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I care about floor length white or ivory gowns but that's about it. People keep asking me to practically go through their wardrobe with them, lol, and I just want to say, "I'm not your mommy, dress yourself!" Oh my poor guests. You'd think by now they'd know what "dressy casual" is.
One co-worker literally asked me about several items of clothing in her closet and if I thought they would work or not, and another I told him I'll just come over before and help him pick something out, lol.
@Bunny2010: Lol, I love it when people do that. It's like, "Sure, I can play personal stylist with you if you want...but can't you dress yourself?"
I don't really care about color ( I think someone in a white dress would end up looking bad, and it would be worse for them than for me), but I do care about the level of formality. I would be PISSED if someone showed up in jeans or casual clothes.
@hilsy85: Thanks for reminding me of that--man, I'd be pissed if that happened, and so would FH. He would hit them all with his terrifying BitchFace.
EDIT: Except...he just informed me that his dad will probably wear his "nice jeans" and a button-down. But that's his dad, and it's a bit lulzy anyway. If everyone did it, though...oh, man.
my mom keeps asking me what color she should wear. i don't care at all. she doesn't like that answer. the only thing i'd be annoyed with is if people showed up in inappropriately informal clothes....like jeans and a t-shirt.
I'm with you, Statutory Grape...I don't care AT ALL. A lot of my friends have been asking me what color they should wear, what style dress, etc., and I just DON'T care. I almost feel bad not having an answer for them, haha! But seriously nothing bothers me--wear black, wear white, wear the same color as the maid of honor--it doesn't matter. No one is going to get confused!
I'm just anti-white dresses. There are a million other colors in the rainbow and its my day to stand out and wear white, can't they pick another color? Any other color! That said I won't flip out if someone wears white, my wedding is in the summer. The jeans thing I think it inevitable if certain members of the family come. The last wedding my uncle showed up sporting some kickass jean shorts with a giant whole in the butt revealing his super awesome smufs boxers, it matched his hawaiian shirt and blue crocs perfectly.
And this is the second time on one of your posts where I think I mess up on voting! LOL! I don't usually read the poll question if I think its the same as the post! My bad!
I'd care if someone showed up in a white dress and/or wedding gown. I'd also not like it if anyone showed up in jeans.
We're having a formal reception and saying so on the invites. I wouldn't think too much of it if they wore shorts but looked clean, but I don't want people to look like bums :(
I don't so much care about color because everyone knows who the bride is, or else they wouldn't be invited. However, I do care about the appropriateness of the outfit. If someone showed up wearing clothes to wear to a pool party, then that would be a problem. But I wouldn't throw a hissy fit about it. I'd tell the photographer to edit her from pictures and be done with it. For the most part, I think people know well enough when something is inappropriate. So, mostly I'd feel sorry for the offending guest because she'll be dealing with an evening full of snide comments and looks.
I'm a little worried about our guests coming in super casual attire, just because our venue is "rustic." It's surprising how many people ask about what to wear. Um, how about a dress? Nice slacks? Tie? Come on, people, I know you've been to a wedding before! I don't really care about the level of formality... tux vs suit vs slacks... I just REALLY don't want anyone coming in jeans, shorts, or anything else that is vacation type wear.
I didn't care what people wore and I didnt' mind when they asked me if something was OK. I honestly only wanted to give guidance so guests felt comfortable with their choice, not so I approved. There were 3 women who wore white dresses to my wedding and I didn't even notice until it was pointed out to me with pictures afterwards. And this didn't happen, but if someone showed up in an actual white bridal gown it would be more embarassing for her than me, I can easily just tell my photographer not to get any pix of her, but she has to face the scrutiny of everyone else.
Nah. People can wear anything as long as they're wearing something.
Although our invites do say at the very bottom corner:
(not black tie)
@JennyW1: Ooh, I've been debating whether to mention dress code on the invites. I mean, it's a late evening wedding, so I'm assuming people will assume evening wear (though you know what they say about assumptions). I think telling people what to wear is a little more hassle than it's worth. It won't hurt my feelings or mess up my enjoyment of the night if FFIL wears jeans--hell, I just want him to be comfy. Though shorts or something super-revealing might bug me a little bit, because our guests *should* know better...it's in November, for chrissakes! Lol.
I don't really care what they wear. People in my town are pretty beachy-casual. I am anticipating a lot of jeans. However, I imagine my friends who live out of town will not be dressed in jeans!
I put "maybe," but for the most part I don't care at all. All I want is for people to not wear a floor length white/ivory/champagne gown, or jeans.
All I care is that my guests are dressed appropriately for the occasion. I trust their judgement (though sometimes I wonder if I should).
I'm not wearing white. My dress is a champagne color and for the reception, I'll have a burnt orange bolero over it. I would never plan to tell people to make sure guests don't wear "my colors"
If someone showed up in something that could be mistaken for a bridal gown, I'd probably laugh.
The people who will be with us that day - every.single.one of them - knows me or FI very well. Nothing that goes wrong or a person with a bad fashion sense will take away from our amazing day.
I am praying that no one shows up in an ivory or white dress and I hope no one shows up in jeans or shorts. that would be horrible! We are paying 70 bucks per person to a formal wedding so please dont wear jeans or jean shorts.
I tell everyone to "wear something that makes you feel great about yourself" I figure comfortable/confident feeling guests = happy photos :D
I would rather someone showed up in a white cotton sundress than jeans and a tee. I probably wouldn't appreciate a long ivory gown, though.
It kills me when people don't dress up for weddings. Maybe because finding a dress and getting pretty is half the fun for me. I LOVE dressing up.
I'm already married, but I honestly didn't care what my guests wore. I had more then one person show up wearing jeans and a nice shirt. It didn't bother me at all. Then again, I had a casual outdoor wedding. If it had been a formal wedding, it might have bothered me, but probably not a lot.
I don't really care what the guests wear. I'm hoping that nobody shows up in jeans, but if they do, whatever.
@Statutory Grape: Oh, it's meant as a joke. The wedding's a morning picnic brunch in a park--it's just that I chose a more formal font that the invite needed a little levity.
I don't care what color guests wear (white dresses included). But it would really bother me if someone wore something trashy, for example a female wearing something so skimpy that her boobs are practically falling out. Yech...
I don't care overly much if someone else is in white...they're the ones that will look like an idiot. But I would be upset if someone showed up in a stained t-shirt with cut off sleeves, as SO's friend did at his first wedding. Jeans, I can live with so long as they're nice jeans, and are worn with some dressier shoes and a button down shirt, or something along those lines.
We will be specifying "cocktail attire" on the invitations, and I'm hoping that people know what this means, although I have a feeling I'll be getting a lot of phone calls and emails!
I had several guests wear white to our wedding but they were cute short summer dresses that would not be mistaken for a wedding gown. If someone had worn a floor length gown that was white I would have been upset! I would have also been upset if someone dressed WAY too casually - thankfully no one did!
yeah, I don't wouldn't see any reason to get all bent out of shape over someone who was wearing one of my wedding colors. And as far as guests wearing white, whatever. It's not something I'd get my panties in a twist over. To echo some of the ladies that have just posted, if someone were to wear a dress that looked like it could be a wedding dress, she is just going to look like a moron. I certainly don't think anyone at my wedding is going to be confused about who the bride is!
I care to a certain extent—we're paying tons of money to throw a classy event, so please don't show up in jeans. Or clubbin' clothes.
Exactly what Gemstone said. No booty short, excessive cleavage, torn jeans or stained/holey t-shirts, among other things.
Yes, ditto to Gem & Zippylef. I think people should dress appropriately to what the affair calls for. That doesn't mean that all weddings will have the same dress code, but whatever the dress code is do that! If you are having a backyard bash, then white tie may look out of place, but if your having a formal wedding, leave the casual sundress at home!
i'd be ok with my guest wearing white IF she didn't know about the etiquette of not wearing white unless you are the bride. because if she knew and still does it, then she's being really rude.
i also care whether people dress properly. for example, really low cuts and mini skirts are not proper for wedding in my opinion. it's about respecting the couple who's getting married, not about showing off skin.
As long as the clothing is occasion appropriate (like what zipplef & gemstone said), beyond that I don't really mind. I know my dad loathes suits, and I don't think my FFIL even owns a suit, so I would be nonplussed to see both of them hanging out noshing cocktail weenies in 'nice' jeans & button down shirts.
Now, if someone came say in a$$less chaps.. yeah then I might care... but I would probably be laughing "DUDE! Did you know that your butt is hanging out?!?!" bwahahaha.
As for the wearing white thing, meh. I am not a big believer in 'only the bride wears white' etiquette, but that's just me -- to each their own, I would personally never wear white to someone else's wedding unless requested to, because I know the opinion on the matter varies widely, but if someone were to wear a white dress or gown to our wedding it wouldn't bother me.
the only color i care about is white. i feel that the bride should be the only one to wear white at a wedding. any other color - go for it.
i didn't care about anything except my hubby's yocal relatives wearing what they apparently think is appropriate wedding attire: short sleeved PLAID collared shirts, without the top button buttoned and undershirt showing, no tie, and wrinkled khaki pants. i dont think anyone dressed like that... i honestly didnt notice, i only noticed at other weddings of his family members. i was worried about it tho. i think one of his cousins wore black jeans and black t-shirt... god damn it, Kentucky.
My mom was curious as to what I want her to wear. I told her as long as she doesn't wear the same thing I do, I don't really care. Since my dress will be custom, I'm not really concerned about it.
Aslong as everyones happy,I dont mind what they wear,hell as long as myself and the groom turns up on time and dressed in what they SHOULD be wearing,anything else that happens during the day is just a bonus.is that too laid back?lol x
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FH's mom and stepmom both asked what colors they're okay to wear to our wedding. I'm wearing green, but I don't give a rat's ass damn WHAT people wear--hey, it's our wedding, but it's their wardrobe. Go crazy! Wear whatever you want--let's have a big, green picture of 20 people wear green. My three ladies are wearing white, so if people wear white, let's have a big cloud photo or something. It might be pretty cool.
So, does anyone honestly not give a damn what their guests wear? Someone could come in an honest-to-god white wedding gown with a train and I wouldn't care, lol. It's not like people are going to forget who the bride is. She'll be the lucky one smooching that handsome devil of a groom all night. ;)
Feel free to respond no matter what your perspective is--to each her own, right? :)