Post # 1
Just curious since I’m 30 and I don’t have ANY desire to have a child. Generally, I feel nothing when I see children–no excitement whatsoever. But once in a while I see a child that I think is adorable and I feel content being around that child. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t dislike kids–I just don’t feel my biological clock ticking at all.
I will most likely have children in the future because I know I’ll regret not having any–which is not the best reason to have kids but oh well. At any rate, I wonder if I’m the only one feeling this way.
Post # 3
I’m undecided. I have no inclination for children now, but I understand that those feelings may change in several years.
Post # 4
I have several friends that do not want children or are undecided (all late 20s). Just don’t let people harrass you about it! I can’t believe what some people say to my friends.
Post # 5
I voted other because I’m not dying to have kids but I don’t not want kids either; it’s more ‘If it’s meant to be, it’ll be.” We are interested in adopting so if I can’t have kids naturally, we will find another route if we want. We’ve decided if we can’t conceive naturally (no pricking of needles everyday, etc.) we will be okay. BUT I may get older and have major baby fever and be willing to go through whatever procedures I need in order to conceive. Time will tell.
I do enjoy the heck out of the baby board and reading all day about various baby things though.
Post # 6
@Shirinjoon: I will be 29 in May and have ZERO itch. I was married in December, and I know we both would like to have one child someday, but I do not have the OMFG LET’S HAVE A BABY IMMED burn lol.
Post # 7
I am 100% no way, no how having kids. It’s not that I hate kids (I’m a secondary teacher), but frankly, I have no desire whatsoever to take care of a child 24/7 for at least 18 years. I’ve been called selfish and that’s okay (well it’s not okay, but I understand that some may feel that way). I have been saying since I was a small child that I didn’t want children, and now that I’m 28 I feel even more pulled in that direction. I honestly think pregnancy is disgusting as is birth…call it a miracle all you want…the only word that comes to my mind is icky. I know that people say, oh you’ll feel differently if it’s your own kids…sorry, I’ve had plenty of loving moms tell me, no, it really isn’t – screaming is just as irritating, poop smells just as gross…I don’t even like to be DROOLED on it grosses me out so much. I also have unrealistic expectations of children – I would expect any child of mine to act like a mini-adult and I know this is no feasible. They are just not in my life plan.
That being said, I also cannot have them. Neither can the FI. I had a hysterectomy at 27 and FI had a vasectomy the morning I found out about my surgery (I found out in the afternoon) – thank goodness he wasn’t upset haha. My mom once told me I should have kids so I don’t die alone…which I think is a horrible reason to have a child, as is using having a child as a bandaid for whatever is going wrong in your relationship or to have something to love or to love you to fill some void you have from your own upbringing.
I am happy that other women undertake it though…because I guess if everyone felt as I do, we’d be extinct pretty fast lol.
Post # 8
@brianlaura – I understand that. I had some women in my line try to convince me that I needed to have child (after the obvious look of irritation over the screaming child next to me – sorry, I know it can’t be helped, but when you already have a headache…) because “everyone should experience having a child.” All I wanted to say was EWE…when I said, I can’t have children, she told me “don’t worry, you’ll change your mind.” I wanted to scream, lady, the housing for the fetus isn’t there.
Post # 9
I’m 33 and don’t have the itch. I believe I will want to have kids someday but it feels so far away. I hope that if and when I do get the itch it’s not too late for me. I guess we would still have the option to adopt if that is the case. 🙂
Post # 10
I’m not itching to have children right now. Part of it is that I’m still young and we have only been married 6 months. Another part of it is that I see my SIL with her newborn and she has no life! Her entire life is feeding, changing, burping, sleeping. it sucks!
Post # 11
I want to have kids someday … and I think I’d be okay with grade schoolers now even. But the thought of dealing with a baby/toddler………………ugh. Definitely not ready.
Post # 12
@karatechick27: Yeah, I don’t get it. We have friends that keep saying “you’ll change your mind” to them. My thing is. . .so what if they do? Or don’t? Who cares, it’s their life and bodies. Blech. I want to have children and am excited to have them, but I would never expect someone else to want exactly the same things as me.
Post # 13
- Wedding: October 2011 - Tre Bella, Mesa, AZ
I’m 32. Probably since I hit thirty my clock started nudging me and now it’s like I NEED KIDS IN THE NEXT FEW YEARS!!! I never wanted kids all through my twenties. It’s weird.
Post # 14
We kind of want kids…eventually…probably, but the thought of having them now is horrifying! Meh. If it happens, it happens. If it doesn’t, it doesn’t.
Post # 15
We’ll have one or two eventually. I’m hoping not before my FSIL does though….I’d like to not be the first. I think it’d be easier to constantly be compared vs. the absolutle onslaught of advice that’s sure to come.
Post # 16
DH and I love children, and if we had met when we were younger, we would have loved having several children. However, since we’re in our mid to late 40s, we feel we’re too old to have them. We simply don’t have the patience or the stamina needed for children. Also we don’t like the idea of being in our 70s when they graduate from high school and still having college to support them through. It might be selfish on our part, but now that we’ve found each other later in life, we want to be able to enjoy our retirement when we do retire without feeling we have to continue working to put our kids through college.