(Closed) Anyone else not doing a seating plan?

posted 7 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Are you doing a seating plan
    Yes : (37 votes)
    38 %
    No : (57 votes)
    59 %
    Other : (3 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Wedding date twin!  We’re not doing arranged seating either.  We have 5 tables reserved for family (HUGE families) and will otherwise allow people to sit where they want.  I’m not sure if it’s regional or not, but of the 40+ weddings I’ve attended through the years, I’ve only had assigned seating at TWO.

    Post # 4
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    It probably is regional, because most weddings I have been to have assigned seating. So, if no assignments is what you want to do/what your guests are comfortable with, go for it! 

    Post # 5
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    All the weddings I have been to have had assigned seating.

    Just wondering though, how many guests will you have? Do you think it matters if the number is small or large?

    Post # 6
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    We did the same thing!  You should be fine.  ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 7
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    Nope, we’re not gonna worry about it.  We figure our family and friends are adults and can choose where they wanna sit. ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 8
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    i used to be very much in the “you have to have seating!” camp, but this weekend i went to a wedding without assigned seats and it worked out fabulously.

    although my venue is going to charge per place set at a table, so you better believe i will be giving them exact numbers and the easiest way for me to make sure of that is assigned seats.  so yes, i’m having them ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 9
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    693 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    150ish guests with assigned tables.  Roughly his-side and her-side.

    Post # 10
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    We aren’t doing one either!  We’re having a “feasting table” for the bridal party and their guests (it’s like a head table but people will be seated all the way around it) and an “honored guest table” for parents and grandparents.

    Out of the 4 weddings I went to this summer, none of them had seating plans.  The best way to do it, in my opinion, is to have several extra tables so there’s more than enough room for everyone to sit with their date/family.  One of the weddings I went to failed to do this, and it caused some problems (people sitting on laps, on the floor, squeezed into chairs together–not a pretty picture).  The other important thing is to always let the bridal party sit with their dates.  I have experienced being separated from my FI at a wedding in which he was in the bridal party, and it absolutely SUCKS!

    Other than that, not having a seating plan can be great.  It really allows you to mingle with anyone you want and not feel “pinned down” to a single seat.  It also lets me feel less like I’m in middle school ๐Ÿ˜›

    Post # 11
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    We are doing a seatting arrangement, I’ve only been to 2 wedding without one and it didn’t really work out very well at either of them.  It always seems to be the same issue where 15 people try to cram into a table for 8 because they want to sit with their friends.  Leaving several tables with 2 or 3 people or completely empty.

    Post # 12
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    No assigned seating here other than the head table.  It just isnt done where I am at

    Post # 13
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Our dinner is going to be small, just for the ceremony guests (so around 70 people).  The bridal party will be at a round table smack in the middle of the room, and there will be a long table next to us reserved for parents and grandparents.  Other than that…sit where you want.

    Post # 14
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I am on the fence, myself. I just don’t want people to spend too long looking for a place to sit where their whole family can fit. But I don’t want to force people to sit somewhere either. I might just do reserved tables for family and wish the rest of the guests luck! lol

    Post # 15
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    We are having assigned seating because my FI went to a wedding with no seating assignments and hated it.  But he said they didn’t have enough seats to encourage mingling, and that was the worst part of it. 

    Post # 16
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    In personal experience I hate it when I can sit wherever.

    Last wedding I was at was open seating and FI and I sat next to people 3X our age and wished we were sitting at a table with people we had more in common with (they weren’t even our relatives, they were from the bride’s side of the family). I mean I know that we were only sitting for at most 45 minutes during dinner, but we kind of felt like the uncool kids who didn’t get a seat with everyone else. 

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