Post # 1
Hi Everyone! Anyone else feeling a bit overwhelmed with planning a wedding in under 6 months? We got engaged over christmas and are getting married June 12, 2010. I thought this would be great but am feeling extremely stressed right now. It seems like there is always something to be done with the wedding. Just when I think we are caught up, the invites are in… time to get those out, etc. Work has also been extremely crazy as well with some big deadlines looming (I’m a grad student aka indentured servent), which is not helping the stress. Any suggestions on how to not stress out obout wedding stuff? Thanks for reading my vent!
Post # 3
We did it in 4 months and it was stressful but my Mother-In-Law planned sooooooooo much of it. Delegate, delegate, delegate! I’m so happy to have been married to him now and not still planning but I’m sorry, I felt your pain, but wedding bee is so helpful for makin those tough decisions instead of dwelling on them for too long.
Post # 4
just breath. i dont feel like theres any real way not to stress. but the sooner you get things done the better you’ll feel. try to take one week and knock everything out. wedding planning is so stressful at times. my fiance is always saying “youre supposed to be excited and happy” he doesnt understand that making things nice is hard! lol but just breath! and get excited! that always helps me!
Post # 5
I am getting married in 5 months!!! I got engaged just before Valentines and because I am going back to school (a 24 month grad program) we decided to get married this august before I went back…
I always wanted a low-key, low-stress wedding, and this is anything but!
I don’t have any advice, Fiance and I hit a stress-wall just yesterday – but know you’re not alone and as much as possible… don’t sweat the small wedding stuff – you’ll get married, it will be an amazing day… and vent when you need to!
Post # 6
I knocked out many of the big things early on (dress and venue in under 2 wks) and most of the big things are done. I’ve been delegating or paying to not have to DiY many of the items. However, with my school/work commitments gearing up, little things like getting the invites out seems big. Thanks for your encouragement!
Post # 7
We got engaged on January 31st and we’re getting married July 31st! Exactly 6 months of planning time!! it is stressful, but i feel a lot better since we’ve gotten almost every major aspect taken care of.
Post # 8
We did it in just over six months (I think there were two extra weeks?). It was rough at times, but I’m so glad we didn’t stretch it out any longer. Good luck!
Post # 9
I am POSITIVE that you would have plenty of reasons why i shouldn’t be but I’m a little jealous! I feel like January is about 100 years away. Although, in the last few days I’ve suddenly felt stressed. Anyhow, I guess I would just say to try and enjoy it as best you can– this is such an exciting time in your life! Try not to get stressed because in the end, you’re marrying the man you love and that’s all that reallly matters 🙂 Best of luck!
Post # 10
I wish I was. I hate the wait. I’ve got 9months and 19days to go and it’s annoying the crap out of me, because of all the wait… If I go somewhere to talk to a vendor they’re like “you have plenty of time”. Unfortunately my hubs to be has his heart set on Jan 1st so no moving up. I recommend spending atleast one day a week or every other week just for you(this includes fiance, if you want) and you make a pact to not talk about the wedding. You go to a movie. Lay in bed watching comedies. Go out to eat. Get your nails done. Go to the park for a walk… heck just take a walk, doesn’t matter where you do it. Sit down with a good book. My fiance and I aren’t there yet, but we’ve already planned one wedding that we had to postpone and we would make pacts to not talk about the wedding for a day even a week sometimes. Best of Luck. Oh yea and maybe you could try yoga, pilates or medation. I love pilates
Post # 11
@beth1125, I’m really glad that we are not delaying the wedding any longer. I’m just feeling the constant there is always something to do.
@MrsJellyBean227 Thank you for the suggestions. We have a no-wedding wednesday which ironically is taken up by a intro dance class the Fiance and I are taking. On a funny note, he can do the steps but does not hear the beat at all. 🙂 The yoga class that I’m taking twice a week has really been helping.
Anyways, my samples are ready. Must get back to work. Thank you again for all your encouragement! Best wishes planning.
Post # 12
Ours from start to finish is 7 months and a day. I know how you’re feeling and we’re having a destination wedding! Thankfully, my mom and my sisters are so supportive and helpful, that I just have to tell them yes or no and they handle the rest. I definitely agree with the other bees- try your best to delegate tasks to anyone that’s involved in the wedding. And try to breathe! This is supposed to be one of the best times of your life! ;] It can be done! Maybe try a wedding book organizer that tells you what should be done each month? That has certainly helped me!
Good luck :]
Post # 13
I had 7 months to plan mine, and with 2 months left to go we’re pretty much done except the things I have no control over (dress isn’t in yet, etc). So we planned everyting in 5 months.
I couldn’t have done it without my mom, she did SO much of the legwork since i’m consumed with work or travel for work for about 11 hours a day. So she took a lot of stuff on that could only be done during the day (meeting with the reception venue, caterer tastings, etc). So definitely delegrate!!
Also, if you start to feel overwhelmed, do a no wedding weekend. One night is nice, but if you’re doing the dance lessons, that can still add the pressure. I know that after my invitations were done (DIY), i took a weekend OFF because I felt like I just couldn’t deal with the stress anymore. Once the weekend was over, I was back on the boards and looking forward to my next project.
And now that everything’s done.. I want the wedding NOW and don’t want to have to wait for it..
Post # 14
@MrsJellyBean – I know how you feel, 100%. I’m getting married a week after you and the long engagement is driving me crazy! Everywhere I go, I hear “you have plenty of time” and it’s so frustrating!
Amaroo24, I think it can definitely be done! Yes, it will be a little stressful but there’s going to be stress no matter how long or short of an engagement you have. As someone who is having a rather long engagement, I’d give anything to have a 6 month engagement! I think having a shorter amount of time gives you less time to change your mind a zillion times, like I am doing. You won’t have time to second guess yourself. I wish you and your Fiance the best!
Post # 15
Got engaged last July, married in November in India and our next wedding here in the U.S. is in April. So, two weddings in five months. Absolute craziness. I’m totally stressed out right now. Didn’t have nearly the time to plan the U.S. wedding..have five weeks to go and still about 10 things to take care of. AHHHHHHH! OK, that feels better! 🙂
Post # 16
You all are making me a little scared, lol!! We got engaged Christmas Day, and are getting married in May. I don’t feel any stress, am I not doing something that I should be? Am I missing something BIG that I have over looked? Does anyone out there have a spread sheet?