Post # 1
Early on my guy and I mutually agreed that we would not be Facebook friends.
He’s not that into social networking and rarely posts anything. And I have had two bad experiences with exes where I found out they were cheating on me from social networking sites. So I’m maybe a little more suspicious than most people would be and didn’t want unwarranted jealousy to occur. We also just felt it is unnecessary for us to be friends there when we talk constantly. And we both hate seeing mutual friends who are couples always posting mushy things on each other’s walls.
Then, a couple of months ago, I read in a magazine that it’s usually beneficial for couples NOT to be Facebook/social networking friends. And they listed many of the reasons that we had for not being fb friends.
So I’m curious if any other couples here have also chosen to do this and what your reasoning behind it is.
Post # 3
We have the same social group and so yea… it’d be kinda weird if we weren’t. I post more than he does BUT we do both still post and then since we use it to keep in touch with family we have all of our family as “family” DH as my married to, my mom, sis, etc.
I guess whatever works for you works for you.
Post # 4
My FI and I are friends on fb. We do talk a lot (obviously), but we don’t live together so we still “post” a lot on each others wall and goof around on there. I understand where you are coming from though. Personally, not being friends with him on there would make me wonder all the time since you said you have been cheated on before (through facebook ?) but I am a bit of a worry bee.
Post # 5
Haha, my DH got a facebook a couple years ago, but he only has like 10 friends. He literally has it completely locked down and after the recent privacy changes, I can’t even see his page. Neither can any of his other friends. It’s pointless – he just uses mine. I keep asking him and he’s just like “I don’t want to get into using it”.
But it does drive me crazy when I see couples post “I love you so much honeybear, you’re the bestest bestie every! Don’t eat all my saltines!”
There is no need to post on each other’s walls if you are in the same room.
Post # 6
My FI hates Facebook, so no, we aren’t FB friends. 🙂
Post # 7
DH doesn’t have facebook.
Post # 8
Yeah, pretty much what @runsyellowlites: described, sums up our FB usage as well.
But I’m with you on the whole constantly writing back and forth on each other’s walls/page. I don’t get it. Either it’s all mushy mushy, or it’s dramariffic (don’t get me started on that, I HATE when ppl air their dirty laundry like that on FB), or they’re in the same effing house, facebooking back and forth. Stop it. Just stop.
Post # 9
@Wonderwoman217: lol, same couple that posted the mushy crap I said also had a *very* public breakup on facebook. classsssyyy. They are now married.
Post # 10
I think we’re in what I would classify as the FB generation, so it would be weird if we weren’t. His phone was actually broken when we met, so he didn’t ask for my phone number, he asked if he could friend me. It’s just part of our culture.
Post # 11
I found out those guys cheated from MySpace (this was a few years back, obviously).
The first one I accidentally stumbled upon a cheesy blog poem a girl had written about him that made it pretty clear what happened between them. I called and confronted him and he admitted that he’d slept with her.
The second time I was living with the guy and he forgot to turn his computer off. When I went to turn it off it was opened to his inbox which was filled top to bottom with emails from a very attractive girl. The subject of the newest message was “are we still on for lunch today?” I didn’t read any of the messages, but I did ask him about it when he came home that night.
Post # 12
SO and I work opposing shifts (I work 11 am – 7 pm, he works 7 pm – 7 am) so even though we live together, we don’t see each other much. He gets a lot of downtime at work so he will often get on fb and we chat in the evenings while I check my websites and blogs. It’s nice to have that — way more convenient than texting. So, yeah, being fb friends is beneficial to us.
And we are completely guilty of the mushy romantic posts. I mean, it’s not all the time, but it happens. And I know it drives people crazy, which is why I try to keep it to a minimum, but sometimes we just can’t help ourselves 🙂
Post # 13
FI and I are facebook friends, but we never use it to talk to each other. In Fact, we both rarely go on it anymore.
My last serious relationship actually blocked me and told me he deleted his, and then I found out he was cheating on me. What a winner he was.
But FI and I are very open and have a much stronger relationship than any of our past relationships. So I’m not worried about any drama 🙂
Post # 14
I’d rather see who my FI talks to than not see. Were definitely facebook friends. I also write on his wall maybe once a month to let him know I miss him and love him while he’s at work because he likes that. He only gets on to play the games lately but I’m on all day everyday.
Post # 15
SO does not have a fb and I rarely ever go on mine so nope only friends and lovers in IRL lol 😉
Post # 16
He barely checks his emails, hates computers, despises social media. So no.