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    Tswife4ever    May 28, 2011   California

    The florist is doing a really pretty aisle of rose petals and we were thinking of having a groomsmen hold the ring since we don't have anyone young enough. Anyone else?

     
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    MissAsB    June 6, 2009   Married in CO, Living in AL

    Nope we didn't have either.  We had no children invited to our wedding at all.

     
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    Tswife4ever    May 28, 2011   California

    @MissAsB We arent either

     
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    animated_librarian    October 16, 2010   La Jolla, CA

    Neither are we, never even crossed my mind. 

     
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    rawrkitty1022    October 22, 2010   Cincinnati, OH

    We're getting married in October and we aren't having a flower girl or ring bearer. Just didn't want to have them, no particular reason.

     
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    Sulli301    June 26, 2010   Michigan

    We had a flower girl but no ring bearer

     
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    spaganya    September 4, 2010   Arlington, VA/wedding in Williamsburg, VA

    we arent having them.

     
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    afuturemrsl    July 30, 2011   Massachusetts

    Nope no ring bearer and no flower girl. I love the idea of petals already on the aisle though - I think it is so beautiful.

     
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    VagabondGurl    August 7, 2010   Wedding: NH; Living: CA

    We aren't having them.  I thought about it, for a minute last week, because a very dear friend has boy/girl twin 2yos....  but then I remembered I have already printed the programs, so nope!  None for us!

    I think my older sister/MOH wants to carry a ring - so I suppose we'll have her carry FH's and the BM carry mine. 

     
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    artbee    February 28, 2010  

    i never thought i'd have either, but my husband has the cutest niece that we both love and she was the perfect flower girl. we aren't close to any little boys though, and i wouldn't trust them to carry our rings anyway.

     
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    Firefighter_Bride    August 13, 2011   British Columbia

    We are, but I've been to a few weddings that haven't had either and they seemed to work just fine

     
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    suttonista    November 13, 2010   New York City

    We have neither.  We have no children at our wedding at all for that matter.

     
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    Melly8    September 3, 2011   Ontario, Canada

    We are not having flower girl or ring bearer either. I never really liked the idea of having to choose who would have these roles in the wedding. I think it makes the other kids feel left out and puts extra stress on the parents. We're trying to keep the wedding as adults only as possible.

     
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    JuneBride_26June2010    June 26, 2010   Indiana (legally married 13-Apr-2009)

    actually - up until literally two days before our wedding - we didn't have either. We didn't know any children that we wanted in our wedding - except my nephew, and my bro/sil live in florida, we're in indiana - and they told my mom and me that they couldn't make it - so we didn't plan on any children in the party or at the reception (we had a no-kids-reception)...however, my bro surprised me by driving up here two days before the wedding! we actually got my 2.5 year old nephew in a tux and he was AWESOME as our ring bearer! lol. however - we had no pillow or anything for him - and he just handed the boxes to our best man. :)

     
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    JenniMichele    May 22, 2011   Huntington Beach, CA

    We are not having a ring bearer or a flower girl. No kids invited-- not intended but the people are inviting don't have young kids.

     
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    Krispy1327    October 23, 2010   Seattle

    Neither...we don't have kids involved at all...partly because there are no kids really in the family/close friends and also because we don't really want kids at the event...

     

     
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    Krispy1327    October 23, 2010   Seattle

    @MissAsB: Can I ask how you worded your invitations to get the message across about no kids??  Thanks!!

     
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    SapphireSun    July 9, 2010   Vancouver, BC

    We didn't have them either.  We had 8 attendants and a 6 person honour guard, so there was already enough going on.

     
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    aribari    January 1, 2011   Trinidad

    I dont know anyone young enough.

    Considered my littleneighbour for a split second but its just not something for the wedding that is that important to me.

    I also saved on the stress of not having two more ppl to get fitted and all that :)

     
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    CorgiTales    February 1, 2011  

    We're not kid people, so no :)

     
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    Beluga    July 16, 2011  

    Nope! My nephews are too old for that, and I don't know any little girls either.

     
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    Rgeddy    June 13, 2010   Raleigh, NC

    we did and it was totally not necessary!  I had to buy them flowers, boutineers, a ring pillow, each of them gifts and invite them + their parents to the rehearsal dinner and lunch the morning of.  They had to purchase a dress & a mini suit and pay for little girl to get her hair done and come in town a day early!  They just stood there!  I'm sure they enjoyed it actually but it was a lot of effort and money for very little!

     
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    JBelle7757    May 29, 2011   Connecticut

    No, I don't want to deal with children in the wedding!!  The best man will hold the rings.

     
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    hdshurbet    April 30, 2011  

    No we are not!

     
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    Leatherbean    October 10, 2010   Los Angeles, CA.

    We have a ring bearer (FI's nephew..he's 2 and adorable) but no flower girl. I don't think it makes much of a difference. It's a cute way to involve nieces, nephews, children etc but not necessary. Oh, and nephew's mom will be walking with him down the aisle...I'd be a little nervous otherwise. :)

     
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    arenyth    May 14, 2011   planning in CA, wedding in NJ

    We actually have too many kids in the family, and I can't choose one over another. So we're leaving them all out of it. I know no matter how it would go, there would be drama from the other mothers. I'm the first to get married in the family so I'm getting stress from everywhere!

     
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    des_salazar    November 13, 2010   Live in Houston, TX / Wedding in Winter Park, CO

    No kids here either.  We will already have some petals sprinkled down the aisle before I walk down and the best man will be holding the rings.

     
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    Dragonsus    December 19, 2009   Lexington KY

    Not a kid person in general, and no one who was coming to the wedding had kids in the right age range - we either have folks with babies or folks with teenagers so we just decided to skip the kids!

     
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    CantWaittillMAY    May 28, 2011   Texas

    Ring Dog  :) My Weiner dog will have the rings attached (securely) to his vest!!

     
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    Miss Emily Marie    September 10, 2011  

    We aren't. I have two little cousins young enough to be flower girls, but they have 5 other brothers and sisters so I certainly don't want to send a message that some siblings are more important than others. And as for ring bearers there aren't any boys young enough. Besides I feel like kids in the bridal party just adds a LOT of stress that I won't be able to handle on the day of. I love kids, I work with kids, I just don't feel like having to corral kids before I walk down the aisle.  

     
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    LindsayB    August 31, 2012   Michigan

    Nope, we're not having a ring bearer or a flowergirl either.  There isn't a specific reason as to why we aren't, we just decided that we didn't need them.

     
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    FutureMrs.M    March 5, 2011  

    Nope, no kids in the wedding

     
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    Ei    September 10, 2011  

    also not having them, i guess the best man will have our rings...

     
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    missbiscuit    March 12, 2011   Sonoma County, CA

    Not having any kids at our wedding, so no need for either for us.  We'll just give the rings to our best man/woman. 

     
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    airythia    January 15, 2011   Dayton

    we're not having either as well.  the best man will have my ring and my matron of honor will have my fi's ring.  easy access during the ceremony.

     

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