Post # 1
So today I figured I would go ahead and start looking and registering for wedding gifts. I thought it would be fun, and easy. Well I proved myself wrong.
I have absolutely NO CLUE what to choose. Not that I do not know what I need, but I do not know which one to pick. I feel like I sould research each product and I have no clue how I want to decorate our apartment.
I almost just want all gift cards because I wont know what type of style I will want when we are settled into our home. AHHH!! I have never felt so anxious in my life. I could not believe how overwhelmed I got by just looking at bedding. Anyone else feel/felt this way? Or am I just crazy?
Post # 3
@katy13: I actually heard advice before that said to ask for things like glassware , dishware,etc as separates. Apparently sets are priced less so you return the separates and get the set and you have money left over.
Not sure if this is normal and it sounded a little weird/tacky to me. If I do it it won’t be for the “extra money” reason, but I might consider it because I’m in your situation. I’m not sure what I want and probably won’t closer to the date!! Guests will at least give you gift receipts.
Post # 4
I’m getting married in less than four months and I have not started my registry. I don’t even know if I’m going to be in the country after the wedding, so I don’t know what to ask for. I don’t want to ask for big, breakable things if they will need to be shipped abroad. But I don’t even know yet if I’m moving… 🙁
Post # 5
We’re in a similar situation as we’re moving into our new apartment in a couple months. We did manage to put quite a bit on our registries but it was definitely over a few visits to the store and a couple nights looking online. I won’t say we didn’t get frustrated because we did since we already live together and have everything. It’s basically just upgrades and random stuff.
Post # 6
Have you done ALL your registry stuff online so far?
While there’s something to be said for doing research on your appliances and dishes before committing to them to your online registry (you want to make sure the food processor processes food and your dishes can hold up to a run through a dishwasher), you might want to go see some things in person.
There are likely going to be options you’ll eliminate based on the feel of them alone. Sharp corners on the ends of the flatware? Weird balance on the knife? Bedding looks great but doesn’t feel great? Your choices are made for you.
Post # 7
@SuspiciousCoconut: Yeah so far since we have only been engaged now for 2 1/2 weeks. I know we will need to go look. I just keep being told we need to start putting things on the registry, but we wont even start looking at apartments until november. I feel like it is way too soon, but people want me to do it. so frustrating. I am still figuring out my wedding style little lone my home style. LOL
Post # 8
@katy13: Some of the things you’ll register for don’t really have a style (small appliances, measuring implements, baking sheets, spatulas, other kitchen miscellany). Start there and look for durability. You’re looking at the obvious items, but in the end you probably need to be able to use your stove.
Also, your FI should be able to give you some input in terms of style.
Post # 9
@SuspiciousCoconut: Yeah I know that kind of stuff. I already put that on there. Thank you for your help 🙂
And as far as FI goes he is a yes honey (nods head and continues doing whatever he is doing) kind of guy so not much help at all. lol
Post # 10
@katy13: Your thread has made me flash back to 2 years ago, when DH and I were at Macy’s doing our first round of gift registering – I thought taking care of our registries was going to be SO MUCH FUN and that DH would hate it (since I love to shop so much). But do you know what happened? I ended up sitting in the middle of the floor of Macy’s china in tears, I was so overwhelmed. 😛 It happens!
You know what helped me? Going home and making lists. Of staples that I felt I actually needed, since we hadn’t moved into our house yet. And online registries helped, a LOT!
Post # 11
- Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor
@katy13: I totally get this feeling, I was overwhelmed too!! There are wayyyyy too many options out there. I didn’t know how I wanted to decorate our house – and I’m still figuring that out now! My strategy was to have a fairly small registry, with just things for the kitchen that I really wanted/needed. We had a terrible, scratched-up old set of pots and pans, rusty knives, very little bakeware, no wine glasses, etc. I ignored the stupid rules you’ll read about for what number of gifts to register vs. the number of guests invited, and I registered for ~40 things. About 80% of the things on our registry were purchased, and the other guests mostly gave us cash and gift cards.
I went through the kitchen in my old apartment and the kitchen in my now-husband’s house, and I made a list of things I wanted to replace or things we didn’t have that I really wanted. Then I chose a store to register at (I chose Williams-Sonoma because they’re known for having a lot of high-quality kitchen stuff). For each item, I’d search for the item on the WS website, look at the options, compare reviews, and register for the one with the highest reviews. It was a little bit of work but for the most part, I’m really happy with the quality of everything, now that we’ve been living with our gifts for a few months.
Also, honestly, I think the whole in-store registry process is overwhelming. We registered online slowly (probably over the course of a month) taking our time to add things, we read reviews of the electronics (not all food processors/blenders/slow cookers are made the same), and we skipped things we couldn’t decide whether we wanted. (We could always buy them in the future with gift cards.) In the end, we were gifted a lot of the expensive things we really wanted for our kichen (high-quality knives, Le Creuset pots and pans, etc.) and we are slowly using the gift cards and cash to buy decorations for the other rooms of our house.
I wrote a whole blog post about this subject, it should be on the Weddingbee blog sometime today – I’ll come back here and post a link once it’s posted 🙂
Post # 12
Thank you so much!! These posts helped a lot! They calmed me down soo much! They always say there will be at least one thing in the wedding planning that will leave you in tears, and who would have known this was it! lol. I swear my FI thought I was a crazy women last night looking at China and bedding and crying. HAHA! Poor guy he didnt know whether to hold me or laugh at me. haha!.
I will constantly remind myself to take it slowly, and make check lists. 🙂 Thank you Bees!
Post # 13
I was super overwhelmed with mine. I did 95% of it online and would go back and forth between looking at comprable products at Sur la Table and Crate and Barrel and then reading reviews on Amazon to determine which was best. It wasn’t fun and it took forever. After I did the majority of things I went into the store to pick some last things out. I liked the way I did things because I think going into the store and doing it all would be super overwhelming.
Post # 14
- Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor
@katy13: You’re welcome! Here’s the blog post I mentioned – http://www.weddingbee.com/2013/02/20/wedding-registry-favorites-and-regrets/
Post # 15
We’re not doing anything that really has much style to it, mostly pots and pans and bakeware, vaccum/steam mop, electronics, camping equiptment etc.
We figured we’d rather work on getting things that are really “us” on our own. So even though we have a china pattern we like picking out the pieces slowly on our own.
Sheets and towels were also something we registered for…soft, comfy, white!
Post # 16
We decided not to have a traditional registry..since we already live together there is very little we could need in the way of housewares. Wanderable is a neat site to register a trip (such as the honeymoon) where guests can buy you things from hotel stays, show tickets or breakfast in bed, you make up the listings and pricing. It’s still challenging on what to ask for…and I know, I know, it’s an Emily Post faux pas in the extreme to ask for gifts let alone honeymoon gifts…but new era and all that justification stuff.