Post # 1
So I flew home today after spending nine great days with my SO and it’s now 1:14am and I can’t sleep because it feels strange not having him next to me.
We’ve been long distance for two and a half years of our almost four year relationship so I’m well and truly used to visits ending but now that there is less than two months left before I complete my contract at work and will be moving back to be with him it’s getting so hard.
I spent the afternoon crying before I got on my flight and have been sooking on the phone to him since I landed, I’ve always been kinda tough when it comes to dealing with the distance but the closer it gets to the moving date the harder it is for me to wait and be away from him, especially after such a nice visit.
Anyone else feeling down after the holidays? Do you have any advice on how to deal with these last few weeks?
Post # 3
I know the feeling well….i usually just mope a little and then settle back into my personal routine and the sadness goes away after a few days. Post holidays are always kind of a let down in LDRs
Post # 4
This visit really got to me, for some reason. We’ve been doing this for awhile, and normally, if I’m the one that is doing the leaving, it’s harder than if he is leaving (probably because I’m still in our hometown). I think the holidays multiply that by 10.
What I always try to do is have something fun lined up right after he leaves. For me, it was going to lunch with my aunt and cousin and then visiting my 23 month old nephew the next day. This way, I have something fun to distract me and I have something fun I can talk about with my FI.
It definitely is okay to mope! I give myself the 24 hour rule, and then I get going. I usually don’t use the entire 24 hours…sometimes just a few hours and then I do something fun.
Hope this helps! When is your next visit?
Post # 5
Very depressed here. He was here for 3 days got engaged Xmas night day 2 and he was gone poof…
Even more depressed with the Visa thing i cant really even plan much..sucks…
Post # 6
I finally got to sleep and then had a big sleep in (something I rarely do) and now that it’s daylight I feel alot better and am just focusing on starting to organise all the bits and pieces I need to before the move. In six months time I’ll probably be complaining about how living with him drives me up the walls lol
@TammyLynn12: I know it must suck having had such a short visit but congratulations on your engagement!
Post # 7
I put my FI on a plane today and here I am at 1:35am unable to sleep as well. My house is just so quiet and there’s no warm body here to keep me company. I’m hoping diving into work and wedding planning again will help me to get back on track.
Post # 8
Thanks..This prob sounds silly but I thought after we were engaged it would be easier because it was a definite..Long distance is so hard on me and the kids seeing them cry when he leaves kills both of us…:(
Post # 9
i’ve been up since 3 and i went to bed at 1am. He actually gave up his seat so the visit was a few extra days and we have a ticket for the next visit paid for already by the airline, which is awesome.
It’s hard sleeping and I just miss him. It was really hard this visit, i’m not sure if it’s cause he left and i was here alone. It seems easier when I fly back home from visiting him. I think the plane ride and the airport pickup thing gets you back into the swing of things.
I am so over this LD thing …
Post # 10
I said goodbye to my fiance yesterday morning (New Years day) after a week long visit. I don’t know when I’m going to see him next, possibly not until the wedding in 6 months. We’ve been doing long distance for 3 years, and it actually gets easier with time. Plus we just make ourselves really busy with friends and work after we see each other. Just keep focused on when you’ll be together next. It’s so much easier when there’s an end in site!
Post # 11
Yeah, I just dropped him off at the subway to head to the airport and I’m feeling a little blue. We had over a week together this time due to the snow (we usually do much shorter trips unless we’re traveling together) so it was harder than usual to say goodbye. But we’ll see each other again in two weeks. Until then I’ll just have to keep busy with work and catch up on the reading, etc. that I didn’t do while he was here (holy stack of newspapers, Batman!).
Post # 12
My Fi is here for another 6 days but I’m back to work and only get a few hours with him in the evening which I’m gratful for but I’m already dreading him leaving. @trentsgirl, I agree about it getting harder closer to the end. We are only 4 months away from being together again after 2 years + of being apart. I’m a bit anxious to get back to my regular schedule and catch up on my laundy, groucery, workouts but I feel like I already miss FI. I can’t wait till we have our regular lives back. I’m throwing myself a pity party here at work. *Sigh*
Post # 13
Last year, I had the holidays, our wedding, and my birthday all in 1 1/2 weeks span…and then DH left. Talk a big bummer! I’m not going to lie, I cried and moped for several days. Then I found everything imaginable to keep me busy. I also spent a great deal of time on skype talking to the hubs. That helped. Even though he wasn’t there with me, I could see him when I talked to him.
Post # 14
Thanks for the support, I’m still kind of sulking but it’s mostly when I’m at work which isn’t really anything new haha
Post # 15
@TammyLynn12: Congrats on your engagement! I got engaged on Christmas too, and am now back to my LDR misery.
This visit was hard for me too… Mine was a glorious extended 3 weeks of time with my man. By the time I had to come home, we were so back in sync. (It normally take a day or two after being apart) I also thought being engaged would make things easier. In some ways it has because I can distract myself with planning and daydreaming. I’m anxiously waiting for him to reset my ring, and at that point we’ll tell people (right now its a secret. We’ve only told our parents and siblings). So hopefully when I visit him next (some time in february) he’ll have my ring ready for me and then I can tell all my friends! 🙂 (and further distract me with a sparkly on my finger!)
Post # 16
Oh I’m sad too….I know we won’t see each other for 6 weeks and we’ve never gone more than 2 weeks. And I know that’s nothing compared to some other Bee’s on the long distance boards so I feel bad saying that. But I remember how much my stomach was in knots the week before, and then how much better I felt once we had our time together just one-on-one to connect. I have no idea how we’ll make it 3X longer than we’ve ever gone before.*sigh*
@TammyLynn12: @mrs ranunculus: OMG being engaged doesn’t make it easier? I’m shocked. I’d think that would make it seem like there was a definite purpose. But I guess in the end “hell is the absence of the beloved” as they say (I don’t remember who, maybe it was Plato?) so bling or no bling you still miss your honey.