Post # 1
My fiance and I are paying for our wedding and because of bending to family demands on both sides, we can’t pay for a honeymoon cash right after the wedding. Neither of us want to go into debt over it, so we are going to have to do something small right after and do a bigger vaca later. People keep asking what we are doing but we don’t have a good answer and obviously aren’t going to say it is the money. The most annoying is when my fiances parent press us on it because they are a big reason the costs were so high (250 guests, Saturday night, etc etc). Anyone else dealing with this?
Post # 3
I don’t see how it’s anyone’s business why you don’t go away for a big trip immediately after. Just tell them you’ve both chosen to relax around your home after the wedding and will take a trip later. My husband and I couldn’t manage a big trip after our wedding in February. We’re headed to Spain for a week in about a month. 🙂
Post # 4
We are also waiting a while because of paying for things on our own. He wants to be sure to have enough for it to be a fun family trip, not just a honeymoon, so my girls can be there also. We talked about just having a few days somewhere simple for just the two of us.
Post # 5
Actually it can be really relaxing not to have to organise, pack for and disappear for a honeymoon straight after the wedding. Being able to chill out for a few days is great. My DH and I were talking about this only last night because we didn’t have a honeymoon (he’s got an awful lot of medical treatment to face so we decided to postpone any trip) and we both said we really haven’t missed one.
In your case I’d certainly not go into debt for a honeymoon. Take a vacation that you can afford at a later date and just tell people you prefer to save up for a really special time later. Not that it is any of their business!
Post # 6
Friends of mine who couldn’t afford a honeymoon straight away just told everyone they were going to take time to pick an amazingly epic trip rather than just settle for an average honeymoon. Ultimately, you don’t have to justify anything to anyone.
Post # 7
We’re waiting about 6 months. Partially due to money and partially due to… we don’t have any more vacation time left until winter break (teachers) after we fly home for the wedding and spend time in the US.
Post # 8
@ninatheunicorn: We weren’t planning one because we are paying for a lot of the wedding and also didn’t want to go into debt for it. But thought after the wedding we might think about it depending on what we get for gifts. Annnnnd then I found out I was pregnant… there goes that!!! lol.
Post # 9
@ninatheunicorn: We’re doing the same thing!
Our “BIG” or main honeymoon is Japan in March 2014 (getting married next month) and we’ve settled to taking off to Niagra Falls for 4-5 days after the wedding since we already have the vacation time booked (thinking we’ll leave on Tuesday so we have the monday to relax and recover from the 3-day wedding affair)
When people ask where we’re honeymooning I’m honest as anything, I tell them Japan and they ask when, I tell them next year because Japan is expensive!! Its going to be about 10,000+ for the 3 week vacation.
Post # 10
I think it is not wise to make a big trip now.You should wait a bit may be for a couple of years nad then can plan something like this.
Post # 11
We’re also paying for our own wedding and just can’t financially swing a honeymoon right after the wedding. So, we’re doing a “mini-moon” at a local resort hotel for a few days following the wedding. Spa, golf, a show, etc. Then hopfully down the road we’ll take a romantic vaca.
Post # 12
same here, we decided to wait, not really because we couldnt afford it but the money could be used somewhere else. we are trying to buy a house and plan a wedding at the same time. so we will probably wait until our 1 year anniversary to take a big trip
Post # 13
We didn’t go on a honeymoon right after either. The wedding was expensive enough (even on a $5k budget) and we didn’t want to go into debt as you said. We knew neither of us would enjoy a nice trip knowing it was putting us in the red a bit.
So what we’re doing is just waiting until next summer when DH’s family has their huge family reunion in Germany and we are heading over there.
Post # 14
I was crunching numbers the other day and finally realized we won’t be able to go on a honeymoon because we are also paying for a good portion of our wedding (half). I broke it to FI and he was quite disappointed. We wanted to spend a week in Montana fly fishing, horseback riding, visiting Yellowstone, relaxing, etc, since we aren’t really beach people. But the trip is all inclusive and costs a pretty penny, so I think we’re going to wait until our first anniversary before we take a major vacation like that. Both of our families have cottages in northern Michigan that we love to visit, so we might be going to one of them as our “honeymoon” since we now live in SE Ohio and will be traveling back to MI for the wedding. It definitely sucks, but it’ll give us something to look forward to on our 1st anniversary!
Post # 15
We can’t afford it but are STILL doing it. Nothing can replace that ”just married” high, so we refuse to budge on it. Who knows, I could get pregnant before we ever have the chance to do a delayed honeymoon. We have never taken a trip together and we probably never will again until we have kids or until the kids ARE GROWN, lol.
We are doing 5 nights instead of 7 at an all-inclusive beach resort. It will be paid off in no time, our money is just tied up at the moment.
Post # 16
We spent two days on the coast in the same hotel that we eloped at (beachfront hotel), but we really want to do a week or so out at the same hotel next year for our anniversary. Eventually we’ll get to Hawaii or somewhere tropical, but it’s just not in the budget right now.