Post # 1
Don’t get me wrong – I take pride in my appearance and love clothes and shoes that make me feel like a woman. Getting dressed up now and again is a fun event – I’m not a total tomboy.
But I am so, so intimidated by dress shopping. I’m not a fashionista and have no idea what I want in a wedding dress other than to feel fabulous in it – and if it had pockets, I would consider myself in wedding heaven.
And I don’t want people looking at my dress. I know! What kind of bride am I? I’ve been to numerous weddings where the comments and compliments were, “Her gown is gorgeous! I love her dress!” And they are sweet, sincere compliments as I know the process behind picking a gown can be time-consuming and emotional.
But, as egotistical as it sounds, I want people to look at me – at the huge, unbelievably goofy, hurts-your-cheeks smile that will undoubtedly be on my face that day. My dress be damned.
My apologies to all the beautiful women who are fashionistas – more power to you! I’m just feeling a bit lost as a bride who only kinda cares about the dress…is ANYONE else feeling this way? Pretty please tell me I’m not alone…
Post # 3
You know, I had a really hard time dress shopping because I didn’t want the huge, attention-getting dress either. While I DO love fashion and I DO want people to think I look fabulous, I was more about how the dress made me feel as well. I ended up picking a very simple, classic style because I didn’t want my dress to wear me instead of the other way around.
PS- My dress has pockets. Its freaking awesome. I squealed like a teenager when I realized it. They are so worth it, if you end up finding a dress that has them.
Post # 4
I think people assume brides are all about their dress. It is kinda weird. I’d rather here ‘congratulations on your marriage’ that day than ‘I love your dress.’ I was a little whatever about dress shopping too. I hated looking at dresses until I actually went; it was just too stressful to figure out something I’d like. I mean, I really don’t like most wedding dresses. At the same time, I didn’t want a non-wedding dress dress. But yeah, I agree with you.
Post # 5
I feel the same way!!!!! I picked all of the plainest dresses out of the magazines, including a simple Priscilla of Boston dress with a belt and pockets.
Then I fell in love with an ivory and gold beaded, sparkly extravaganza, and figured, why the h*** not?
Post # 6
I agree with you…I rather hear people say what a gorgeous bride as opposed to what a gorgeous dress!
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Post # 8
I wasn’t even going to get an actual “wedding” dress, for this very reason. But my mom and sister said, well, why don’t you just try some for fun? So I did. And it was actually more fun than I expected. I didn’t try on that many because I don’t have that sort of patience, but the third one was just what I wanted even though I didn’t know it till I saw it on. So I ended up in a real wedding dress, after all. Which made me feel fabulous.
It’s not all about the dress, no way. But the dress can actually be fun, if you’re not obsessed with it … which you’re not, so I predict you will find something you love and for your sake, I hope it has pockets! 🙂
Post # 9
i am passionate about fashion, but more importantly my sense of style and making whatever i wear something that isn’t out of the norm for me (since my style has always been a bit out of the ‘norm’ for others), this is important. more important than the wedding itself? more important than marrying my best friend? absolutley not! we all have different priorities and if your’s isn’t the dress, that is 100% fine.
i’m not sure most brides want people to compliment the dress instead of them (although i’m sure there are some out there) but i do think that a lot of us want the dress to appropriatly reflect us in the best way possible. for you, if this means playing down the dress on your day, that’s perfect. i’m sure whatever you do will help YOU to look stunning on your day.
Post # 10
Love dresses lovelove them, but when it comes to a wedding dres.. eh.. I’m worried I won’t find something that suits my style. As much as I want to look & feel gorgeous in my dress, you captured my sentiments exactly
“..I want people to look at me – at the huge, unbelievably goofy, hurts-your-cheeks smile that will undoubtedly be on my face that day. My dress be damned.”
The day is about celebrating the happiness/ union between my FH & I, not the dress. Sure it’s a part of it, but the whole day doen’t revolve around it (at least for me).
Post # 11
Thank you to everyone. I was beginning to feel so strange – like I’d broken some law of femininity or something. It’s a relief to hear other women are not ga-ga over dresses as well and
@fontgoddess – here’s to hoping I find something with pockets