(Closed) Anyone else receive an odd gift to guest ratio??

posted 7 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

i am so sorry!  i cannot believe that happened to you.  it almost seems like someone stole all the cards or something – it just seems so strange.  i don’t think you sound greedy at all!  people spend a lot of money on weddings, and most think they will at least get some of that back… more than $50 anyway!

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Um…I would be shocked by this. Doesn’t seem to balance out at all. I was mad because 3 guests didn’t bring anything. I couldn’t imagine almost all of them not bringing anything.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I would feel the same way you do and I don’t think your post sounds greedy at all. This ratio seems completely odd, especially the number of cards!

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I don’t think you sound greedy, and I am totally not in the camp of all guests must bring gifts, but that ratio does seem very strange…. Do you think maybe something happened to some of the gifts?

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

This happened to me too. My shower was so pathetic I wished that I hadn’t even had one!  We did receive a few cards the month after our wedding.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Did you have a lot of guests that had to travel? They may be sending a gift to your home.

It does seem a little surprising.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

In terms of etiquette, guests technically have a year to send wedding gifts. I’ve never been to a wedding where more than a few people actually brought their gift to the wedding. Can you imagine how annoying it would be to try to transport 85 gifts back after the reception? More will probably trickle in over the next couple months.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

You don’t sound greedy at all! I would be upset too however I’m expecting something similar. One side of my family isn’t really with it when it comes to etiquette and I imagine a lot of them won’t even think to bring gifts. 

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Wow thats awful imo – the bright side is you had a beautiful day and you married the partner of your dreams

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee

I know for the few weddings I’ve been to, almost no presents were brought to the wedding itself. Most were sent directly to the couple, and usually after the wedding! So, give it some time–but you’re right, it is odd.

Post # 15
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

I am so sorry this happened to you. I am also wondering with that many guests, if you didn’t receive all of the gifts that were given. Maybe check with some of your wedding party and/or family members to see if they packed some up for you and were going to give them to you later. The only thing that happened to us was that one couple (that was already drunk when they arrived) gave us $20.00 and they also wrote some very lude comments on one of our well wish cards (we shredded that card because it was so disgusting). Oh and he made an unscheduled toast about nothing to do with us. It was sad because they were supposed to be very close to my hubby and when they got married, we gave them a gift worth almost $400.00. They are very well off, so we kind of wondered about it, but I sent them a very nice thank you note anyway. I let my hubby read it and he said that he wouldn’t have been as nice with the thank you.

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