimes. i want to be supportive but without being a nag. I know everyone has their worries, sometimes its nice to talk about them.
sorry this has been a ramble – I guess all i’m trying to put across is i worry about our future and it sucks that people have such strong opinions about the women being the main breadwinner 🙁