Post # 1
Neither our Best Man nor our Maid of Honor were the speech-giving types, so we’ve told them they’re off the hook for it, and they seem really relieved. None of our parents have asked about givng speeches (they’re not really the type either) and we’re thinking about forgoing that as well. Fiance and I are planning to give a little “thank you all for being here and supporting us” speech, but that’s it. I didn’t think anyone would miss a million speeches, but now I’m wondering, though, if the occasion needs a little something like this. There’s plenty of good speakers who aren’t in any of the traditional roles, but I don’t know how one really goes about asking someone to give a speech or a toast for them.
Anyone else skipping most of the speeches? Do you think people will miss them? Anyone having someone outside the traditional speech-givers speak?
Post # 3
I think we are going a similar route. We will probably have some sort of “thanks for sharing this moment with us” kind of speech but we’ll probably tell the Best Man and MOH that the speeches are optional. We want our parents do say something during the ceremony (both sets of our parents have been married 30+ years) about what marriage means to them, which is more important to me than a speech during the reception.
Post # 4
I’ve been to 12 weddings, and not one of them had speeches. I didn’t even realize that people still did them until I saw pictures from a friend’s wedding.
Post # 5
I think the Best Man should say something. It can be short and sweet.
Post # 6
Dang, another thing I forgot about. Thanks for reminding me. But we will prob have them as I don’t think the BM nor my father would let us get away without.
Post # 7
We had none but a big THANK YOU to everybody before cutting the cake.
I learned the hard way. My best friend had HUGE EXPECTATIONS on my speech as a MOH. The best man had a very similar speech to mine regarding the bride…crazy similar like he read my mind…i freaked, i froze…i screwed up. She didn’t forgive me. 10 yrs. down the drain on one single night. I tried to make up to her but she had none of it.
Post # 8
We aren’t doing any speeches.
We will say a thank you just before cutting the cake though to everyone for coming to spend our day with us.
@munch: I am sorry your “friend” has a bad attitude toward you. It is not your fault, and she should realize that.
Post # 9
We’re not having speeches, though we will do a quick thank you. It’s traditional here for guests who can’t make it to send cards or messages, and for those to be read out at speeches time – we may do that. But that’s it! Speeches make people nervous, and besides that we’ve always found them a little cringey!
Post # 10
I highly doubt we’ll have any speeches at all other than brief thank yous, unless someone SPECIFICALLY requests to make one. There might be toasts, who knows, but generally I think we’ll be too busy mingling and drinking to bother with long drawn out verbage.
Plus, I’ve already had one BM beg me not to make her say anything, not that I would, but it paints a picture.
Post # 11
We limited ours to just a few people, but I would never have skipped them! They were so funny and sweet and everyone commented about how much they loved hearing them. We limited them so that they didn’t go too long, though! Here’s a pic of my FIL’s speech–we had some great moments during them that I wouldn’t have wanted to miss.
Edit: Are we assuming speeches and toasts are the same thing? I was thinking they were one in the same until I read another poster’s comment about not doing speeches, but doing toasts. I suppose it’s more correct to call ours “toasts.”
Post # 12
We’re having one by the Best Man (my fiance’s brother) and one by the MOH (my sister). We’ll be doing a thank you speech also. My parents weren’t really interested in doing one, and my fiance’s dad constantly says inappropriate things as he has no filter, so we didn’t want him doing one!
Post # 13
I have two MOHs and my FI has 2 Best Men, so I think we’re going to have the girls do a short toast together and the guys do a short toast together. We’re eating dinner kinda late as it is, and I want to make sure we get to dinner as soon as possible 🙂 Also, I think they will all be more comfortable giving a “joint” toast, since none of them are big time public speakers.
Post # 14
We’re doing a thank you, but that’s it. Usually, listening to speeches at weddings makes me feel nervous and uncomfortable for the speaker and usually we have to listen to all the stories that no one wants to remember! Many people have tried to convince us that it isn’t a wedding without speeches, but I’m stickin to my guns on this one! 🙂
Post # 15
I don’t think I’m going to plan for any speeches, if someone stands up and gives one, sure, by all means, but I’m not going to ask anyone ahead of time.
Post # 16
we only had our bm give a speech… just because my husband gave a speech for his wedding, they’re brothers, and he wanted to do the same for us. my moh doesn’t like public speaking (and since i know i’ll be her moh some day since she’s my sister, i want her to remember this so i don’t have to give a speech at her wedding).
my sister was also moh for her friend recently and since she didn’t want to give the speech, she asked the bride’s brother to give it. it was really nice since he’s also very close to her.