Post # 1
Ever since I mentioned the big “W” to certain people, all they seem to care about is how much weight they think I should lose. Mostly these ‘friends’ (none of whom are close to my heart) are heavier than I am, and/or trying to lose weight themselves. One woman in particular raises her eyebrows at me every time she sees me eat ANYTHING (including raw fruit and vegetables, for goodness sakes!), and had the audacity to ask, “so when are you going to start slimming down for the wedding?”
Don’t get me wrong. I’ve got a few extra lumps here and there. But honestly? I’m a size 8, and pretty darn content with my body. I’ll never be much smaller than a 6, what with my hips and rib cage, and after years of battling bulemia (not something that most people know about me), it’s a victory that I’m happy with my body the way it is — lumps and all!
J (my soon to be FI… distance relationship) keeps telling me that if I lose any weight this semester, he’s going to do all he can to ‘fatten me up’ over the break while we’re together. He’s so sweet and encouraging, and tells me all the time how much he loves my curves (even the ones I claim are mis placed).
So, no, dear nosey people, I’m not looking to lose weight for my wedding. hehe… not you, bees, just … the masses.
Anybody else with me?
Post # 3
I’m with you! I’ve just never cared that much about my weight- never weighed myself or kept track of my calorie/fat intake. People always ask how much do you weigh now? Shit if I know, hah- the only thing I care about is what goes into my body- I’m a very health-conscious eater, all natural foods. I know that six months before I got engaged, I became a vegetarian again, and I can tell from having to buy new clothes that I lost a lot of weight, but it wasn’t intentional, it’s just a side effect of vegetarianism, which I do because meat gives me a lot of upset stomach issues. If I look in the mirror and feel good, that’s all I need! I’m a size 8-10, a curvy one- DD’s, round booty, small natural waist, extremely pale, black hair- I’m exactly what I want to be, and FI loves it! My sister had an eating disorder through HS, and to this day the girl has abs and still thinks she’s fat. I hate it, I can’t understand why she has such a twisted opinion of herself- watching her become that kind of person is what makes me so against weight obsession. The girl doesn’t even enjoy her food, she just eats whatever it takes to make her stay skinny- I’m a foodie, I’d be in hell. A steady diet of steamed vegetables and turkey patties every day, ugh I’d rather be a couple sizes larger and happy! But, everyone is different! So no, I won’t be one of those exercise/diet nuts just to get into a dress one day of my life. In fact, the girls that I’ve seen do it, have gained the weight back plus extra after the wedding just eating junk food that they missed while on their crash diet. It’s so bad for your system!!!
Post # 4
I’ve always been a very slim person, but over the years I’ve gained some weight and I’m totally happy with it. In fact, I don’t think my FI would have given me a second look if I was still as skinny as I was in high school. I’m not the most healthy person, though. I don’t want to lose weight at all for the wedding, and as small as I am people still ask when I’m going to start “shaping up” to fit in the gown. Um…I don’t have a gown yet, and isn’t that what alterations are for?????
Post # 5
I’ve been about a size four since I hit puberty…why the heck would I want to lose weight? If anything, I want to gain weight for my own health. “Skinny fat” is just as unhealthy as “big fat.” A little more muscle and insulation would be fantabulous, haha.
Post # 6
I am teeny tiny! If you see my DIY boudoir photo post you can see a pic of at least part of my body. I think when I first tried on the dress (had just gotten back from vaca) I was like I think I’d like to loose 5 lbs. Then I kept putting off starting my diet and putting it off some more untiil finally I was like … wait a minute … and I got on the scale and the 5lbs were already gone! So much stress caused me to loose it without even trying. So now I’m not trying to lose more weight, just stay the same for six more days 🙂
Post # 7
@arineya – a LOT of my friends who’ve gotten married in the last few years (early twenties brides) lost weight for the wedding, and EVERY SINGLE ONE of them put it all back on within 3 months. I missed a lot of weddings, because I live in China and flights are TOO expensive, but when looking at pictures with them, the most common sentiment I heard was “I was so skinny then!” accompanied by a whistful sigh. It’s like that’s what they look back at when they think about their wedding – that one day when they were skinny!
I’d rather look like myself, not a skinny version of myself 🙂 Plus I feel like I’m going to have so much love to focus on, who’s got time to focus on losing weight?
Post # 8
I have to say….I am not a skinny girl. I am a plus size and I think that is fine. Would I like to lose some weight, Yes. Am I going to give myself somethng else to stress about while I plan the wedding, NO. My FH fell in love with me at this weight and I have been this weight for almost 10 years. So why would I add something to my plate that will make me feel bad and cause me stress. I found a dress that is flatering to me and my body shape, will get me some Spanx and I will rock my party not feeling one bit bad about my weight or what I am eating at all the wonderful things we have planned in the days before.
Post # 9
I’m one of these women who really struggles with her weight. I am really good at losing weight, but I cannot manage to keep weight off when I lose it. I seem to be able to maintain a low weight for a year or two and then inevitably it creeps back on. I sit around feeling fat for another year or two and then I jump into exercising and calorie counting and lose weight and feel great and then the whole thing starts again. It’s very annoying!
Sadly my wedding occured during a high weight rather than a low weight phase. I’d been wanting to lose weight even before we decided to get married, but I still haven’t really gotten around to it. It would have been nice to be a toned size 6 for the wedding but I wasn’t. I was a happy 10/12. And you know, in the end, it really wasn’t such a big deal. We look happy and lovely in the photos and we had an incredibly fun and wonderful night. I don’t think the wedding would have been any better if I’d been skinny rather than chubby.
Post # 10
i’m not trying to lose weight, but i would like to tone up a bit… also i’ve been going to the gym to be healthier, not skinnier 🙂
Post # 11
Unfortunately, I do need to lose some weight (I was a size 8 when FI and I met almost 9 years ago and now I’m a 14). My FMIL loves to remind me of that too, albeit she doesn’t have any room to talk. Tell people, nicely, to mind their own darn business and you will do with your body and your weight, what’s right for you. Good Luck with that! People tend to stick their noses where they don’t belong. Oh, and don’t get me started on people who think it’s ok to touch pregnant girls’ bellies JUST because they are pregnant. Would you touch them without asking, any other time? No. Ok, getting off my soapbox now. 🙂
Post # 12
No, I actually need to gain a little. But I am trying to tone up – that’s the hardest part for me. I’m really lazy and HATE to exercise. But just because I’m skinny, it doesn’t mean I’m fit – my muscles are like jello.
Post # 13
LOL I got the same question from people. But when I was engaged I was a size 10/165 lbs. I started eating better because I wanted to feel better (I ate a lot of sugar and fast food). I’ve slimmed down to a size 6/135 lbs, but some people still ask if I’m going to go crazy at the gym so I can get smaller. I’m sorry, but I’m very happy being the weight I am! I don’t want to look like a waif on my wedding day.
Stay strong and be proud of your size 8 status. I’m right there with you!
Post # 14
Nope, both my parents are relatively thin, so I got those genes. I also maintain a healthy diet and hit the gym often. I like my size and more importantly, I like feeling healthy and toned. 🙂
Post # 15
I’m not trying to lose weight.
I’m a size 6/8 depending on who makes the clothes.
I never watch what I eat or care really. My fi would love me if I was a plus size..I do eat healthier than I used too. I would really like to tone up and get my cardio back up because I used to play softball. And, now I’m flappy and getting love handles. But, like I said–I don really care. It’s still me.
Post # 16
Would I like to look like I did 3-4 years ago? UMMMM yes. I was so darn fit then and didn’t even realize it. Now I weigh 15 pound more and am a lot softer than I used to be. I really don’t mind the weight gain itself, I just wish I was a muscular as I used to be. I miss the confidence and power…I need to start weightlifting again. So no I’m not going to try to lose weight for my wedding. In fact I start to binge eat junk any time I try to change my eating very drastically. So yea I might exercise a wee more and eat a bit more fruits and veggies, but no intention of losing weight.