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Ew we both HATED The word fiance!!! It was awful! Husband and wife is a million times better! :-)
I think 'Mister' is adorable :). My former boss used to call his partner that. Too cute 
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I hate it too I just call him my boyfriend and once we are married he will be husband. But on here I call him FH :)
we have this conversation all the time, it seems like it's a demotion to call each other boyfriend/girlfriend but fiance sounds so pretentious. we use it sometimes but feel slightly ridiculous when we say it.
@daydreamwanderer I only refer to him as my fiance when I'm talking about him to people that dont know him. When I talk about him to people who know who he is I just say his name.
Example: I went to Best Buy and bought him the new XBOX and I bought myself a Wii all in the same day and the check out girl asked if I was buying them for my kids - so I had to say No - the XBOX is for my fiance (and made sure to use my left hand to grab the bag) and that the Wii was for me - it was definitely one of those situations where saying boyfriend after we were engaged would have been weird and using fiance was even weirder!
@pb and j: EXACTLY how I feel! Pheww! I'm so glad other gals out there feel the same way - I thought I was just weird for not liking the word! If I'm with family or friends I'll say fiance but in a joking way with a french accent just to be goofy but other than that I really dont like the word!
i'm terrible i guess but ive only called my FH FI a FEW times. In fact a lot of people just thought he was my husband already bc I have refered to him as such. I hate the term fiance SO SO SO SO much... jut for the same reasons yall do--- it sounds so stuck up.
My FI and I hate the terms "boyfriend" and "fiance" (I only use them on here for autonomity). When we were still living in the residence halls in college we had a friend who would only call her boyfriend "my boyfriend" never his name. This was obnoxious and she said it possessively. After that we decided to refrain from the use of the words "boyfriend" and "girlfriend". Since becoming engaged we like using the words "husband" and "wife" more than fiance as well (we would have eloped if it wouldn't have been for our families). We feel like we are both individuals and the words "boyfriend", "girlfriend", and "fiance" don't describe us or our relationship (that is a hard thing for my family to get around).
ahh, that makes way more sense :)
People who refuse to use their significant others' name are a big pet peeve of mine, haha. I have one friend who I met through her (now) husband, and whenever she refers to him in conversation she always say, "My husband..." and I'm like, "I know his name, I've known him way longer than I've known you!" in my head. If I were a violent person, she'd be high on my "slap list" ;)
I agree. Fiance is a weird word, almost uppity! (that might just be because it's a french word. But whatever).
I can't wait to call him my husband. Soon!
Before we were engaged if I had to call a doctor's office or anything like that on behalf of my Mister I always said I was his Fiance because I felt like that gave me more rights then just saying I was his Girlfriend. So when I used it then I didnt mind it, but now that I actually have the 'right' to use the word - I really dont like it! Guess I'm weird! :)
I also HATE people who only use boyfriend or husband or fiance when describing their significant other - if people know who he is then he can be referred to by his actual name! Only for people who dont know him would I say my fiance - cause me saying 'Joe' wont distinguish who 'Joe' is for them!
OMG, I hate saying fiance. Seriously, and so does FH. I can't wait 'til were married so I can say husband and never say fiance again!
And I hate it even more when people say, "your boyfriend, oh, I mean your fi-an-ceeeee." We have been engaged for over a year and a half-- please stop doing that!
LOL that is so funny because i could NEVER get used to the word "fiance" or get used to calling him that! Not that we hated the word, i don't even know how he felt about it, all I know is I could never get used to it. But once we got married it was super easy to switch to "husband" lol! so weird.
Hhaha - I hate it too! I like to call him my betrothed. And stretch it out and sound as snooty as possible ;)
I guess I'm in the minority. I never minded the word. The word itself doesn't mean anything to me either way, but I loved being engaged, so I loved using the word 'fiance'. :)
When I think about saying Fiance...I can't help but think of the "Dingo ate your Baby" Seinfeld episode...where that annoying lady is saying "Where is my FINACE? Have you seen my FIANCE? Oh my goodness I think I've lost my FIANCE!" and Elaine responds "Maybe a dingo ate your baby."
I don't want to sound like that woman!
@daydreamwanderer: I am the exact same way! It drives me crazy when people all of a sudden drop other people's names because they are attached to them. If who they are talking to doesn't know the person, then it makes sense. It gives them some context. But if they know them, then for goodness sake, USE THEIR NAME!
same! I used to always elevate myself to "fiancé" before we were engaged and it sounded ok to me then. I guess now we should start elevating ourselves to "wife" :)
I can't STAND that word- fiance! It makes me want to put my hands on my ears and scream when people say it. It's very pretentious.
I wish there was another word that sounded great? I also can't stand partner or significant other.
To me future hubby sounds the best?
I agree, it just feels funny to say it. It doesn't bother me when other people use the word, though. I still call him my boyfriend :-)
I hated, hated, hated fiance/fiancee. Especially when you are over a certain age (idk, maybe 35 or so?) it seems silly.
Fortunately, my huaband (now that word I love) and I felt the same way. Once we were engaged, we pretty much called each other husband and wife. We used fiance when we had to (as in introducing each other to people - "This is my fiance, Neva." It was SUCH a relief to just be married and be able to use husband/wife freely.
@jenandchris: ha this cracked me up because FH has become obsessed with the word betrothed since we got engaged. he pronounces it totally wrong and I love it. but he only says it around me--I don't think he'd be caught dead calling me his betrothed around his guy friends!
and yes, ditto to hating when people don't refer to their SO by name. it's only when I'm introducing him to someone or referring to him to someone that doesn't know him that the whole fiancé thing comes up.
I sometimes use it and sometimes don't, I don't mind him calling me his fiance but I don't like saying it it seems weird. I usually just use his name unless I'm introducing him then I use Fiance. My FH says that when he in conversation is talking about me and is calling me his fiance it's like asking for people to congratulate him on being engaged or I think talk about the wedding.
I am looking forward to using the word husband.
My Mister still calls me his girlfriend more than he calls me his fiancee when he talks about me to people - he says he sometimes forgets then has to correct himself!
lol you all are too funny! i love the word fiance/fiancee! i love when fi introduces me as stephanie, my fiancee! ahhh its the best! :) i spose i am the minority but ohhh well!
I'm with everyone here. I hate the word but more than that I hate when I get corrected. I will call him my boyfriend and people will say "you mean your fiance?" Yes, him! I think both have used it a total of 5 times. HATE IT!
I use his name when I'm around my friends and family. If it comes up with strangers I'll call him my boyfriend and then they'll correct me, point to my finger and say "your fiance." I also call him my F-Hubs when I'm talking to him, he calls me his F-Dubs--but that's when we're joking around together.
Calling him my fiance reminds me of "First Wives Club" when Sarah Jessica Parker is showing them around the apartment and calls the office "Le Office" (pronouced off-eece). lol
I'm with you - I never used BF and now hate to use Fiance... although, I like it MUCH more than BF. I say it more in terms of people who don't know FI and wouldn't know we were engaged. I usually say - this is "first name" we are getting married in "x" months! (which is now weeks - eek!) ;)
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When we werent engaged I hated calling him my 'boyfriend' because I felt like that sounded so elementary school; now that we are engaged I feel weird calling him my Fiancé! I really wish there were some other 'words' we could use!
When I refer to him on here I call him my Mister which is kind of my nickname for him anyways but if I'm talking about him to someone I reluctantly say my Fiancé (and feel weird each and every time I say it!)
Anyone out there have a better word they use to describe their Misters?