Post # 1
I used to see movies or tv shows where the parents of the bride and groom hadn’t met yet and think to myself ‘how does that happen?’.
And yet… here I sit. Less than 3 months before our wedding… and my parents haven’t met his mother or his father, and I’ve never even met his father!
I’m sure my parents and his mom will meet in the next few weeks, and I’m trying not to stress too much about it. My mom can be super bitchy and snooty. And I’m hoping she’s nothing but roses and sugar when she meets my future mother in law who comes from a crazy different upbringing.
Meeting his father… who knows when that will happen! My guess is I won’t even get to meet him before the wedding.
Anyone else in this situation? It’s been a LONG time since I had parents meeting other parents in relationships… any tips? 🙂
Post # 3
Our parents haven’t met. His mom came out a week before my mom and they missed each other on their trips last fall. His dad had no interest in meeting my mom so that didn’t happen. His dad hasn’t met my aunt and uncle either and they live about 4 blocks from each other.
I don’t think anyone is going to be meeting before the wedding to be quite frank. I just think that they have to little in common to ever be friends so it is just best maybe that they do meet at the wedding.
Post # 4
Since my parents live in Texas and my FIL live in South Africa, they won’t meet until 3 days before the wedding… I’m going to make sure my mom really slows down her speech because the FIL speak English, but can’t understand when I speak too fast and my mom talks REALLY fast. Other than that, I’m not too worried because both of our parents are pretty easy going.
I guess if it was my mom, I would try to just tell her to behave 🙂 when they meet. lol And with the Dad, I guess just say hi at the ceremony when you meet him. If you haven’t met him yet, it doesn’t seem like they are very close and I wouldn’t be worried about making such a good impression. Good luck!
Post # 5
We all live in the same state, but my parents hadn’t met DH’s father and step-mother, until we threw a bridal party meet and greet party at our home approximatley one month prior to the wedding. Dh’s father and step-mom are from a very different religous background, one in which my father describes as a cult. We had pushed off them meeting in fear of what could happen. My father is a very outspoken Texan. However, it went well and there were no issues. After my father said I was on my best behaivor because I love you. They haven’t seen each other since the wedding and I don’t think that they ever will again.
Post # 6
“how does that happen?”….well, a LOT of people live far away from their families. A LOT of people marry people who are from places far away from where they grew up. I live in Boston, but my family are in TX and CA. My husband is from DC and his family is there and in FL. Our parents all met at the wedding, because it just wasn’t really possible for it to happen before then. Short of a couple high school friends, I really don’t know anyone who lives where they grew up and married someone from close to their home town.
Post # 7
Yep our mothers haven’t met yet! (Our fathers are both out-of-the-picture)
I hadn’t really given it much thought, but they don’t live near each other and his mother works all the time and only has like one day off a week to recoup which she spends relaxing, so she just doesn’t have the time to be able to meet my mom before the wedding! I think they will get along fine, though, because they are both strong single-mothers. 🙂
Post # 8
Our parents haven’t met properly yet (were once introduced briefly in passing). However, they live very close to each other (only about 10miles apart). Me and my OH live about 50 miles away and see both sets of parents fairly regularly. One day (sometime before the wedding) we’ll take them out for dinner together… Probably…
Post # 9
DH didn’t meet my mom until she flew up a week before our wedding. She met my ILs a few days before. My dad didn’t meet anyone until 2 nights before, and my stepmom not until the rehearsal dinner. My family lives in TX, and we (and ILs) live in PA.
I was super worried it was going to be awkward, but for two things: 1) I have the greatest ILs in the world, and they did their best to make every feel like family, and 2) Even if #1 didn’t apply, their kids were getting married, and they had shared excitement over that.
Post # 10
Four years and our families have never met. Our mom’s will be meeting in May when they both come for a weekend visit. We both think they will get along great so were not worried about it. Everyone else will just meet each other in the days leading up to the wedding.
Post # 11
Our parents didn’t meet until about 3 months before our wedding.
Post # 12
Our parents will never meet.
Post # 13
Our parents haven’t met! My mom lives in AL and I live in GA now. FI’s parents both live here. They’ll probably meet before the wedding though. I don’t forsee any problems.
Post # 14
Our parents met, but only because mine came from Ohio to visit us here in Cali over the Christmas holiday. Otherwise, I imagine there would not have been an opportunity for an in-person introduction except in the days before the wedding…
Post # 15
Nope our parents haven’t met yet. At this rate they’ll meet at the wedding. Geez! I think neutral territory is good, like a new restaurant you both want to try. That way there’s no home court advantage.
Post # 16
I’ve net the parents, but our parents haven’t met each other. We’re just over 2 months out!