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No you are totally OK! I just got engaged, no date or anything yet, but it is amazing how much time one can spend looking at wedding boards and researching. Its all sooooo exciting and better to research and be ahead early than scrambling and rushing closer to the date.
As long as its not infringing on your daily life then I say go for it! My one thing that I try to stay conscious about is how much I talk about it with friends etc., Its all i think about, but its not all everyone else thinks about and you don't want others to resent you or see you as a bridezilla for not having interest in their lives or what they have to say too.
All of my spare time goes to wedding planning. To be honest, I'm in grad school right now and I'm absolutely miserable and the only thing that is getting me through it is promising myself I get to do wedding stuff at night when I get home. I was obsessed with it this summer but then had to pull back on it quite a bit this fall since I was so busy. I'm just now getting back into it and I'm so behind!!! I say do what makes you happy, you only have this day once!
i was the same way. be careful though, when the wedding is over - you are a likely candidate for "post wedding depression"
I think it's fine as long as you're taking care of other things in your life like friendships, hobbies, spending time with family, etc. Once wedding planning/obsession starts affecting other things in your life, it's time to take a step back and think about what's really important. Our weddings are only one day of our lives and while they deserve attention (and its fun), they aren't EVERYTHING.
Yay!!! I'm not alone in feeling like I'm obsessed!! I know I drive my FI crazy with questions, although I have cut back some for his sake and sanity lol.
It is a big day for us and we want everything to be perfect. I just keep telling myself I Do Not want to become a Bridezilla bc i waited till the last minute or forgot an important detail. I just want my big day to be relaxing & enjoyable for everyone, especially those closest to me {FI, children, bridal party}.
I say Enjoy yourself have fun and know that You are not alone in your "obsession" :)
Congratulations and God bless
LOL I go through times when I am very obsessed and other times when I just forget the whole thing for a few months. I have been engaged for a super long time though...I think not having a deadline makes it worse!
I feel like it is one day and you only have one year out of your life to completely obsess over it (maybe thats why Im so ok with a 3 year engagement), so take advantage. Hold on to the feeling for as long as you can. As long as you don't forget the rest of your responsibilites and have plans to plan something after the wedding like others have pointed out. Other than that....welcome to the club!
I'm definitely obsessed with planning my wedding. Lol. It's gotten so bad that my FI and I have had to set a certain day of the week that I'm "allowed" to talk about wedding stuff with him as much as I want anytime I want. We're both pretty busy all day at work and most days we want to go home and just relax. His form of relaxing is sports and XBOX. My form is telling him each and every detail that I have come up with about our wedding. Understandably it becomes overwhelming for him trying to be the typical groom (tell me when to show up.) So we agreed (my idea) that every Wednesday and Saturday are wedding planning days for him (everyday of the week is wedding planning day for me.) :o)
I know exactly what you mean! I'm obsessed with thinking about weddings! Planning my own stresses me out (because I'm in grad school and the thought of paying with my wedding with student loans gives me anxiety!), but I LOVE reading about weddings!!! I swear my parents must be getting sick of hearing about the wedding already! I'm going wedding dress shopping on Monday when I go to Northern California to visit my parents for the holidays, and I can't wait!!!!!
I'm totally obsessed, all my brain thinks about is wedding. However I make a big effort not to talk to my partner too much about it and the same goes with my friends, I actually avoid it, if they ask how your planning I say yeh really good and then I ask about them instead of going into full on wedding talk mode. Plus I really get my wedding fix on wedding bee!!!
Thanks ladies! Glad to know I'm not alone on this! Totally agree on holding back how much I talk about it. My FI is sick of hearing about it, so I only bring him in when absolutely nessecary. Friends always ask, but I don't share every detail with them cuz I know they're more or less just being nice and attentive. My mom always wants to talk about it... so nice to know I can always call her when I want to run through ideas. :)
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For the past 6 months I've been hard at work planning the wedding. Picking vendors and managing guestlists. Imagining colors and designing decor. Looking at countless magazines, websites and blogs. Planning and starting DIY projects. Picking the right save the dates and wedding website. Laying out tablescapes and timelining activties in my head. The list goes on and on...
What I've come to realize is that I'm actually OBSESSED with this wedding. It's taken over all of my free time. It's the last thing I think about when I go to bed. I would be embarassed to announce how many hours I've spent thinking, researching, DIYing and planning for this ONE DAY event.
Now, maybe it's just my personality... that I want things to be perfect and live up to everything I've envisioned. But when does proper planning turn into an absolutely unhealthy obsession? I can't help but wonder if this one-day event, however big, is really worth a year of my obsessing over? Five years from now when I think back to the year 2011 and half of 2012, am I going to be okay thinking, oh yea, that was the "wedding planning year?"
I'm not sure what the alternative is, and yes, I will admit parts of this have been a lot of fun. But I'm just wondering if anyone else has felt like they might need to pull back...and if you did manage to pull back -- how did you go about it??