Post # 1
discover that they really want to TTC instead? I stopped my BC at the end of January and DH and I were going to NTNP and just let it happen when it happened.
We’ve done that for 4-5 months, and I’m impatient…and really disappointed every month when AF shows up (and I can’t help testing when it’s even a day or two “late” – it’s still regulating post-BC, so it varies by a few days each month).
I caved – I orderd Taking Charge of Your Fertility and a pack of OPKs/pregnancy sticks. I need to get a BBT, too. I’ve talked to DH (he’s eager, too), and he’s on board (his part is easy, obviously).
Anyone else like me? Intended to be laid back and go with the flow… and just not able to handle it? Any tips for a charter-to-be?
Post # 2
Haha this is us! I can’t chart since I work nights but we are headed toward cycle four and im now armed with 50 OPKs and a comfirmation from DH that yes we are actively trying now!
Post # 3
We aren’t NTNP or TTC just yet, but we are planning to start out NTNP at first. I know that if it takes more than a couple of months I’ll probably go crazy and start TTC. I don’t think my SO knows the difference since it’s pretty much the same either way on his part! LOL
Post # 4
I personally think if you get off of birth control and aren’t preventing pregnancy you are pretty much trying to concieve. I don’t think you have to be a charter/tracker to be considered trying to have a baby. Now don’t get me wrong, I’m tracking things. I just think in the real world (vs. online communities) they don’t make the distinction like we do here. My husband was more of the mindset of just “having fun” in the beginning, even though I was paying attention to my cycle. Now he is more interested in timing and the technical stuff.
Post # 5
LadyBear: I am in the same boat as you! This would be our first cycle starting and we were definitely NTNP in the beginning. Now that I am waiting out this excrutiating two weeks, or just one week now I guess, I will begin charting if I don’t conceive this month. I have started documenting symptoms in case I do get my period and I will be trying to narrow down exactly when I ovulate. I have tried monitoring tempurature or anything like that yet, just wanting to see how the month goes.
Good luck to you and keep us posted. 🙂
Post # 6
LadyBear: I have a pretty good feeling this will be me lol. We plan to NTNP in October, but I can already tell when I’m ovulating and know I’ll be really anxious each month. After a few months I’m sure I’ll be a regular ol’ charter 🙂 Its kinda of exciting though!
Post # 7
I’m actually the opposite – I started out charting and actively TTC, but after one miscarriage and three unsuccessful cycles, we’re moving to more of a NTNP approach. I thought I would have an easier time if I was more “in control” of things, but it’s really just extra stressful for me to always be worrying about whether we’re hitting the fertile window, when exactly I’ve ovulated and to be hyper-aware of where I am in my cycle. So DH and I are going to take a few months and just put it in God’s hands. Hopefully that will be a little less stressful!
Post # 8
We kind of flip flop… We decided to NTNP and just “let it happen” but I’m so not that kind of person. I’m a bit of a control freak so I downloaded a free cycle tracking app and I definitely push for a little more BD-ing during my estimated fertile week. So I guess that puts us somewhere in the middle of NTNP and TTC since I’m not temping or using OPKs.
Post # 9
CocoLoco523: I kind of agree. I don’t really see the difference between the two except a time investment in charting. To me if you are having sex, no contraception = you want to get pregnant.
Post # 10
ermine: CocoLoco523: Oh, yeah, I consider both styles as attempts to have a baby; I was just sticking to WB lingo to differentiate between letting it play out and an active effort to increase chances of conception.
Post # 11
After NTNP from Septmber-February with no luck we started TTC. It generally takes twice as long if you arent tracing your fertile window and timing accordingly. So if most ppl would conceive in 3 months TTC, it would take 6 months NTNP
Post # 12
We started NTNP due to some MFI, so we could figure out things. We decided to try our bestest and started TTC in March. All this time, I have been charting, but out of those 4 cycles, we only hit the FW two times and given DH MFI it’s likely that we would have to look into IUI if we don’t get pregnant by September. Sometimes knowing when I’ll ovulate is both a good and bad thing because I’m looking forward to get some good quality BD, and if we don’t I have major dissapointment that we didn’t. My situation is different from most bees, so I am sure in your case knowing when you will ovulate is very important.