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I used to see movies or tv shows where the parents of the bride and groom hadn't met yet and think to myself 'how does that happen?'.
And yet... here I sit. Less than 3 months before our wedding... and my parents haven't met his mother or his father, and I've never even met his father!
I'm sure my parents and his mom will meet in the next few weeks, and I'm trying not to stress too much about it. My mom can be super bitchy and snooty. And I'm hoping she's nothing but roses and sugar when she meets my future mother in law who comes from a crazy different upbringing.
Meeting his father... who knows when that will happen! My guess is I won't even get to meet him before the wedding.
Anyone else in this situation? It's been a LONG time since I had parents meeting other parents in relationships... any tips? :)
Our parents haven't met. His mom came out a week before my mom and they missed each other on their trips last fall. His dad had no interest in meeting my mom so that didn't happen. His dad hasn't met my aunt and uncle either and they live about 4 blocks from each other.
I don't think anyone is going to be meeting before the wedding to be quite frank. I just think that they have to little in common to ever be friends so it is just best maybe that they do meet at the wedding.
Since my parents live in Texas and my FIL live in South Africa, they won't meet until 3 days before the wedding... I'm going to make sure my mom really slows down her speech because the FIL speak English, but can't understand when I speak too fast and my mom talks REALLY fast. Other than that, I'm not too worried because both of our parents are pretty easy going.
I guess if it was my mom, I would try to just tell her to behave :) when they meet. lol And with the Dad, I guess just say hi at the ceremony when you meet him. If you haven't met him yet, it doesn't seem like they are very close and I wouldn't be worried about making such a good impression. Good luck!
We all live in the same state, but my parents hadn't met DH's father and step-mother, until we threw a bridal party meet and greet party at our home approximatley one month prior to the wedding. Dh's father and step-mom are from a very different religous background, one in which my father describes as a cult. We had pushed off them meeting in fear of what could happen. My father is a very outspoken Texan. However, it went well and there were no issues. After my father said I was on my best behaivor because I love you. They haven't seen each other since the wedding and I don't think that they ever will again.
"how does that happen?"....well, a LOT of people live far away from their families. A LOT of people marry people who are from places far away from where they grew up. I live in Boston, but my family are in TX and CA. My husband is from DC and his family is there and in FL. Our parents all met at the wedding, because it just wasn't really possible for it to happen before then. Short of a couple high school friends, I really don't know anyone who lives where they grew up and married someone from close to their home town.
Yep our mothers haven't met yet! (Our fathers are both out-of-the-picture)
I hadn't really given it much thought, but they don't live near each other and his mother works all the time and only has like one day off a week to recoup which she spends relaxing, so she just doesn't have the time to be able to meet my mom before the wedding! I think they will get along fine, though, because they are both strong single-mothers. :)
Our parents haven't met properly yet (were once introduced briefly in passing). However, they live very close to each other (only about 10miles apart). Me and my OH live about 50 miles away and see both sets of parents fairly regularly. One day (sometime before the wedding) we'll take them out for dinner together... Probably...
DH didn't meet my mom until she flew up a week before our wedding. She met my ILs a few days before. My dad didn't meet anyone until 2 nights before, and my stepmom not until the rehearsal dinner. My family lives in TX, and we (and ILs) live in PA.
I was super worried it was going to be awkward, but for two things: 1) I have the greatest ILs in the world, and they did their best to make every feel like family, and 2) Even if #1 didn't apply, their kids were getting married, and they had shared excitement over that.
Four years and our families have never met. Our mom's will be meeting in May when they both come for a weekend visit. We both think they will get along great so were not worried about it. Everyone else will just meet each other in the days leading up to the wedding.
Our parents didn't meet until about 3 months before our wedding.
Our parents haven't met! My mom lives in AL and I live in GA now. FI's parents both live here. They'll probably meet before the wedding though. I don't forsee any problems.
Our parents met, but only because mine came from Ohio to visit us here in Cali over the Christmas holiday. Otherwise, I imagine there would not have been an opportunity for an in-person introduction except in the days before the wedding...
Nope our parents haven't met yet. At this rate they'll meet at the wedding. Geez! I think neutral territory is good, like a new restaurant you both want to try. That way there's no home court advantage.
I've net the parents, but our parents haven't met each other. We're just over 2 months out!
Our parents haven't met and wont until a day before the wedding. I have only met one of his siblings also.
I doubt my parents will meet his dad until the day of the wedding, and I am totally fine with it!
I'm in the same boat... our parents probably won't meet until the wedding... thats if his dad is even in well enough condition to make it down here. Glad I have had the chance to meet everyone!
The women in our families will probably meet at my bridal shower. But everyone else will meet at my college graduation about 3 weeks before the wedding.
Our parents haven't met yet. His parents live several states away from mine and so it has been difficult to get them together. My parents have met his brother and brother-in-law, though ;-) Our moms have talked on the phone already and should have the chance to meet at my bridal shower though!
Our parents havent met. My mom and her husband are in OH. Dad is in the same state as us. FI mom is in NY and dad is in FL. In fact our families havent met each other at all.
Yeah, our parents haven't met each other, and we are getting married in two months! We're an interracial couple, and his mother was not pleasant towards me initially (to make an understatement). My mom and dad both know this, so they have a somewhat low opinion of her now. Also, his mother had a stroke a couple of years back and doesn't communicate well now because of it. Basically, everyone has avoided meeting each other. It probably won't happen until the rehearsal dinner. Eek. So I totally understand. Probably we're just making it worse by avoiding the situation. I hope things go well for you! I mean, people in general act decently towards each other, right? I hope?
My dad has met both of FI's parents & even his sister.. My mom on the other hand hasn't met anyone in his family.. I'm not very close to my mom so to me its never really been very important.. I had Thanksgiving at my house this year and had invited my mom, my dad (they are divorced), & FI's family. My mom ended up not coming at the last minute though so that was my one shot at making sure everyone met!
We had a dinner date with our parents about a month before the wedding! haha
our families have not gotten together yet...and probably wont until the wedding. They live in separate states.
Our parents won't meet until about 3 months prior to the wedding date. The good thing is that this is pretty normal in our culture. I remember when my parents were helping my sister move in to her new apartment in college, her boyfriend's parents wanted to meet my parents, and they were adamantly against it because it "just wasn't done" unless the couple were engaged. She finally got them to back down and meet his parents, but they were super uncomfortable the whole time.
The good news is, this close to the wedding, it won't really matter if they get along or not. We are doing almost all the planning because the wedding will be where we live, so all we ask of our parents and relatives is that they stay relatively civil during the dinner and the wedding day. :)
Only our Mothers have met....they had lunch with us one time for about a half hour. His family lives in Illinois and mine in Missouri. Our wedding will be the first time meeting everyone. 3 of my bridesmaids have never met each other! It should be lots of fun!!
My parents didn't meet his until a week before the wedding. But then my parents live in California, USA and his live in the Netherlands, Europe. :P
I'm sure his mom and my mom won't meet until the actual wedding... which is perfectly fine with me because that will probably be the only time they ever meet. =)
We're getting married June 18, our parents won't meet until June 15. Both are in different states than we are, and opposite coasts of each other.
@thewheelsonthebus: You never had an engagement party where they could have met? My parents and SO's mom and brother all met at a dinner we hosted last weekend and it turned out great. We are soon to be engaged. Why dont you set something like that up?
My mother has met his parents but my father has not. My parents live in Connecticut while we live in Missouri, as do FI's parents. My parents don't come out here often (in fact my father has never been out here).
My dad will meet FI's parents two days before the wedding.
Our Parents have never met and I have never met his either! My fiance is from a different country and his mom is still overseas (his dad is deceased) so not only have my parents not met his mom but I have never met his mom! We were hoping to meet at the wedding but she was denied a visa. We are going to try again but it doesnt' look promising....fingers crossed though!
My in-laws reside in India and my mother here in Pennsylvania. None have met, yet! His mom is coming to visit us in a few months (first time to the U.S. for her) so she'll meet my mom then!! :) Oh, I didn't meet his family until a week before our Indian wedding! We landed in India, I met them, our wedding was a week later. It was nuts! But that is just how it worked out.
My Mum (my dad is out of the picture) has not yet met his Dad and his girlfriend, or his Mum and her boyfriend yet. His family is all very French and my Mum doesn't speak a word of it so I am really nervous!
And to boot, I have met his whole family but his Mum and we are already engaged~ 
I am meeting her this Easter
@Anxiouspeanut: Nope - for my first wedding years ago I think that's how everyone met... because our families were about 10 hours apart but had definitely met each other a handful of times before our wedding, but our relationship was longer then, too.
For me now... we got engaged 2/5 and the wedding is 6/25 so no one was really planning on throwing us any sort of engagement party.
Thanks ladies! I'm glad I'm not the only one :)
We're 2 hours from my parents and while I've met all his aunts and uncles (which is a LOT in a big farming family!) I've never met his dad since he's sort of distanced himself from the rest of the family. At this rate, it looks like my mom and his will talk soon and meet at my shower next month, but other than that I think it will be the wedding itself.
Lord help my mom to keep her bitchiness in check :)
We did not meet my son's in-laws until the day before the wedding. They live in Washington State, and we live right outside of Washington, DC, so the best we could manage was Facebook contact.
For my first wedding, the parents also met the day before the wedding. Mine lived in Ohio, and his lived just outside Philadelphia.
And neither my parents nor I have met NotFroofy's parents, a year and a half after the wedding. They live in Wales, and the best I've been able to do is e-mail and a few phone conversations.
Ours haven't met yet: FMIL is in Hawaii, Mom is in NJ (and isn't traveling as much as she used to, unfortunately). FMIL loves traveling, though, so we're hoping we can have a meeting of the moms in NYC once FH moves out here. If not, I guess there's always the wedding....
My parents live 10 minutes from FH's parents and they haven't met yet. We've been together for over a year.
My parents don't take any kind of intiative or interest in meeting his parents, so we shall see.
And I thought we were the only ones! Our parents have not met yet. My father lives far (out of state). They will most likely meet sometime before the wedding.
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