Anyone else not get baby fever 'till AFTER starting to tcc??

posted 3 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
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Helper bee

I wouldn’t say that I didn’t have baby fever before, but it has definitely ramped up since starting to TTC. Before, I was kind of like “it will be so exciting to have babies! I’m SO looking forward to that! But we’re relatively young and if it takes a bit that’s fine… when it happens it will be great!”

But now we’re actually TTC, and I just want to be pregnant NOW! The BFNs make me so sad. We feel like something is missing… like our family isn’t complete. I don’t think we ever felt “incomplete” before we were actively trying. 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I dunno!  I desperately wanted kiddos for years.  Recently my husband and I have realized that now might be the perfect time to go for it.  Now I’m TERRIFIED!  I think that part of the reason it’s good for us to have a kiddo is that my career is on a temporary hiatus.  So it’s becoming a huge life transition… 

 But maybe once we go for it, I’ll be gung ho.  You ladies are giving me hope!

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@MrsZapatos:  I hear ya, baby fever is no joke. I’m going to start trying this  cycle, but have been ready to try for months… 🙂

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@MrsZapatos:  I didn’t have baby fever until I got pregnant lol. Good luck in your TTC efforts – hope you get your BFP soon! 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Oh man, I’m right with you. This is only our second cycle trying, but now I’m like “WTF?!” I guess after so many years convinced that I would get pregnant instantly if I slipped up with the pill, I’m baffled by the feeling that, now that I want it, I’ll never get pregnant. Sigh.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@MrsZapatos:  I didn’t have baby fever until I got engaged. Before that, I was certain that we’d be child free forever. I had been adamant about never having children since I was a kid, and my parents/friends have been really surprised by my sudden change of heart!

Now I spend downtime looking at mommy blogs and telling my FI how we need to buy a Sophie the Giraffe for our baby. 

If you’ve spent a good while thinking about not having kids, then it suddenly becomes a possibility, I think baby fever hits even harder than usual. I think your baby fever now is totally normal! Good luck on a speedy bfp!

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I wasn’t one of those people who seem to have baby fever started as a teenager!

I wasn’t sure I wanted to have kids and actually delayed our engagement to figure it out, since I knew that my husband definitely wanted to. But I came to the decision that I wanted one. During the engagement, I still thought about it (particularly pregnancy and delivery and the newborn period) with a good amount of dread, which was fine because I was not willing to be pregnant on our honeymoon! After the honeymoon I decided that I should psych myself up and started trying to foster baby fever. I watch TV shows and movies about pregnancy/babies and offer to watch my friend’s babies. It has totally worked. I’m excited at the thought of a baby. Still a little scared, but that’s fine. Of course, now that I’m all excited we can’t start trying because we’re living in different towns for at least the next few months. Wah wah. So I’m just letting my baby fever simmer and starting to take vitamins so that we’ll be ready to go once we are together again. 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I am currently pregnant and overdue.  It was a planned pregnancy.  And I STILL don’t feel like I have “baby fever”.  I am more interested in having an older kid than in baby stuff.  I’m looking forward to meeting my baby, and I’m counting on my hormones to get me to where I need to be in terms of parenting an infant.

We both wanted to have a child, but we liked our childfree lifestyle a lot.  There are sacrifices involved, and it’s too early to experience the tangible joys of having a child.  I know some people love being pregnant but I am not one of them!

 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m definitely on the same page. Before ttc we were both thinking kids were nice and someday in the future perhaps we would have our own… Then we started ttc and everything changed. We’re approaching our fifth month of ttc and it’s so getting to me. It literally feels like EVERYONE are posting Facebook updates with ultrasound pictures, and I read in pregnancies in pretty much anyone we know. Not drinking – pregnant. Thinking of buying a house – pregnant. Planning to switch jobs – pregnant. Meanwhile, my husband confessed yesterday that he’s worried there’s something wrong with his sperms, which made me lie awake in bed wondering if something was wrong with me. TTC messes with your head for sure! Just hoping that we get our bfp soon, so that any irrational thoughts can at least be blamed on pregnancy hormones! 🙂

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2024

I didn’t have baby fever before TTC either. SO & I decided we want a kid so we should start TTC but I didn’t have baby fever, we are on our first month TTC and I now have full blown baby fever. I even have a secret pinterest baby board…I’ve basically picked out the entire registry without being pregnant lol.

Post # 13
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Busy bee

Thank you all for speaking up! DH and I are loving being DINKs.  We could both go either way, but are leaning towards TTC.  However, I don’t have baby fever, I think I’d be a good mom eventually, but the whole pregnancy thing scares me and other peoples kids are still annoying.  I am so glad to hear that there are pregnant bees out there who still haven’t felt the baby fever.  Maybe not everyone gets it? Maybe its not indicative of the kind of parent you’ll be? I’m hoping!

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I didn’t have baby fever until we started TTC. I always wanted to adopt only, and never imagined myself being pregnant or having a baby. When we started TTC it was with the agreement that we would have 1-2 biological kids (DH wants at least one bio kid) and then adopt 1-2 older kids.  We both have always wanted to be parents 🙂 But now that we’ve been trying for 8 months, I really want to have a baby and I would have never imagined that I would feel this way.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2000

Hmm, I’m currently 12wks preggo, and still no baby fever! lol

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

DH and I knew in theory that we wanted kids.  Both of us being 37 when we married made us jump into TTC right away, though we both would have preferred to wait a few years.  We got pregnant right away, but I didn’t feel any strong urge to carry a child until I started having problems with the pregnancy.  I was like, “Well, I guess I do want kids now. At least there’s that.”  I never gave it much thought before – never daydreamed, never felt the need to hold babies, etc. I am grateful to know this is something that I want, rather than something that needed to get started due to timing. Before, I was almost resentful that our happy little lives had to change.

I’m not surprised. I’d been single for a while before I met DH, and it took me a while to adjust to even having a boyfriend. The fact that I have a husband blows my mind 🙂

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