(Closed) Anyone else NOT enjoy dress shopping?

posted 6 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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949 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

YES! Though for totally different reasons, oddly enough. I’m fine being nekkid in front of people who see similar all day, and wasn’t too worried about messing the dresses up, I just felt kind of let down by so many dresses, and very “eh” about a few. I’ve ordered one that I couldn’t find to try on, and now I’m starting to worry that it might still noa make me feel how I want to feel about my dress. The whole thing just carries a lot of pressure, I didn’t think it was much fun.

Post # 4
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10714 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

I hated it and I’m not looking forward to going in for alterations =( 

I hated someone seeing me without clothing I was surely sweating and gross too from the stress and I felt like I was going to cry when dresses didn’t zip up. 

Post # 5
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902 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I am NOT enjoying the dress shopping one bit.  I bought a dress and now I really hate it, the store consultant said I can’t get a refund only an exchange.  Well, that’s fine if I liked any dresses in their store but currently I dont, and the 6 other dresses that I am swooning over they dont even have available in my state to try on.  So they said I could order it if I wanted to try it on… but seriously.. why would I do that if you wont give me a refund if I hate it in person. 

So I called another store about 2 hours away asking the exact thing and this store manager said as long as I do not have the dress in my possession they should either cancel the order or refund it.  Now if I had the dress its a different story they can only exchange it..

I am going back next Tuesday again to try on more dresses and pray that I find one I like because if I don’t I’m going to seek another bridal shop out of town because David’s Bridal is just being one big bitch to get the “wow” dress experience I am hoping fo

Post # 5
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2854 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I did feel really wierd knowing there were people just sitting around waiting for me to try on dresses. I normally clothes-shop solo. And I HATE waiting for people in a store when I’m not buying something myself (although I’m good about keeping it in 🙂 ). 

I also felt a lot of pressure to pick the “right” dress. Not from anyone in particular, just in my head – knowing that I had to pick one dress, and that was going to be it, there would be no maybes from that point out. But I get that about many things. Drives me to indecision quite a bit. :

Post # 7
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569 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I have only been out looking once…the lady had me and my mom go around and pull 3 or 4 dresses we loved….Seeing them in pictures, and seeing them in person are totally different!!!  I hated all of them!  They were heavy, and just not pretty…Kind of a shock for me…I’m going to try again though 🙂

Post # 8
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4352 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

When I went, I knew which dress I wanted, and I made sure they had that designer. But I also knew I was not going to purchase it from that store. I could only afford the dress used, (really I could only afford any dress used) and I felt so awkward about using someone’s time knowing I would not make a purchase. But I didn’t want to order the dress preowned without ever having tried a dress on, and I knew there wouldn’t be one close to me. So I went. And it turned out they didn’t even have the dress. I assumed they would because it was a really popular one, but they didn’t. I couldn’t enjoy it after that because she was pulling such different things. I left really sad and weird feeling. Then I went online and ordered the dress (she did pull one that was really similar and amazing, but I wanted to remove the applique and the dress I had been lusting after was basically that dress with no applique). I got it and I just felt so releived that it was perfect and I didn’t have to go again. Alterations will be pretty minimal bc the dress came fitting perfectly so it just needs a bustle. I’m not shy so I hope that part won’t be as weird.

Post # 9
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774 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

The first time I went it was an ok experience, the first salon was good, second was ok…but they pulled the dresses for you…and everyone they pulled was something I told them in the begining I didnt want…and the third…well the dresses were amazing, but the store owner was a bit of a cow. The second time I went, the store was amazing, and the consultant was good and I ended up finding my dress!

I just wish I could have gone with my mom and dad. My sisters came with my mom the first time and they were just to much, being rude, loud, and fighting…so it wasnt fun. The second it was my FMIL and friend, it was good….but I wish it would have been my parents.

Post # 10
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790 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I didn’t get sweaty but at one appointment my cheeks and chest got SUPER red and splotchy. And now I realized I have to worry about that happening at the actual wedding! No, I didn’t like it. I hate being the center of attention, don’t like sales pressure in general, didn’t like having to come out for the “big reveal” at stores where there were multiple customers trying on dresses at once (especially when there was no mirror in the dressing room), and in general it was just frustrating because I really wanted a non-strapless dress and there still aren’t many, and a couple of the consultants acted like I was naive for wanting a non-strapless dress and kept trying to find out WHY I didn’t want one. Um…because I don’t?! Seriously, it’s not like I was asking for a dress made out of cheese! So I was very very happy to put that behind me.

Post # 11
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879 posts
Busy bee

You’re not alone.  I’ve had a mix of emotions gown shopping.  Part of it is that everytime I go, I’m by myself.  My Mom and most of my friends live almost 2,000 miles away from me.  So it feels a little bittersweet to me everytime I go.

I also never buy anything for myself.  I always feel too guilty spending money on things I want rather than need.  Obviously I need a wedding dress lol, but even the inexpensive ones that I’ve liked I still have a hard time with.

And I believe another bee mentioned this earlier, but it feels awkward when you come out of the dressing room and other people are staring at you on the podium.  On my last visit to Alfred Angelo, when I was having a moment in the Sleeping Beauty gown, an older woman leaned forward and said “I’m sorry, but the other gown looked so much better on you.  I don’t like this one.”  Um, what?  Yeah, sadly, that actually happened.

Post # 12
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2363 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I loved it and I hated it.  It was exhilarating to try on such beautiful clothes and to be the center of attention.  At the same time, I was incredibly anxious about choosing a dress and possibly making the wrong choice (and wasting my mother’s money).  I had trouble eating on dress days and often cried out of sheer exhaustion.

Post # 13
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3175 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I felt pretty neutral about it, which makes me feel like a lame bride lol. I bought the 3rd dress I tried on, at the first store I went to, and it doesn’t need alterations. So, I spent all of 30 minutes worrying about dresses. Wedding dresses are designed to flatter a woman, and I just thought they all looked good. Mine is simple, flattering, and best of all, decided upon!

Post # 14
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14503 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I really didn’t enjoy it when I was with people, but I loved it when I went in the middle of the week, middle of the day, and all on my own.  I do have to say that bored sale ladies are the best to work with and all of them let me get into the dresses on my own and just let me come out to pin it or zip it up.  I then took myself for a nice lunch and a cocktail (ok and maybe a new purse or shoes here and there).  I do believe that helped a lot.

Post # 15
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1061 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I was kist Meh about it.  I was on a very tight timeline to place an order, so I went with just my parents.  The shop had decent selection overall, but not much of the specific type of dress I was looking for (aka NOT a poofy ballgown).  I tired on maybe 5 dresses, came out in the one I got, we all liked it, so I pulled the trigger.  No tears or jumping up and down.  Very underwhelming.

In the end, it turned out it was the most popular dress of all time (lol) which bugged me too.

I felt great that day though, especially once I was all done up!

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