(Closed) Anyone else sick of all this WEDDING SHIT?

posted 6 years ago in October 2012
Post # 3
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526 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@mags2233:  holy crap, that’s a big family! i would consider eloping too over calling 300 people, but does your dream wedding involve all these people? ultimately, it’s not about what’s easiest, but what you want your wedding to be, i think. we’re only inviting 170, and it’s not that much. 80 to the engagement party, and only a third have replied. i posted my own mini-rant about people who don’t rsvp, so i totally hear you on that one. sometimes a part of me wants to elope and not deal with anything, but i know that if i do that, i will one day look back and wish i had included all our friends and family and stuck out whatever difficulties. do you have a supportive bridal party or good friends who could help you make all those phone calls? don’t despair, it will all be worth it in the end if a big wedding is all you want! if you wholeheartedly want to elope, but not because of the challenges, but because that is really your dream wedding – go for it!

Post # 6
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4479 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I totally understand how you feel!  FI and I want to do just an immediate family thing and then a casual party with everyone at a later date when we have the time to plan something fun.  For the sake of family, we might have to bite the bullet and have a wedding.  The mere thought of it stresses me out.  I can’t imagine what you’re going through for something of this scale.  Yikes!  Best wishes to you.

Post # 7
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3472 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

Split the calls up between your parents, you, and your FI.  Make the mothers call each family’s list, then split the friends between you and your FI– that will make it much more managable to get through all the call backs. 

Post # 8
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526 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@mags2233:  i do realize your wedding is coming up, but there’s still quite a bit of time until october. i may have misinterpreted, but to me it seemed like you were seriously considering eloping, and some people do in fact elope last minute. but anyway, whetever you decide, i totally hear you on the lagging rsvps and “meh” bridesmaids. hope it all works out and more people rsvp than you expect and you don’t have to chase too many responses. good luck!

Post # 10
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2239 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’d split RSVP calls — your side doesn’t RSVP you call them/if his doesn’t he calls them or his mom does.  I don’t think it’s fair that you’d have to call his side too when you may not even know them.  lol My FI or FMIL will be calling anybody who doesn’t RSVP to our wedding.  Your FI has a huge family O_O

Our wedding will be much smaller and I’m worried about RSVPs to a certain point too.  I can’t imagine having to handle them with the amount of people you’d be dealing with.  Good luck!   

Post # 11
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1141 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I think your having the largest wedding I’ve come across on here. Ask for help rounding up the RSVP. I cannot believe that out of that many people you got back so few rsvp’s . Your going to need lots of help, time to ask the wedding party to lend a hand.

Post # 12
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1253 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

We talk about eloping everyday since last month. If we didn’t have so much paid for this far we would have just eloped and saved the money. I just can’t wait for this to be over. People don’t realize how much is involved with planning a wedding and how much support is needed from the family and friends. I’m sorry you are going through this. 

Post # 13
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684 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

A friend of mine informed her family-in-law through the grapevine if people don’t RSVP and they are not on the list, they will not be able to enter the reception area. She got all RSVPs before the deadline and there were no surprises. She was dead serious, though, there was a security team at the front with a list of people to allow. I think she went all comando because the monsters in law were driving her up the wall. I don’t think they’ve messed with her since.

Post # 14
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595 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I would have who ever is hosting the shower call the guests.  It’s not really your responsibility to do that.  If I forgot to RSVP to a shower, I would find it a little rude if the bride called me up and said, “are you coming to my shower?”  It seems quite gift grabby, but that’s just me I guess. 

As for eloping, you still have time for that if you really wanted to.  Cancel the local wedding and get married where ever you are honeymooning.  FI and I have talked about that several times.

Post # 16
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684 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

@mags2233: I never spare any money for my peace of mind. Money comes and goes, recovering from stress can take weeks or months. Your health you can’t get back. If you are really fed up and you still want the wedding, you could take a break for a couple of days. Going away for the week-end has always been helpful to us. Do what makes you happy as a couple and don’t talk about anything wedding at all. Just the two of you enjoying each others company might help you relax and remind you why you are doing this in the first place 🙂 Take a moment for yourself and each other, it’s important 🙂

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