Post # 1
So I purchased my dress today after spending several days looking at the bridal salons that carried dresses in my price range and trying like 30 on. I was really torn between two vastly different gowns. One was very fashion forward and glamorous and the other is timeless and elegant. I would have just sat on the decision for a while but the gown I went with was discontinued and they only had one in my size plus it was on sale and my parents told me they wanted to buy my dress so keeping it in budget was important. After sleeping on it I chose timeless and elegant because I don’t want to look back on my wedding pictures in ten years and wonder what I was thinking ala 1980’s.
So my problem is I really loved both but I never was like “this is it, I have to have it or I’ll die”, and that worries me. I know when I integrate the antique brooch I want to wear and some other elements the dress will be lovely, is lovely good enough?
It’s not like there are tons of options where I live and I don’t have the drive to keep trying on dress after dress. This dress fits perfect off the rack it just needs hemming so that helps with cost as well. There isn’t anything I would change about the gown other than add an asymmetrical flower shoulder strap, which was the best element about the 2nd dress that I liked, and I am having one added to this one. The 2nd dress had a few things I would want to change which would have meant custom ordering and paying extra.
I just feel like I should be doing back flips in the back yard over my dress and if I am not that means something is wrong. Although I don’t really jump up and down and squeal about anything, I am kind of laid back and practical.
Post # 3
Personally, I would have gone with the classic too; but I’ve never really been a fashion-forward kind of person.
Sometimes I wonder if too much emphasis is put on the dress. Sure, you want it to be wonderful and beautiful, but when it comes down to it, it’s just an accessory, right? It’s not as though your FI is going to love you any differently based on what you’re wearing.
And from what you describe, this one will certainly have some ‘Wow!’ factor, especially because you’re adding to it to make it your own!
Post # 4
I never had that “OMG I must have this dress” moment. I went to a few salons in the Midwest then flew to NYC to try some dresses on. I figured that if I couldn’t find one there I wouldn’t find one at all. After a day of searching in NYC, I went with a beautiful dress but it’s not like I ever had tears or even had that “okay, this is my dress” moment. I just had the “okay, I’m only trying on dresses one day in NYC and if I can’t find it here I will probably have trouble finding it somewhere else,” so I ended up going with my favorite of the day which is still a gorgeous dress and the one that inspired me to go to the city.
Some people aren’t the backflips and tears sort of gals… including myself.
Post # 5
I had a pretty matter-of-fact reaction to mine. I had tried on so many different styles and liked nearly everything I tried. When I put my dress on I just thought – this is it. Nothing emotional, nothing overwhelming, nothing too earth-shattering. Just pictured my groom beside me and it all kinda clicked. I went through the second guessing and had a 2nd dress that I just couldn’t get out of my head until I just decided to let myself off the hook and be happy with the dress I picked. I really was happy with it, I just kept making myself a little crazy over the ‘what if’s’
In the end it fit everything I pictured for my wedding dress – not to say that others wouldn’t have been great too, it was just that I had to pick one and I was very happy with the one I picked!
If you had two that you chose between you might be second guessing if you picked the other one so let yourself off the hook and take the other dress out of the equation like I did – it was more of a relief than anything! Good luck!
Post # 6
I suggest you read through Mrs Swan’s blog. A couple of weeks ago she wrote an ‘Amen Sister’ piece about picking a dress.
Post # 7
I have the exact issue….dress 1 for me is more “trendy” with an asymetrical strap, while dress 2 really made me feel like a bride. It had the gorgeous train, the lace and silk material was TDF. I decided to simply add the strap to my “dress 2” and i was blown away. BOth dresses are a similar shape, and the same designer…i think timeless and elegant is the way to go…
Post # 8
I went with “this works, looks nice and is in budget”. When there was a possibiility it might not come through (dress came in made wrong), I looked around online and found a back up dress that also”works, looks nice, is in budget and (more importantly) could get here in time”.
So no, I don’t think the dress needs to be “the one”. I think it just needs to be something you’re happy with. I’d be happy with one of several dresses, so as long as I get one of those, I’m good.
(In general, I think timeless and elegant is almost always the better bet!)
Post # 9
I actually got the ‘this is the one’ feeling with a different dress than I ordered. It was way out of my prices range- so I found one very similar that I LOVEEEE but I definitely would have chosed dress #1. I am happy though 🙂
Post # 10
I tried a few dresses with my budget, chose what I liked best (then changed my mind later and bought another one…), but never had the emotional moment girls get on the reality shows, even with the second dress, which I have no regrets over now.
Post # 11
I feel the same way. No tears, no “omg, I love it”. I liked another dress but it was not as flattering as the one I got. It was on sale and it fits wonderfully and I’m really comfortable in it. And it’s really flattering. I love fashion but I am a firm believer in “if you don’t feel comfortable, you’re not going to look good” rule.
Post # 12
Oh gosh! I am that girl too! I kind of like my dress. It’s very pretty, and well made, and I can appreciate that. But after 164 dresses, I never had an “ah ha!” moment. So when things got down to the wire, I just bought this one. I’m sure I’ll look nice, but I am not too excited to wear it.
Post # 13
I didn’t have “the moment” either. Honestly, I really liked a lot of the dresses I tried on, and I would have been happy with many of them. I chose my dress because the fabric was beautiful, it looked good on me, and it was under budget. On the day of my wedding, I loved it and felt fantastic in it. It served its purpose and now I’ll always love that dress because it’s what I wore at my wedding. Don’t stress yourself out about not having “the moment” – I don’t think all of us are wired that way 🙂
Post # 14
I saw mine online and thought “wow I bet that’s it!” and I scoured the bridal salons looking for it. When I tried it on, I thought it was beautiful, and that it worked, and I was just so happy to have found a dress I liked at all that I bought it. I went through a period of doubt since I didn’t cry or squeal or anything, I just stood there and looked at myself for 10 minutes. I think these ridiculous Dress shows on HGTV and crap really blow it all out of proportion and make us doubt ourselves when we obviously thought it was a fabulous dress. We can dig around on the internet for the perfect dress, but in the end, who cares? As long as you feel lovely and beautiful, your pictures will show it and that’s all that matters.
i was just thinking the other day that the way models pose on these websites is so ridiculous, none of them look like a happy bride, and so half the time the model looks kind of stupid in the dress. On the other hand, I’ve never been to a blog or seen a picture from a wedding where I didn’t think the bride looked absolutely stunning, and its because her beauty made the dress, the dress didn’t define her 🙂
Post # 15
i totally felt the same way. but, i don’t really think i was super obsessed with having an absolutely perfect dress. I knew that no matter what I wore, my FI would think i looked incredible. and I never, ever will wear it again. I wanted to spend my money on an amazing honeymoon and an amazing photographer. those are the things that will last. no matter what i got, i knew that in 30 years i would look back and think about how hideous it was.
don’t get me wrong, i like the dress, but i definitely did not have a crazy “this is the one” moment. i was just look “oh, this is pretty. let’s buy it.”
Post # 16
p.s. this was the 8th dress i tried on it. after trying on 8 dresses i knew that i:
a. didn’t like strapless
b. didn’t like white
c. didn’t like mermaid
d. didn’t like ball gowns
e. didn’t like beading
and this dress had none of the above. so i got it (a SAMPLE at $700!!!)