(Closed) Anyone else not having a baby shower? Disappointed…

posted 8 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
626 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

What a bummer! I would have had my feelings hurt severly if I wouldn’t have had a shower.  Do you have any (non-work) friends that might plan a shower for you?

Post # 4
3709 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@Mrs Spring…that’s a bummer. One of my close friends wasn’t planning on having a shower for her second child but I insisted b/c ALL babies are a blessing and should be celebrated. Do you have any close friends who would be able to throw something for you? Sometimes things like this get lost int he shuffle b/c everybody thinks somebody else is handling it.

Post # 5
4385 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

That is a total bummer. I understand why you’re upset. I don’t really have any advice unfortunately πŸ™

My sister didn’t find out the sex of her baby until birth either and I think it’s AWESOME. I think it’s totally silly that they wouldn’t want to buy presents. My sister got tons of green and yellow stuff, along with some unisex type items like cute hooded towels and useful stuff like breast pads and such.

I wish I could help!!

Post # 6
1230 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

Wait, why can’t they throw you a baby shower just because you don’t know the sex yet?!!?!? That is ridiculous. When our moms were having babies NO ONE knew the sex – that didn’t stop people from having baby showers!

In fact, my cousin told me that she very purposely did not tell anyone the sex of her baby because she knew EVERYONE would buy clothes and they REALLY needed other, practical items.  Her tactic totally worked – she got almost everything they needed off her registry.

On the bright side, I bet your baby meet and greet is going to be a BLAST and a LOT of people will come because they will be so excited to meet your new little bebe!

Post # 9
1154 posts
Bumble bee

Ugh to your coworkers!  God forbid a baby girl wear something blue!  The world will come to an end and she will not be properly feminine.  They are babies!  There isn’t much difference in the sex at that age. 

I think asking for a baby shower is in bad taste because of the presents and expense but could you ask for a themed baby shower?  Like themed bridal showers that could be very inexpensive for attendiees and you’ll get the bonding aspect of it.  I think it would be alright to ask a friend of family member to throw you one of those. 

Post # 10
950 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m sending you ((hugs)) & emotional strength.  I’m so sorry this is happening right now.  But it’s true that, unlike wedding showers (often relegated as the realm of the BMs or elder family members), baby showers aren’t “assigned” to any particular person.  In my family, it’s been the unspoken rule that the future godmother will throw the shower…maybe mention it to your baby’s prospective godparents?  I’m sure they’d be happy to host a shower in anticipation of their godchild…

Secondarily, I noticed you’re in Cali, Mrs. Spring…are you anywhere near LA?  Perhaps we could get together an LA Bee meet up & have an “under $10” shower for you?  After all your advice on the Catholic Boards & other boards, I feel like I know you & that your baby should definitely be celebrated!

Post # 12
7082 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

Mrs. Spring- If I come home before our baby is born, I’ll throw it!  It’s disappointing for sure, and I think that not knowing the sex is an entirely unreasonable “reason” for not doing one.

A meet and greet could be fabulous (thrown in the right way), but a shower is better for spotlighting the pregnancy!

All this said, I doubt we’re having a shower either…  Most of our friends and family are at home, and we’re not sure that we can fly down before the baby comes…

Post # 13
5823 posts
Bee Keeper

We won’t be having a shower.  I just moved duty stations, as did all my friends from my last duty station, so everyone is scattered everywhere.  All my college friends are scattered everywhere.  My family is 2000 miles away.  DH’s family is scattered everywhere.  It’s just logistically impossible to get a shower since we’d have to spend some serious cash just to attend.  We’re getting some pretty awesome presents from my parents and my SIL who is also expecting (and is getting a bunch of hand-me-downs from her clients).  We got a crib and changing table.  But I still want the party with the diaper cake and the baby stuff everywhere and the cheesy games!  I never got a bridal shower either, so I feel like I have to miss out on all the traditional parties/showers.  Being so isolated from family and friends…not fun!

Post # 16
245 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2007 - Rosary Chapel & Monterey Marriott, Monterey, CA

We’re not having a shower either… and I’m just down the road from you πŸ™‚  The reasons are more behind me not wanting to have multiple female-centric parties when friends and family are scattered all around. Instead, we’re going to have 2 “Sip and Sees” when the baby arrives — one here and one in my hometown.

People kind of scoff when I say we’re not having a shower and that we’re not registered for much, but since we’re a surprise family as well, I think it’s just much more practical this way. PLUS… I really want people to meet the baby and not just stare at my belly. πŸ™‚

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