Post # 1
- Wedding: December 2014 - Maui
So I told my FI I didn’t need an engagement ring for a few reasons, such as cost, different culture surrounding rings in his country where we currently live, and different tastes in jewelry between us. I am not completely ringless, because I wear a tortoiseshell band his mother gave me, and I will wear a rose gold and diamond band for my wedding ring. I’m mostly happy with my decision for no engagement ring, but sometimes I see rings on this board that make me wish I had something sparkly. 😉
So are there any other bees without an engagement ring by choice here?
Post # 2
koiocha: Nope, I need me some sparkle.
Post # 3
koiocha: Omg, your tortoiseshell ring sounds amazing! You should post a photo 🙂
Whatever your choice for having/not having an e-ring, there is no right or wrong. Maybe even somewhere down the line, you can get one you like. Also, not all e-rings have to be expensive. There are so many metal types and stones to choose from for all budgets and tastes.
At first I didn’t care either way for a sparkly ring (I like the ease and simplicity of a band), but it was important to my FI to get me one and my FI picked one that was so beautiful.
You’ll some really beautiful rings in the Bee. All so unique and gorgeous!
Post # 4
I see absolutely nothing wrong with opting out of having an engagement ring, whatever the reason. Your wedding ring is so much more important anyway, and some women don’t even wear them!
Post # 5
- Wedding: April 2016 - Gorse Hill, Surrey, UK
Sometimes I think having no engagement ring would have been better for us as I have a feeling I will only wear one band after the wedding. It is lovely to have my ring but I prefer rings that don’t stick up. Plus it would have saved a chunk of cash lol. My FI doesn’t mind if I wear them separate or only wear my ering for special occasions so long as I have my wedding band on
Post # 6
I have an e-ring but I’m opting out of a having a separate wedding band for both sentimental and practical reasons: so much thought and love is represented by the e-ring (and I waited 7 years for it!) and we’re having a very long engagement, so I know I’ll only become more attached to it. And then there’s the fact that I just don’t like wearing more than one ring.
I’m all for anyone doing whatever suits them. Who cares if it’s not the norm, life is too short!
Post # 7
We chose to go without an engagement ring. It was completely my choice – my mom never had one and I didn’t think it was worth the cost. There were moments when I would be talking to a casual acquaintance (ie someone who hadnt realized we were engaged) about my fiance or wedding planning and see them glance at my ringless finger and look confused. Our close friends and family never batted an eye; if they thought it was weird, we never knew it because they were never less than fully supportive of the choice. I will be honest that it is nice to now be married and be more mainstream with my wedding band, but other than those few awkward moments, I’ve had no regrets about going without an e-ring.
Post # 8
I am all for doing whatever the hell you want and are comfortable with. My in laws have been married for 40 years and neither of them has ever worn a ring. I think they have them from their ceremony, but I’ve never seen them.
I personally wanted an engagement ring. But now that I’ve been married for 11 years, the engagement ring doesn’t make me any more married than no ring at all.
Post # 9
the ring is not a measure of your love, so wear whatever makes you happy and represents you and your future hubby… My aunt never had an e ring , she only wore a simple gold band her entire life. it’s what works for you.
But if you do decide to do some sparkle or an e ring there are all kinds of options out there, consider buying a second hand ring.. My hubby and I just purchased a beautiful estate engagement ring for me to wear when my solitaire is at the jewelers or when we are traveling out of the country.. It was $185 and is so nice, it’s not a solitaire but because of all the gold it is about the size of my 1 carat solitaire.
Post # 10
I only have one ring which is my wedding ring. In my culture erings are non existent. Any ring on your wedding ring finger comes with an automatic presumption that you are married. Even if it’s a plastic one.
My hubby wanted to buy me an ering and I refused due to the idea of it being foreign to me and the fact that I’m just not a jewelry person.
Post # 11
I think there’s a danger in the notion that a couple needs a ring to get engaged. It’s even more annoying when other women shove this ideal on you, as if not having a big diamond ring should make you less engaged, less happy, less <insert imposed standard>. I grew up with family in the jewelry business and admittedly, I do love a nice solitaire ring. However, unsolicited comments about what an engagement ring should or shouldn’t be are out of line and take away from the real jewel– the monumental commitment you and this person are about to make! Do what’s right for you two and don’t look back. Congratulations!!
Post # 12
YES we were so poor when we got married. so no Ering but Im so sad i didnt! I now want one but trying to find a nice simulant to a diamond since its outragous in price!
Post # 13
- Wedding: December 2014 - Maui
Sofetch15: The ring I wear is nothing special, really. It just looks kind of black most of the time except in really bright light where the tortoishell pattern shows better.
TheGridMonster: I don’t think I’d like wearing more than one ring on my finger either. If I did have an engagement ring I’d probably end up wearing it on another finger from my wedding ring.
eengo: I haven’t really had any awkward moments without an engagement ring, because they aren’t the norm where I live (Japan). A few non-Japanese people have asked about my ring but when I tell them why I don’t have one they just say I’m super practical.
alabamagirl: My inlaws don’t wear rings and have also been married for over 40 years. They are together 24/7 because they run a business together and get along great.
carrieAcey: We’re poor too, haha. Maybe someday I’ll get a diamond ring for an anniversary gift but it’s not that big of a deal to me.
Post # 14
Well I have an engagement ring but in my country’s original culture we usually do not have one.. When the couple got engaged they will have couple ring that they wore on the left hand, and when they got married they simply switch the ring from left hand to right hand.. Besides (in my country) once you got married usually you will wear wedding ring/wedding band only and the engagement ring is only for special occasion.. Your tortoiseshell band is so pretty.. 🙂
Post # 15
I decided I only wanted to wear a wedding band and opted out of a traditional engagement ring, BUT I guess I wasn’t as immune to sparkle as I thought because I ended up with a diamond wedding band! I do get a lot of compliments though on my unique ring choice 🙂 I think if you choose a ring you love, no matter if it is an “engagement”, “wedding”, “anniversary” ring etc, you’ll have no regrets. Embrace your unique choice!