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I'm 24 and WAYYYYYYY too young to have a baby. I want to live my life and be selfish. I want to worry about myself and noone else. I want to pick up and go when and where I want to and not have to worry about dealing with a kid (good god it takes my friend with a 3 year old like an hour to just get ready to go to the grocery store. I do not have that kind of patience). We will not have a child until following goals are met:

1. Financially secure enough to where I no longer have to work. Daycare costs are astronomical and I refuse to pay someone hundreds of dollars a week to wipe my kids ass while I'm slaving away at work to bring home $100 a week after paying for daycare. I also refuse to send my kid to "grandparent daycare". Infact, thats one of my biggest pet peeves. They already raised their kids, they dont have to raise yours too. 

2. Atleast 6 months worth of living expenses in savings. Anything can happen. When you bring a kid into this world, I feel that you need to have something to fall back on if things don't work out as planned, especially in this economy. 

3. We own a house. There is a baby that lives in the condo next to ours that SCREAMS BLOODY FRIGGIN MURDER for hours at a time in the middle of the night. I'm SOOO beyond my limit of having any form of compassion for the kid. I hope and pray every day that they will move out. 

I'm an only child and for the first 11 years of my life I was also the only grandchild in my family (I will be the first to admit that I was spoiled). I now have 3 cousins who I love dearly. They are the only children that I can even remotely stand (infact, the youngest is my favorite person on the planet, next to FI of course). I dont like kids in general. I've never liked them. I rarely find a baby cute (some of you may be appalled by that and if so, sorry). When someone mentions FI and I having a baby right now it literally makes me cringe and I get this nauseous feeling. Thankfully FI and I are very much on the same page. 

I see so many young parents out there that can hardly even take care of themselves yet they reproduce over and over again. I think its irresponsible and annoying since in the end, my tax dollars will be going towards their welfare checks. Now, obviously this isn't the case for everyone so don't jump down my throat but just look at the statistics. 

We will not even think about having a baby until we are atleast 30 (I petitioned for 35 but FI thinks thats too late. We'll see...). I want to be able to give my kid everything they could ever want. I refuse to struggle. 

Is anyone else in the same boat? Are babies just not for you at this point in your life?

@MissDonnaAnne: I'm happy someone agrees. I fully planned on getting attacked for posting this. It's still early... :-)

@TinyTina: I'm excited about the prospect of having a baby in the next 5-10 years too. FI and I have done the whole baby name thing and thats fun but the thought of actually have to deal with one right now is pretty much terrifying. 

FI and I have a very good combined income for a couple of any age let alone 24 year olds. I would just prefer to have pretty things than buy diapers (and FI is an electronics whore). We're young, ladies! We can be selfish.

Our cat is our kid and we're kind of obsessed with him!

@mishelleez: Thanks!! He's our little lion. 

This post was just reaffirmed times a BILLION today...

I was behind a girl who looked to be right around my age at the grocery store a few hours ago. She had 3 kids with her, all of whom were under 5 years old.

She did the whole paying for her milk and bread thing first with the WIC coupons then moved onto her second transaction where she proceeded to purchase the maximum allotment of junk food on her food stamps card. Finally it came time to pay for everything else that the tax payers won't cover for her. At this point I was becoming increasingly impatient as all I wanted to do was pay for my damn steaks and be on my way.

So the cashier tallies up the rest of her bill and the girl slides her debit card for payment. DENIED. She argues with the cashier and swears that theres plenty of money in the account. The cashier takes the card and manually keys it in (just to humor her). DENIED again (duh!). The girl then becomes oober pissed off at the cashier and starts insulting her by making comments about how shes "just a cashier" (um, shes not the one who just used government assistance to feed her kids). So the girl starts digging through her purse and manages to find some cash (not enough though, mind you). She hands the cashier what cash she had as if the cashier is going to be cool with being shorted almost $20. The cashier just stared at her for a few seconds and said "your $18 short". This is my favorite part... the girl turns and looks at ME as if she wants ME to cover the rest of her bill. I've never seen this woman in my whole life. What the hell does this look like? The Christmas Shoes!?!?! I couldn't help but sarcastically laugh out loud a bit. 

So she ends up getting rid of a few items (gossip magazines, a carvel cake and teddy grahams - real necessities if you ask me) and finally has enough cash to pay for her bill. The cashier takes her cash and hands her the receipt. The girl grabs the receipt out of the cashiers hand and says "THANKS FOR NOTHING" then looks at me and gives me a dirty look.

Ladies, it took all I had to not completely berate her infront of the entire store. How dare she think that someone she doesn't even know should pick up her tab because she can't afford it. Grrrr!!!! That made me so angry. 

Oh, did I mention the kids looked straight out of the great depression and were a complete terror?!? I'm doubling up on my birth control tomorrow! 

Sorry its so long, just had to vent!

@Carpie: I honestly dont care which of us it is that stays home with the kid, we just refuse to pay for daycare. Ideally I would like to have a nanny, but we'll see...

@spaganya: I'm happy someone caught that! hehe

@beekiss2: Exactly, thank you!

Honestly, when I first posted this I expected to get a bunch of comments about how I was a bad person for feeling the way I do about kids. It's so refreshing to see that there are more like-minded awesome ladies out there!

@CareyIUP: I watched my youngest cousin come into this world and it was the single most disgusting thing I have ever seen in my entire life. There is nothing beautiful about pushing something the size of a watermelon out of ones body. It just doesn't seem natural. 

@stranger1: I will never understand why people think its okay to keep having children while they are on government assistance. One of my best friends has a 3 year old daughter and a son on the way (next month). She and her husband struggle ALOT. Right now she's debating whether or not she should get rid of her dog (that she just decided to get one day without even consulting her husband) or go on WIC. Um, say what?! 

Have you ever noticed that in all the TV shows and movies about families, the parents are almost always older? You rarely see a a show or movie where 20 somethings are the parents. They've got the right idea!

EDIT: Except for teen mom which is a complete abomination! 

@ScarletBegonia: That is the main reason why FI wants to have kids around 30. He's worried that if we wait too long we may miss the boat. I totally know where he's coming from but every woman is different. My aunt was 41 when she had my youngest cousin and he was and is perfectly healthy.