Post # 1
Since FI and I are paying for our wedding ourselves, we have decided to not do an open bar. We were thinking of paying the first drink or first two drinks but thats it. Anyone else doing this? Do we have to write something on the invitation?
Post # 3
I wouldn’t write that on the invitation but I would include it on your wedding website so that people aren’t caught off guard and don’t have any cash on hand (if they accept credit cards, that’s much better).
Also, I would have a note at the bar the day of if you are going to do this. Maybe you could consider only beer and wine (which you can buy cheaply in bulk and bring to your location for cost savings).
Post # 4
I agree with MissAsB about looking into serving beer and wine and then make people pay for their own liquor. One fo those 2 things will usually satisfy almost anyone. The beer and wine thing is what I wanted. I dont drink and neither does FI, so we saw no point in a full open bar. My mom threw a hissy fit about how rude it was so we figured, hey she’s paying.
Post # 5
The wine and beer is a great idea. We are having these options and then picking a few signature drinks that will be pre-made. Instead of paying for everyone’s 1st couple drinks you could go buy enough liquor to make 2 signature drinks.. maybe you and your FI’s favorites. For example we are doing a Martini and a Mojito so we will pay the supplies for those 2 drinks and if anyone get something other than beer, wine, the mojito, or martini then it comes out of their pocket.
Post # 6
We aren’t doing an open bar. We decided instead to just do soda, tea, coffee and then sangria.
Post # 7
We are doing an open bar for our one hour cocktail hour because I don’t want people to worry about bringing cash. But in order to save money (and not have roaring drunk people who then have to drive) we are only doing beer and wine at dinner, which is great because Oregon is known for their beer and wine! So it should work out perfectly. I think we’re also going to do one signature drink.
Post # 8
We hosted beer, wine, and champagne for 4 hours… with an optional cash bar. That way, our guests had their choice and it didn’t break our bank!
Post # 9
The only thing is the venue provides the alcohol so I cant bring anything form outside…
Post # 10
We are providing wine (red and white) and champagne. The rest is cash bar. Our venue provides all alcohol, and at a minimum of $5 per beverage I wasn’t comfortable budget-wise holding that bag! We have spread the word through family, and since that is a common set-up bar wise in our circles, I doubt anyone will have an issue.
Post # 11
I’m in the same boat where our venue won’t let us bring in outside alcohol. No open bar for us! We might do a signature drink though and provide beer, but that’s about it. I know a lot of people think cash bars are tacky, but most of the weddings I’ve been to have had a similar situation.
Post # 12
I’m NOT doing an open bar, and I am very comfortable with that decision. At first I was concerned, but the more I thought about it the more it made sense. I’m not made of money and I’m supplying a band and a DJ, free food a dessert bar a cannoli bar and cake! I think that is plenty of freebees! I know some people think its tacky, but i think…too bad! Its really too bad that weddings have come to this. The very best wedding I’ve ever been to, was in my friends back yard and it was pot luck! It was so much fun and so laid back. I wish I could do that. Unfortunately for me, even though I SAY I don;t care what people think, I do and I think if I’m Not doing an open bar…pot luck is out of the question. Its your day, and I think that in todays world people should be more aware of how much these wedding costs and hopefully understand.
Post # 14
Hiya, we aren’t doing an open bar either. All we’re including is the toast…which will be a specialty drink. We did this to save money and to not have friends and family take advantage!
Post # 15
we are doing:
3 kegs of beer (free) – Coors Light, New Castle and Miller Light.
soda pop and water (free)
and i THINK the bridal party will have a “tab” that we’ll pay later since obviously we won’t make the bridal party pay for their drinks. 🙂
Post # 16
Agreed, I am having mine at a place were I can not bring in outside food or drink and at $5-8 a pop for beer and liquor, I just can’t do that, I am paying for sodas and tee though, and am having wine service with dinner.
I am also afraid my family would take advantage of it too, my FI and I are paying for the whole wedding and my Mom and Dad drink like fishes I can see the two of them packing away $100 dollars worth of booze by themselves! And I have several family members driving into town (1 hr drive) & I don’t want anyone to drive drunk!