Post # 1
I’ve watched live birth videos, read more labor horror stories than I care to admit, and heard some detailed, disgusting birth stories. And for some reason, even though I’ve worried about pretty much everything my entire pregnancy, I’m not fearful of labor. My husband says he thinks it is because it is still so far away. So, now I will sit here and worry about how when the day actually comes, all Hell will break loose. And I’ll be terrified. Haha. Did anyone who has kids now have this issue?
Post # 3
I think you have a good attitude! It’s not like worrying about it is going to help in any way. I would say that doing some reading to know what the process is like will help prepare you, and to go into it with an open mind. I think you are going to feel some anxiety when you realize you really are in labor and its time to head to the hospital, but so long as you are prepared I don’t think hell will break loose. I went into labor on Superbowl Sunday, and was having contractions throughout the game but wasn’t totally sure it was go time until around midnight/ 1am. It’s not like in the movies where your water breaks and you’re pushing 10 minutes later – you have a hours to let it sink in that you’re actually in labor. I wanted to go natural, but the contractions hurt worse than I expected and I got an epidural. All was fine. We went to the hospital at 3am and baby was out at 10am. You’ll be great 🙂
Post # 4
@PilotsGirl56: I feel the same as you! I have read and watched the craziest things & I am fascinated by it. Talk to me this winter when I am going through it tho! For some reason, tho, I have a strong feeling that I will end up with a c-section. I kind of want the experience of labor so I will be bummed.
Post # 5
I felt the same way.. Until yesterday.. I hit 38 weeks and had a minor freak out as I was trying to fall asleep haha. I seem to be okay today though. It’s true though.. Worrying won’t do anything so as long as your prepared its all good.
Post # 6
I’m not worried about labor at all. The way I see it, if it were truly the worst thing you can experience, everyone would only have 1 child. Even people I know who had horrific births (hemoraging, scary emergency c-sections…etc) still went on to have more children!
As far as I’m concerned, it’s a necessary step that I have to go through to finally hold my baby, so as long as I end up with the baby on the outside of me, I’ll suffer through just about anything.
Post # 7
I really wasn’t concerned about labor. I actually felt very Zen during the last weeks of my pregnancy, not nervous at all.
And honestly? It hurt, but it wasn’t that bad.
Post # 8
@PilotsGirl56: I’m not even pregnant and I’m terrified. You are a brave woman, lol.
Post # 9
I wasn’t scared of a vaginal birth but I was terrified that I’d need a csection. And of course 3 days before my edd went to the doctor found out dd was breach & HAD to have a csection! It wasn’t as bad as imagined lol.
Post # 10
I was so terrified of the idea of birth my whole life, but as soon as I found out I was pregnant, the fear went away. I’m sure I’ll get more scared as it gets closer though.
Post # 11
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I didn’t worry about labor. It’s gonna happen. There’s no getting around that (unless you schedule an elective C-section before you go into labor naturally, I suppose). If it hurts too much, there are medicines. If it doesn’t, just rock it out. And then you’ll be holding the baby.
Post # 12
Me. Don’t see the point! I also have a fairly high pain tolerance, which probably helps psychologically. I think I’d be more scared of an epidural (dislike needles) than the actual labour pain!
Post # 13
I was not, and I think that served me well. Fear and anxiety cause your body to clamp down, when what you need for a successful birth is to open up. I went from first twinges of labor to baby in my arms in 6 hours with no interventions and just the tiniest internal tear that didn’t need any stitches. I think staying calm and relaxed had a lot to do with that.
Post # 14
I’m not worried, plus I know I want an epidural. But the more relaxed you are, the easier the birth. If you stress and build it up in your head that’s not good for you.
Post # 15
I have concerns sometimes that come, and then I work through them and they mostly go 🙂 This didn’t really happen until I got close and some unexpected things arose. (I am due next Monday!!!!!!!!!!) I do my best to talk them out with DH, the doc, and my Bradley instructor, who has been an invaluable resource to me. I was never concerned until these things arose and kinda changed my plans. I would rather deal with the unexpected NOW (mentally) then be unsure or freaking about what I should do or what is happening IN the moment, if these things evolve. I’d rather have a worry and email somebody for advice now and be relaxed as possible in the moment.
I really trust DH and I really trust my hospital. I think it is natural to worry about the unknowns though! Or these things as they arise and change my “plan.”
One more thing- I am going to do my best to stay calm, but I have started having Braxton Hicks/ contractions and quite honestly it kind of starts to weigh on your nerves- at least for me! I keep being like… is this something happening? I better wash my socks… (or whatever). It is kind of an exhausting wait/ mind game at the end here and it is a little hard to relax when I don’t know exactly what is happening. I know… I need to let go! But being my first time it is hard to know exactly what is happening, and you never know when!
Post # 16
@PilotsGirl56: I didn’t worry about it much because I figured, there’s no way around it. However, I was completely unprepared for labor/delivery/complications/etc, so I wish I would have read more (I was determined NOT to read because I have anxiety issues and I wanted to be able to sleep at night while pregnant!)
I think it’s good to balance what is likely to happen with what could happen and be optimistic, but mentally prepared in case something goes wrong, since every labor/delivery is different.