Anyone Else Start TTC And Then Just…. Stop?

posted 3 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@Mrs_Amanda:  we did. we TTC’d for a few months and then i freaked out about the financial part and we decided to hold off for awhile. we’re actively preventing right now but we’ve talked about TTC and we agree that once we try again, it if happens, then great but if not, we’ll be ok with it.

Post # 5
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765 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Mrs_Amanda:  I’m like this. We’re actively trying but every once in a while I get a fleeting moment of “This is such a bad idea…”

You’re never really ready. that’s the bottom line. But you can be NOT ready at all, and thats ok too. Wish I had better advice to give but you really aren’t alone here. I constantly say it just needs to happen so I can stop vacillating. and the more time you have to think on it the more moments you have of “yes I want this/no I dont” I will be thrilled once it happens but I’m content now as it is just as much.

Post # 6
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291 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I understand where you are coming from. DH and I have a similar outlook about having a baby. If it happens, great but if it does not, we will have a good life too with travelling and other fun things to experience.

We talked about it in length and we agreed we will try for 1 year TTC. We are much older (DH-43 and I am 36 almost 37) and so it made sense for us to put a deadline.

I honestly can see that I can be happy either way.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

We were trying for 5 months when I started to get cold feet. It wasn’t happening and I was getting tired of stressing about it. A few days later, I found out I was pregnant. I was really happy but terrified. Unfortunately I had a miscarriage and then was obsessed with getting pregnant again. Now I’m kind of back in the “if it happens, it happens” stage. It’s such a huge change to your life when you have a child! It’s hard to wrap my head around sometimes even though I know for sure that I want kids. 

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