(Closed) anyone else planning without mom?

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
Member
5263 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m so sorry, that’s awful! I know your parents said no to the postponement, but what about doing a small ceremony with them and then spending some extra time with her if it’s really stressing you out? You could always have a big event later. 

I’m planning without my mom, but it’s by choice. We’ve never had similar taste, and we live in different cities. I showed her online pictures of the big ticket items (dress, venue) but she didn’t go with me to visit the venue and I ordered my dress offline. I was pretty clueless to start with, but read WeddingBee, Style Me Pretty, etc, until I kind of had an idea of what I was doing. 

Good luck! Remember your wedding should be a happy day… don’t feel like you have to have a huge bash just because it’s traditional!

Post # 4
Member
1033 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

*Hugs* I lost my mom seven years ago and think of her constantly while planning. I know how it feels to be doing this on your own.  I think it is sweet that she wants your wedding to go on as planned. Just take it one day at a time and remember to breathe. I’m sure your wedding will be beautiful and she will be thrilled just to be there.

Post # 5
Member
264 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I’m SO sorry that your mother is sick! I hope everything gets figured out soon and I pray for her health and recovery! 

I’m planning our wedding without my mother, also but it’s not because of her health. My mother has been married three times and never once had an actual wedding (just a JOP thing). For the first few months after I got engaged, she never seemed to “want” to help me make decisions, etc. When I confronted her about it, she confessed that she was way to overwhelmed and had no clue about planning a wedding! I guess that I can understand, but it’s been hard to not be able to call her about exciting wedding things I come across. 

I love the fact that your parents still want you to have your wedding on its original date. It’s so admirable of them! While I agree with lilyfaith about having a small ceremony with them, don’t you already have your venue locked in? If your mother isn’t better by the big day, maybe you should have a JOP ceremony with them and then do it all over for everyone else? That way your mom still gets to see you walk down and be announced. 

Post # 6
Hostess
18623 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m so sorry your mom is sick.  My mother passed away when I was in high school so I was planning all of it without her.  It is really tough.  I hope your mother is around for your wedding though, that will make it all worth it.

Post # 8
Hostess
18623 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

This is a duplicate post so I’m going to close it.  If you want to respond and to see the other responses, please go here!

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